As old people get older, they don't remember as well as they did when they were younger, and they can't remember many things. The legs and feet are not as sharp as when they were young, and they don't want to add trouble to their children, but they are also used to the freedom of living alone.
In the past two years, an 88-year-old grandfather came to the clinic to see a doctor, and every time he came, we would ask who accompanied him. Every time the answer is that he came alone, more contact, he told his story. When he was young, he was a soldier and a village secretary. When he retired, he had a pension, and he divided the money among his sons and daughters. But his sons and daughters were still unwilling to take care of him when he was sick. Whenever he speaks of sadness, his seemingly resolute eyes glisten with tears.
He planted ginger and garlic, and when he harvested it, he picked it up and sold it in the county. The first time he was sick, no one asked, at first he was afraid of bothering his family not to let them accompany. But in the past two years, his health has been deteriorating, and his hands are as thin and bony as an old tree pole that is about to wither away.
The village people suggested that he spend his old age in a nursing home, and he felt that if he had a child and a daughter and still went to a nursing home, it would not be a disgrace to the child's face. He is still thinking about his children at this time, but who is thinking about him?
My mother-in-law was also widowed in middle age and lived alone with her two children, who are now married. The mother-in-law, she is a very demanding person, we have some practices she is not accustomed to, inevitably there will be nagging. Occasionally, I would argue with her a few times, and then I might have been influenced by her too. I became more diligent, no longer sleep. Learned to cook, often in the house hygiene now.
My mother-in-law doesn't live with us, but we see each other every day. My mother-in-law helped me with both of my children, and I went to work shortly after giving birth. The old man's idea was that it was their job to bring up the grandchildren, as it should be. I'm quite grateful to my mother-in-law for getting me through the new mom period. Let me go to work to reduce the pressure of life, if the old man to help us look after the child is deserved, then we honor our parents is even more deserved, is not it?
People have the right to choose their own way of life, the elderly like to live independently, and young people living together will produce a lot of conflicts. After all, the generation is like a mountain, living habits and concepts are not the same. The young people also need their own private space.
Foreigners know this well, and after their children get married, their parents can do what they like, such as traveling, planting flowers, and so on. When they get old, they go to a nursing home and enjoy their old age without caring about what other people think.
I read a story on the Internet about dozens of old people living together in their twilight years. They rented two houses in Beijing and lived together in groups. They cooked together, chatted together, and square danced. There is no mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflict there, no gap between two generations of parenting concepts. Older people living together can square dance, sing in chorus, and practice Tai Chi.
All good deeds and filial piety first, parents have entered the old age, regardless of the choice of a suitable lifestyle, we should be filial to them. They raised us when they were young and gave up a lot of things, and they can pursue the life they like when they are older.
Both of our parents help us unconditionally when we need them, so we should take good care of them to accompany them when they are not feeling well or have illnesses.
Love is mutual, they give their all to us and we have to repay them with filial piety.