Must correct you a little, fifty years old is not an old lady, they are still young, I'll be honest, around more than 50 years old, divorced too much, this is nothing unusual and unexpected, away, basically can not live. Even sixty years old, belonging to the young old lady, divorce and remarriage, but also more normal. Many people will say, most of the life down, why the old have to leave it? With whom to live is not the same? The words are reasonable, but everyone, have their own way of living, so, can not be forced.
Why so many people in their fifties and sixties will still be divorced? The reason does not lie in the following several:
1, most of the fifty-six divorced, basically no desire to go on. Married for a long time, the two people know too much, you ass a cock, know what to shit, life is really nothing new.
What's more, some couples, after most of their lives, even each other are not willing to talk, and even less willing to bed, this marriage, there has been no significance, away from, on the contrary, is a good thing.
2, a lot of people, endured most of his life, the child is finally big, can leave. There are some, the child is still small, there is no feelings, then want to leave, just, in order to take care of the child's feelings, has not dared to leave, but the child is 18 years old, after the examination of the university, relief, they are also decisively left.
At this point, they just happen to be 50 or 60 years old. The civil affairs department used to have public data, every year, after the end of the college entrance examination, to the civil affairs department to do the divorce formalities are particularly large.
3, the idea of liberation, the pursuit of new patterns of life. There are also some women who are about to retire, idle, children are also older, they are lonely and empty cold.
Plus, society is full of temptations, young, has always wanted to try the fresh love, looking forward to reappear, once the couple's marriage has existed in name only, renewed the second spring of the tide of thought will emerge, all right to go to the square to dance, sing, eat and eat, these long time, on the jumping, singing, eating out of the problem.
So, women in their 50s, marriage is a can, this stage, is very easy to derail or divorce.
4, domestic violence causes women to divorce . Many people, who have been living in a domestic violence (action and verbal domestic violence, some even do not speak, cold violence) in the marriage, the first period not to leave, is to take care of the child's feelings, and, the child does not agree with the parents away.
In addition, forced to work and economic pressure, as well as social opinion pressure, the fear of leaving, they and their children are being pointed out that they are a divorced woman.
But then, the children are older, and even each have their own families, they also want to understand, live most of their lives, really should be for their own life back, so, at this time, figured it out, and then left.
What's more, at this point in time, it's almost time to retire, and there's not that much pressure. I know a few women in my hometown, are because of their husbands often domestic violence, and the relationship with their husbands is not good, and now the children are older, no longer worried about the harm caused by divorce on the children, when the children went to college, graduated, or got married, it is decisively left.
And, at this time, the children are also older, figured out, support the mother divorce, get the children's strong support, divorce to their own life back to the courage also have.
So, for women in their fifties and sixties now divorce, is a normal thing, many people, are really can not go on, will be most of the life, do not want to will be marriage again.
If the first half of the marriage is a failure, has been so consumed, is for the sake of the children and reluctant to pass the words, and now the children are big, the second half of the life, should also give themselves a live back, therefore, there are so many fifty-sixty year old women divorced.
So, fifty-six years old remarried women, how has it been? Happy? In fact, there is a large part of the woman, after the divorce, did not look for, especially in rural areas, after the divorce, they are alone.
Inside the city, after the divorce, and then look for, or more, they remarried, in fact, only a part of the people, living is still relatively happy, there are some people, through the remarriage, only to develop, it turned out that the marriage is just so one thing, with whom to live the same, and some, and even worse than the ex-husband, at this time, only to regret, but regret it is too late, because the world does not have the medicine of regret.
Think about it, fifty-six years old woman, basically no advantage, even if fifty-six years old man, to find, will find a thirty-forty year old woman, will not look for a woman with their own age, you fifty-six years old, can find another person of the same age, the marriage with the flowers as well?
Therefore, fifty-six-year-old woman divorce, remarriage, facing a big problem.
Especially will face the two sides of the children's interference, property tug of war things, this age, remarriage, is definitely not a matter of two people, but two families, or even a lot of family things, very troublesome, therefore, really happy, and not many.
So, fifty-six years old woman, divorce, remarriage, must think clearly, consider clearly, you will face a lot of problems. Most of your life as a couple has passed, sometimes think about it, you look again, start a new marriage, can still live like a flower? It's just like that, so if it's not particularly true that you can't live with it, bear with it, and you'll be 70 or 80 years old, and enter the yellow earth.
We have a little old lady on our side who is in her sixties, and her husband is divorced. The little old lady is a very strong person, and more will dress up, looks just like forty or fifty years old! She owns a small supermarket and has a storefront for rent, so she's not short of money! Her old man is an honest man, and not much ability, a lifetime of work in the factory, retired on the family a suite. Fortunately, their son is very competitive, after graduating from college in our side opened a kitchen and bathroom supplies store, their own boss!
