The old man wants to take the grandchildren, daughter-in-law does not allow to take, I think the daughter-in-law must have their own reasons, will not be allowed to take the grandchildren of the mother-in-law for no reason, perhaps the mother-in-law's concept of parenting and the daughter-in-law has a very different, perhaps the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law relationship is not good, maybe it is the daughter-in-law to understand the old man's hard work. In any case, if your daughter-in-law doesn't want to take care of your grandchildren, then you should be a leisurely old man and dance or go out to travel more, so it's not better.
So, in response to this problem, if the elderly must want to take the grandchildren, and the daughter-in-law does not allow, we can try to do this:1.put their own heart of the idea with the son to say a little, and then let the son to go to the daughter-in-law to communicate with the specific reasons for not letting them take, and try to choose a way that is acceptable to both, so that the mother-in-law to help take the grandchildren.
2. If it is said that the daughter-in-law herself is at home with the child and is capable enough to bring up the child well, then as a mother-in-law, she should not interfere with her daughter-in-law's family's situation. If the old man is worried about his grandchildren, he can just visit them more often and play with the children.
This is the case with my friend's family, where her mother-in-law offered to help with the grandchildren so that her daughter-in-law could go to work. But my friend thinks there is no need for that, there is no plan to work now, no work for a year or two is not so bad that there is no food, no contact with the mother-in-law a lot less trouble.
3. If the daughter-in-law's attitude is more resolute, then as a mother-in-law should not be too insistent on this matter, after all, they are the children's mother, people's children, people make the decision.
My experience:
I used to be busy at work, and then my mother-in-law was reluctant to help me with the child, she meant to let me send the child to her hometown, she was willing to help me with. But the good thing is that we don't live very far from my mother-in-law's hometown, so I put the child in my hometown to let my mother-in-law help bring up the child, and then go back to see the child every week. The kids are also very happy in the countryside, hanging out with their grandparents every day and occasionally going to the field to pick fruit.
So, there is a solution for everything, and you can make adjustments according to your specific situation.