A happy marriage will make both people more tolerant and more extended and calm. Although all happy families are similar, only two people who really love each other can make life happier and happier. In fact, you never know what kind of life you want, as long as we never live the life you want, but as long as it is clear that the person around you wants to spend this life together, please hold her little hand.
1. Being willing to listen to each other's thoughts and chat with each other is like opening the door to a new world. A Fang and her husband have been married for eight years. They have a five-year-old daughter. Their relationship has always been very good. Every time they meet in the park, both of them feel that they look so satisfied and quiet.
A Fang said that as we get closer, the two of them will have endless words. Even some very simple trivial things will be very interesting if expressed through the other person's mouth. As it happens, Wang Heng is a steady person in front of others, but he is particularly humorous in front of his family. Even if a family of three goes to an ordinary ecological park on holiday, it looks very happy. But the key to their emotional refrigeration is also chatting before going to bed at night.
They prefer to be pregnant with each other and then talk about what happened on this day, big and small, between colleagues at work. Even if the other person can't meet any substantive proposal, just listening can give another person a different feeling. A Fang and both feel that it is a special happiness to have a lover around to talk to.
Many people don't want to communicate after marriage, and often don't even bother to say a thoughtful word, let alone communicate at ordinary times. In this way, the hearts of husband and wife will be farther and farther away. Such a marriage must also be weak. Once you meet someone who can open your heart, your marriage life will inevitably fall apart.
2. Many people have been married for many years, and the lack of communication between husband and wife leads to a lack of mystery. They can no longer try their best to prepare gifts for each other as they did at that time, and the other party has lost the joy and joy they had before giving gifts. True love is romantic. Although the marriage life is fragmentary, it also needs some new ideas to adjust. Otherwise, the repeated life every day will easily fall into a tired predicament, which will make them more and more "disgusted with each other."
On each other's birthday or your wedding anniversary, why not carefully prepare some unexpected surprises, even a small gift, which can impress each other for a long time. Sometimes it's not that marriage has no feelings, but that a stable life does not need style and romance.
No matter how old a woman is, she must be cherished and cared for by her lover from the heart. I will never forget the happy expression of my eldest sister in the company office, who is almost 50 years old and suddenly received flowers from her husband on her birthday. Only by paying the greatest attention to your other half and making her feel happy can your marriage get better and better.
3. Love in the way that ta likes. Zhang Defen, a psychologist at ta, once read in an article that her family is a pair of good people, diligent and housekeeping, gentle and patient with their children, but her parents have been immersed in incomprehensible loneliness all their lives.
She said that the goal of mother's life all day is to keep every part of the house in order and take care of the children, while dad is a calligraphy lover, interested in writing and everything in classical style. But my mother keeps walking around the kitchen and living room like a busy gyro picture every day, but she has no time to stop and listen to the sound of guqin with her father.
Love each other in the way she likes, which is the most precious thing in marriage. Sometimes we feel that we have paid a lot, but what we have paid is not what the other party wants, just like I want a peach and you hand me a watermelon. Although the melon is big and sweet, it is not what you want.
Many times, everyone is too obsessed with loving each other in their own way, rather than loving each other in an acceptable way. I tried so hard, but the other party didn't feel anything. In the end, the good expectation for marriage disappeared. Only when two people communicate in a mutually acceptable way can they like each other more and more.
4. You can see the contribution of 4. Ta, therefore, there is no hard and fast rule for a satisfactory and happy marriage. It must be a bouquet for Valentine's Day and a birthday present. These are all manifestations of love, but when two people are together, they must pay attention to each other and feel with their hearts, so that the couple can have deeper and deeper feelings.
Sister Lu Xiao married her husband 1 1 year. I met her husband. Your name is Muni, and you are silent, but Sister Lu Xiao always looks happy. She said that after so many years of marriage, they seldom go out to travel, and he will not be brilliant, sweet-mouthed, and even do housework for her, but she can feel this love.
Sister Lu Xiao said that happiness is like knowing when drinking water, not showing it to others, but realizing it by yourself. Her husband is very tolerant of her, and even if a deer likes it, she will take it back for her to eat.
He only buys clothes and trousers once or twice a year, and doesn't want anything a little more expensive. But when he sees Sister Lu's clothes look better, no matter how expensive they are, he will buy them for her, and he will pay without blinking, so as not to let her know the hardships of working hard outside and give him the greatest sense of security ... So even though she has been married for more than ten years, Sister Lu is still an inexperienced little girl, and this is the happiest thing.
Marriage is a kind of practice. Only by mastering the skills and doing it with your heart will you be happy. Many times, I don't know what kind of life I want, but the only thing I know is that this person around me wants to hold hands for a lifetime. Trivial daily life may distract the attention of perfect love, but worse than that, there will be no feelings coming back in marriage. This kind of life is terrible for me. Do you want a day with chicken feathers? I don't want it anyway.