The little old lady was divorced the year before last and the old man is 18 years. There are two reasons for the divorce, one is the idle old man is honest, no talent. The second is that she has a good match outside! The old man died of illness, she felt that there is an opportunity to get on the throne.
After the divorce, the old man is too honest, to be home a suite, small supermarkets and storefronts to the little old lady. The little old lady hired someone to watch the store, he went to the home of the good-looking inside! The family has a child has a daughter, to her very not treat, especially his daughter-in-law, almost and her three days a big noise two days a small noise, the day really can not live! She discussed with her lover, the two moved to a small supermarket to go, a small supermarket upstairs has a small warehouse, you can live! Her lover also agreed, but his children do not agree, because the old man's retirement salary is very high. They put forward conditions, the old man can go to the supermarket, but the payroll card and the old man's money must stay. The old man is also quite rich, the deposit is more than 200,000 yuan!
Can the little old lady say yes? It's not possible! So every day, but the noise is useless, but also noisy, they are many ah! She came back to her son to help, but her son does not care about her shit! So she was kicked out again.
But now the little old lady is not bad, in the small supermarket to see the store, nothing and others quarrel, play cards, drink, drink after the madness, smack things, day by day the life of the small happy!
First of all, fifty or sixty years old should not be called an old lady, now the average life expectancy is getting higher and higher, people live in good conditions, but also pay extra attention to maintenance, people also appear to be younger than the actual age of some of the time more than fifty years old to give the feeling that people are also middle-aged.
Now that the divorce rate is high is a common problem, why single out women in their fifties and sixties to say it?
1. Age and gender
People born in the 50s and 60s usually get married around the age of 20, and if they feel that the two don't have the right personality, or if there are any other reasons, they should have gotten divorced long ago, and wouldn't have dragged it out so late. So why choose to get divorced after more than 30 years of marriage?
In fact, the concept of marriage in those days was relatively conservative, and most people felt that divorce was a dishonorable thing, and they would not take this step until it was absolutely necessary, and divorced women would be relatively subject to greater pressure from public opinion! So when they encounter problems in the marriage, most of them will tend to hold back, even if there can not be reconciled with the contradictions, but also accumulated in the heart. But with the progress of the times, people have more thinking about the marital relationship, divorce and divorced men and women can also hold a more just and objective vision to see, so in the past to hold back things in the present do not have to continue to hold back. You can choose to pursue a new happiness~
2. The right to pursue happiness
In marriage, most people will face a variety of problems, many couples are also in the stumbling all the way through. Many people will think: half of their lives have come, make do!
But is this notion really true? We have expectations of every couple to grow old together, but as people know, we are not parties to the marriage, do not know the sweet and sour. The only thing we can do is to ask others to do what they want to do.
Limited by age, do not dare to make any changes, to produce the mentality of getting by, and aggrieved themselves, just to maintain the integrity of the family, this is right?
Some children may not understand this approach and feel that their parents are selfish and make family relationships complicated. But I hope the children will also consider the issue from their parents' point of view. When we choose a partner, we are also picking and choosing, not willing to settle for anything? So why not give them the right to choose again!
We often advise young people to "seize life", "do not waste time". However, why do many people look at the 50- to 60-year-old woman, who also wants to seize life and not waste her time, in a different way?
Regardless of how old they are, older people have the same aspirations for their lives as younger people. The difference is that after all these years, older people may have a clearer idea of what they want.
Children need to respect the emotional needs and choices of the elderly
In the past, parents have given so much to their children that even as adults, they still take their parents' service for granted. Children leave their parents and go far away from home in order to pursue their ideals and realize their ambitions.
One would think that such a child has a future. The child has to fight and help bring up the child becomes the obligation of the old people. And when the elderly finally make a choice for their own happiness, they are often viewed in a colored light.
Many people ignore the inner emotional needs of the elderly. In addition to children and grandchildren, relatives, neighbors, and friends, the elderly life circle, if there is also hand in hand with the love of the old partner, mutual support, mutual comfort, for both physical and mental health are very beneficial.
Why are divorced and remarried "old ladies" such a hot topic?
Because they are envied or jealous? Most of the square dancers are middle-aged and elderly women, and the "old ladies in their fifties and sixties" take baking classes, yoga classes, painting classes, drink afternoon tea in Western restaurants and cafes, and take selfies on their cell phones and send them to their friends, and they love beauty, love life, love their own bodies, and enjoy every bit of fun in their lives.
Some people say that it's not too late to pursue the life you want at any time; others say it may be too late if you don't pursue it, and who knows when life grinds to a halt? No matter what, if you want to go after it, go after it!
Answered: how to look at the fifty-six years old woman divorce, remarriage, the change of the new era, the progress of mankind, follow the footsteps of the times, this is the quality of people's demand for quality of life has to be improved, people's ideological pursuit of every good life is difficult to not be able to, the freedom of choice of the marriage of the present era are protected by the law.
