"The extramarital lover said a lifetime is too long" means: only want to cherish the moment, love in the moment, do not want to be long.
Tell me about my girlfriend's experience:
My girlfriend is a very strong person, and she doesn't dare to be lonely. After joining the work, because it is doing clerical work, and the leadership contact is also very frequent. Slowly the two established a relationship.
At first, the two were as happy as glue. And, when nothing is going on, they go out and travel, and their girlfriends are immersed in happiness. Later, BFF said this: "Honey, I want to be with you for the rest of my life". The leader said, "A lifetime is too long, just be happy in the moment."
But there is no impermeable wall, the girlfriends husband knows this matter, and then the two people make divorce. The leader's side is also a big deal, although his wife did not make a divorce, but often look for the trouble of the girlfriends, and finally also lost their jobs.
So, the affair was originally an improper relationship, a lifetime or not, the moment also, should not continue. You should focus on your children and your family. But if you really love him, then it's only right that you should make a choice instead of hurting people like this.