As a primary school educator, we have the responsibility and obligation to let every child be true to himself on the road of growth and let them find the value and significance of life growth. After reading this book, I feel that to be a qualified leader, you must be able to hold three keys: deep listening, deep understanding and deep love, and open the heart lock on the road to growth.
Listen deeply, so that there are unlimited possibilities for growth.
Recently, after careful observation of the students in the class, I found that many students can talk, but few can listen carefully. Even a dozen students in a class of 50 people are very active but always ask repeated questions.
Reflecting on more than 60 classes I have listened to this semester, many classroom teachers and students seem to have wonderful questions and answers. In fact, most teachers are not good at listening, and they always can't catch the bright spots of students.
If you think about it carefully, the consequences of not listening deeply are very serious and will make your growth impetuous. To listen deeply, I think we should be quiet, active and moderate.
One quietness refers to real listening, two movements refers to moving and emotionalization, and three moderation refers to moderation in attitude, expression and guidance. Hear your innermost voice, just listen, without making any evaluation, judgment, praise or evaluation.
When you are in a state of psychological stress, someone is really listening to you, without any comments, not trying to distract you from your responsibilities, nor trying to reform you. This feeling is really great, the pressure is reduced, and the fear, guilt, despair and confusion you have experienced can be expressed. This is considerate, sympathetic and caring listening.
Quiet can make wisdom, quiet can make wisdom, and only by opening the heart lock can growth be infinite.
Deep understanding makes growth have a warm sunshine all the way.
In teaching management, the most troublesome thing for us is all kinds of problem students. If you calm down and walk into them, you will find that they all have a problem with their parents. Their behaviors, such as fidgeting, irritability, swearing, aggression, deep autism, introversion, etc., all have the shadow of their parents. In the face of such students, only a deep understanding can effectively accompany them to grow up.
First, listen to him. Facing the endless problems of individual students, we should deal with them coldly, so as to listen to them and express our understanding attitude in the process of listening.
Second, get close to him. If you are a same-sex student, you can choose to hug or hold the child's hand to express your understanding.
Finally, feel the heart. For their inner feelings, we must sincerely affirm and form a * * * voice.
Three-step deep understanding will quickly open students' hearts and let them feel the warmth of teacher love.
Go deep into * * * to make growth have upward power.
Because I work in the student management center, there are many problems that the class teacher can't handle, and students will eventually gather around me. In the face of these children, I always open their hearts by giving two gifts and making three feelings.
Gifts, polite communication with him. In the face of angry, excited or scared children, I always extend my big hand to shake hands with their little hands, and at the same time I will call out their names: hello, XX. This can quickly close the distance between us.
Second, politely let him sit down. I never let students stand. When I sit and talk, I will find a stool for him to sit on. Many children's eyes change as soon as they sit down and look at me.
Three * * * feelings, put yourself in his shoes. Faced with the problem, he can always put himself in the other's shoes to think about it. Slowly, his heart is close, and his heart is untied, which has changed many children.
Everyone's road to growth is not smooth sailing, especially in the context of knowledge explosion, materialistic cross-flow and floating people's hearts. It is particularly important for teachers to make good use of these three keys: deep listening, deep understanding and deep affection.
Dear teachers, let's understand and care more, grow up with our children and be a good teacher with warmth, temperature and tenderness!