Fifty-six years of age is not too late, the responsibility for the children can slowly be reduced, a little better for their own, in the absence of a sense of pressure, to care more about themselves, to learn the romance of the combination of Chinese and Western, in the marriage of not violating the moral boundaries of living a good life.
Divorce, remarriage, from the past failure of the marriage life and the transition to a happy life again a process, there is a divorce, there will be remarriage, belong to the most normal range of human thought, do not use outdated ideas to control their own lives, to face the reality and turn to the people belong to the normal range of happy life.
I am Wen Jun, will not one, two, three speak axiomatic, will say examples, storytelling. Some people have a lifetime of mediocrity, to the old want to pursue their own, but do not know the human nature and environmental changes, thought it was love, the result is the grave. The whole family broke the children gave birth to a gap, relatives and friends look down on, they are widowed and old nowhere to land.
There is a saying: The old house is on fire, no one can stop.
I remember reading a joke: There is an old man eighty hanging zero, the old wife at the time of the death, children around the side of the sad and tragic. The old wife in order not to have regrets, asked: "old companion, you still have any regrets out of your heart, we want to find a way to let you realize your wish. The old man said: "Say it is also embarrassing ah, I regret all my life did not find a lover, did not taste the taste of love."
The old wife heard straight indignant away, the children are also accused of dad, will die without shame. The old man sighed: alas .......
Mourning is not organized in a salty way, loved ones do not have a sadness, relatives and friends doubt, but it is not good to explain.
" 49 years born cousin aunt, after high school came to Lanzhou to work, married to a cousin uncle, cousin uncle in the college as a teacher, gave birth to two daughters, divided into a set of big house, cousin aunt every time to go back to the old house is a beautiful scene, no matter whether it is a near and far relatives are pockets loaded with a handful of sugar, into the door are standing and talking: "Third aunt, I came to see you, now better, right, enough food to eat it."
See the younger generation: "two eggs, give you sugar, take, look at you no good look, manly man want to eat still twisted, a little bit of interest, to your father to fight for a little gas, the test out of the aunts and grandmothers, like this, you can wear a good eat good."
Cousin uncle generally do not come back with her, her own niece revealed: "My aunt stingy, afraid of my aunt back to buy a ticket not to mention, turn relatives have to mention snacks."
Cousin uncle and cousin aunt relationship can not be said to be good or bad, in 2018, 70-year-old cousin uncle at every turn of the night, at first thought that such an old man, do not come back to do what, cousin aunt as usual morning tai chi sword, small mahjong in the afternoon, the evening square dance, rainy days yell a few old sisters to eat hot pot, did not put the cousin uncle night do not come back to the heart of the matter.
On the contrary, the daughter reminded her: "Mom, you do not just want to live fast, ignore my father, my father recently spent a lot of money, dress is also very fancy, three days do not come home, is not something."
This time the cousin's aunt left a heart, she carried the sword first out the door, but stood behind the tree at the intersection of the neighborhood, and saw the cousin's uncle get into a cab, and she also followed the secret agent of the underground party like a spy movie, wearing sunglasses draped in a large silk scarf to get into the car.
Cousin uncle's cab turned a corner and stopped, cousin aunt sneakily followed behind, afraid of being found by the cousin uncle, far from seeing the cousin uncle has gone to the door of the food market in Zhangye Road, took a woman's handbag, the two people side by side into the market.
Cousin's aunt's heart beating wildly, hair dizzy unsteady, holding on to the railing to stand steady, to the two daughters called: "Damei hurry to come over, your father looked for an old goblin, this will be in the ZhangYe Road vegetable market." Then she called Ermei again: "Ermei, hurry over, your father has found an old leprechaun, the two of them arm in arm into the Zhangye Road vegetable market." Ermei first complained: "You usually either do not care about my father, or a day nagging, he can not annoy you, not I remind, you are still in the dark, I already know, is his high school classmates, dead men before hooking up with my father, I have been and Yawen (Ermei husband) to find her, forget it, can not be said on the phone, you come back to talk about. "
Damei rushed over in a flurry of wind, holding the cousin aunt at the door staring at the food market, waiting for half a day to see people, suddenly reacted to the food market behind an alleyway, it is estimated that early has returned to the tenderness, burned up the husband and wife dishes.
Cousin's aunt went home and began to hysteria, Damei called cousin uncle: "Dad, you hurry home, and then do not come back to be dead." Over there, I heard my cousin's uncle say, "Come back is also dead, do not come back is also dead, whatever." Hang up the phone never call in.
Cousin uncle for half a month to see people, the phone does not go in, during this period of cousin aunt from hysterical to gradually calm, suddenly remembered the house book on the head of the family is cousin uncle, the heart began to tense and uneasy.
