The Law of Conservation of Energy: Make Boys Crazy About You
The Law of Conservation of EnergyHow to be a man's moonlight? Let him can not leave you, - life can not forget you? In fact, it is very simple, with me to learn, complete these four steps can be.
First of all, before the operation, you have to remember these three words the first sentence: love follows the law of conservation of energy, to he can not leave you, you have to be able to leave him, more independent than him. The second sentence: so that people can not leave, must be "soft control" rather than "hard control". If you want him to stay away from you, not to chain him, but to give him a comfortable space. The third sentence: to get a person's heart, you must first pay, to learn to provide him with emotional value.
Lock the demand, precise strike
If you can understand the meaning of these three sentences, you can continue to learn with me.
Step 1: Target the needs, strike precisely
You have to know that a person must have an inner vulnerability of the missing places, such as some people need to be recognized, some people need companionship.
If you can catch him in these inner missing places, and then fulfill his needs, he will not be able to leave you.
To accurately capture these dead ends of his, we can only set words with a purpose, try to naturally guide him to self-exposure, for example, you want to understand each other's family of origin is not happy, you can say so
Fill his inner needs
"It's been a long time since I've been home, I miss my parents ah, and you, how long has it been since I've been home, do you miss them?"
Another example would be to ask him, when it is obvious that he is experiencing mood swings, "Have you been through something like this before?"
By naturally linking the questions back and forth, you can trigger his memories.
Step 2: Give him what he wants and fill his need
With this first step, we've got a full picture of what he wants
and then we can capitalize on that information to take action.
For example, learning that he grew up while being allowed to do what he liked; only! He can only go by his parents' standards, and his inner childishness has been suppressed and never released. Then you can be his playmate and pull him along on adventures he hasn't experienced before.
Guide him to invest in you
If he's not recognized for his talent and has never been recognized by the people around him, then you should praise him and pat him on the back and make him look like a fan girl.
Make him feel like you're the only one who understands him.
Step 3: Guide him to invest in you
The first two steps are all about you, and when it comes to this step, you have to let him pay, and the more he invests in you, the more he can't stay away from you, and that's the gambler's mentality in relationships.
So you have to guide him to invest in you, here are two ways:
One is whenever he is good to you, you give him good back! Feedback, for example, when he gives you a gift, you occasionally give him a er gift back or give him other little surprises, which is like a coin operated blind box for him.
Creating uniqueness
Another one is that as soon as he treats you badly, you immediately alienate yourself from him and make him suffer a bit.
He will then be afraid not to treat you badly. This gives him a psychological hint that the only way to get your love is to be nice to you.
But to let a man can not leave you, is not enough.
Because there's an emotion missing from it: fear.
So there's step four: create uniqueness, cause fear
We can't stay away from another person not just because that person meets your needs, but the main reason is actually that he's the only one who can meet those needs, and there's no other alternative around you.
Causes fear
And that fear will make you desperate to hold on to him and start brutally suffering.
So this last step requires you to go and suggest to him from time to time that
you are the only one who can understand him and heal him.
For example, when you two are getting along well, you can say to him, "You're so stubborn, I don't know if there's anyone but me who can put up with you".
On top of that, you need to give him the feeling that you can leave him at any time, which will make him want to hold on to you even more.