Is this life hard? Of course. However, if you think this is all, you are wrong, because life is much more bitter than this.
Birth, illness and death, lofty aspirations, complaining about others, parting in love, ups and downs of five yin, which one is not human suffering?
As Scott Peck said in The Road Few People Walk: Life is full of hardships.
However, no matter how hard life is, we must continue, and life must always continue.
You never know, you should learn to add these three sweets to yourself.
The first candy: a positive attitude
Mentality determines choice, and choice determines fate.
A positive and optimistic attitude can add hope to a bitter life.
There is a big sister selling pancake fruit at the gate of the community, who always greets customers cheerfully.
Her left face is delicate and pretty, and her right cheek is covered with burn scars.
Once I chatted with her, I realized that she had opened a small restaurant with her husband. As a result, she was reduced to ashes by a big fire, and her husband was also killed in that fire. The originally happy little life came to an abrupt end.
Sure enough, you didn't even say hello before life gave you a fatal blow.
Although she survived, when she woke up and looked at her unrecognizable face in the mirror, the first thing she did was commit suicide.
"The result is not dead." She smiled heartily and said, "Later, I only looked at my left face in the mirror, which was very uncomfortable. Then I was more optimistic. Why do I have to be ugly and add to myself? "
Perhaps this is the simplest survival philosophy of all living things: if there are two faces of bitterness and joy in life, why should we stare at the pain and ignore the happiness on the other side?
According to the definition of Festinger's law:
Life 10% is made up of what happens to you, and the other 90% is determined by your reaction to what happens.
There are many things in life that we can't control, but we can decide our state of mind, whether to face bravely or retreat, whether to be positive or depressed, which depends on ourselves. Different choices will bring different results.
As long as you don't feel bitter in your heart, life seems to be less bitter.
Helen Keller once said, "I cried and cried until I had no shoes to wear, until one day, I saw someone without feet ..."
The vicissitudes of life, each with its own bitterness, will be relieved after watching too much.
Fu Gui in Yu Hua's novel To Be Alive has suffered all his life, and his relatives have passed away. Old Fu Gui lives with an old cow and is still strong.
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Nothing is more difficult than living, and nothing is better than living.
Bitterness is not the worst result. As long as you are alive, there is great hope.
The second candy: a wide range of interests.
Cultivating your hobbies and enjoying them is the best cure for life's suffering.
A friend who seldom pays attention to videos has a video of an ordinary farmer couple, which is often recommended to people around him.
The protagonist of the video is an ordinary peasant couple in Xia 'ao Village, mayu town, Ruian City, Zhejiang Province. This couple can be regarded as a model of knowing how to add sugar to life.
The husband suffered from severe depression because of a car accident, and his wife tried her best to make him happy. Later, the couple taught themselves "ghost dance" and danced in the fields after farm work. The husband finally walked out of the haze and smiled.
Now, their Tik Tok account has more than 1.6 million fans, and dance videos have been forwarded over 3 million, which has been well received by a wave of mainstream media.
"With work and dance, our life is really good now!" Xiaoying and his wife said this.
You see, dancing is their hobby. It helps them get rid of their pain.
Hobbies are so magical and full of healing energy.
Wang Yangming said: "Everything is the projection of human heart."
Life is hard, but as long as you have love and do well, you are not lonely.
For example, exercise is considered as the simplest way to be happy. Running, playing ball, swimming, climbing mountains ... Only by moving yourself can endorphins and dopamine in the body quickly dispel anxiety and make the mood relaxed and happy.
For example, travel, change the environment, change the mood. People often say that the scenery is elsewhere. When you go out, you will find that life is not only the immediate suffering, but also the distant mountains and seas and human things.
Another example is reading. There are many hardships in life, and there are answers in the book. Reading can change fate and help people out of pain.
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If you are always complaining, the result will only get worse.
If you learn to run a hobby, it's like opening a window for yourself, and the fresh air will blow away troubles and haze.
With air movement, you can't go wrong reading more books when you have nothing to do.
The third candy: the courage to change
I read such a question on the Internet: Life is so hard, what should I do?
There is a burning answer that has been highly praised:
Nothing in life is not bitter, and struggle can make it sweet!
Yes, knowing that life is hard, but still loving life and daring to change it, such a person is a real hero.
Just like Dr. Huang, who became popular on the Internet two days ago because of his paper, he was tortured by Where Are You Going, but with great courage and hard work, he successfully rewritten his destiny.
He said: "I hope to have another chance to know the world again and live up to the hardships I have suffered in my life." Finally, if you can do something to make other people's lives better, you will earn it in this life. "
In fact, what makes people deeply moved is never the suffering itself, but the perseverance, courage to change and unremitting efforts during the suffering.
Life is full of suffering, and suffering cannot be called wealth. Only by striving to grow up in suffering can we turn the suffering we have experienced into wealth in life.
As Meyer Musk said in the book "Life is Me": "Your life will experience seemingly endless darkness, you will experience many blows, and finally you will recover faster and faster!"
Life is really bitter, but suffering is not the whole of life.
Positive action is a good medicine to cure all emotions.
Thought determines action, and action determines the result.
Only by taking action can we take a step to change our lives.
final result
Wood heart in the book "larks call all day", there is such a widely circulated poem:
"Time and tide wait for no man, I never spare time."
Indeed, the years are ruthless and life is hard, but isn't life a process of constant escalation and blame?
Life may be bitter, but please believe that your efforts today will make tomorrow's life sweeter, and unremitting efforts will definitely make life sweeter and sweeter.
All the obstacles, knots and things that you feel you can't get through now will become a dish of snacks after a meal in the future, and you will finally be freed from laughter and laughter.
I hope you have enough courage to face the hardships of life, stay awake and add sugar to the hardships.
Because, the roads you have traveled and the hardships you have suffered will eventually become your happy years.
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