More than twenty days later, the cousin uncle tore off the skin, directly into the house to get clothes, and then with the cousin aunt proposed: "Divorce, endure a lifetime, the rest of these years, we each live a good life."
Cousin aunt is unlikely to agree to a divorce, her retirement fee of three thousand over a point, cousin uncle retirement fee of more than eight thousand, especially the house is cousin uncle unit welfare room. Cousin aunt calmly said, "Divorce is impossible, if you get married I sue you for bigamy." Cousin uncle said, "You are vain and unreasonable in this life, you do not leave me to sue for divorce!"
Cousin uncle said slammed the door and left, cousin aunt began to heartbeat faster blood pressure rise, Damei two plums every day around the cousin aunt, want to find cousin uncle to talk about it also did not have the opportunity.
Cousin's uncle took his female classmates to Xi'an to enjoy the romantic beauty of the lovers, the family cousin aunt can only dry anxious, in addition to the two daughters angry and crying, but also outside to pretend that nothing happened, really bitter heart.
January after the cousin uncle a happy face back, come back to make tea, open the TV, a colorful and calm look, meal time to open the refrigerator leisurely to their own one person to cook and eat, the cousin aunt quarrelled people do not take the trick, called to the two daughters to go home.
The two daughters into the door, the cousin uncle first spoke: "You came back well, to make things clear, the house is mine, your mother lived in vain for so many years, I was subjected to the gas you have also seen. Now I will not hide from you, I'm with your Auntie Zhang, she is the Lin Huiyin in my heart, your mom is the bossy Kong Lingwei, I have to pursue my life now, I'm a man of letters can't live all day long with shrews under one roof, please pick up your mom, I live in my house by myself."
Damei Ermei dumbfounded, this is Auntie Zhang offensive screw trumpet blowing, can also think of, if it is not Dad's high salary, Auntie Zhang will not be able to produce a love story with Dad, she is not afraid of shame her family's two sons are also too shameful.
The three mothers are in touch with each other, see the cousin uncle pull the face to hard, the three began to soften the attack.
Damei first said: "Dad, you are more than seventy years old, you do this late in life is not guaranteed, the family relatives and friends how to look at you, the unit of the old colleagues will talk about you, we would like to see you also inconvenient, my mother temperament is bad, we persuade. My mother is a knife mouth tofu heart, you see you do not go home recently, my mother can not eat or sleep worry about you suffer outside, she herself thinned a dozen pounds."
Cousin uncle said, "Correction, I am seventy years old is not seventy-something, and then correction, we have no love. As for relatives and friends talk about me, I am not afraid, afraid that I will not take this step, I now understand the greatness of Xu Zhimo's pursuit of love."
Cousin uncle is iron heart, the rest is the mother of three to defend the house, Ermei send the youngest daughter and nanny over, cousin aunt without an emergency step does not go out, in case of going out to leave the children and nannies at home, for fear that she is not at home cousin uncle to bring her Lin Huiyin into the door, this Lin Huiyin is not his Lin Huiyin, this is the late years want to set a white horse and suite of the old leprechauns.
Cousin uncle ultimately can not fight the mother of three, the last is Damei moved home, their own house vacated to the cousin uncle and Auntie Zhang live, the cousin aunt is also very helpless and very happy to sign the word.
The first time I saw this, it was a very good thing that I was so happy to see you, because I was so happy to see you, and I was so happy to see you.
Later, cousin uncle had a bad time, after all, the salary did not meet the appetite of Auntie Zhang, the house did not want to come back, Auntie Zhang every day is cold him, the conversation with a full of sarcasm: "manly man, lost to a few shrews." Cousin uncle said with a bitter smile: "Good men do not fight with women, now also good, enough money to spend, also have a house to live." Auntie Zhang snorted coldly: "The frog in the bottom of the well looks up to the sky, the pipe Zhong peeps the leopard to see a spot, hide the head, leak the tail, no face, must be said to you shallow sense."
Cousin uncle turned his back and sighed, and thought to himself, "The women of the world are the most difficult to guess.
This past three years, it is said that the cousin uncle accompanied two hundred and eighty thousand spiritual damage to Auntie Zhang, the two went their separate ways, a person living in the house of Damei, the cousin aunt is also lonely and lonely, every day to the crowd of people who know to send health and chicken soup, the reply to her, she was caught complaining of grievances: "At the beginning, he is shameless, and now he lowered his head to admit a mistake can be Back, but he would rather be alone in the old age is not low, do I in his heart so failed?"
People say that after fifty not to talk about love, after seventy not to stay overnight, this is not false. Fifty-year-old men and women rolled in the world for a long time, thinking of children and family members are also loaded with selfishness, love and selfishness two people together just a short time, how to long days. Especially the elderly partner life, where to 100% sincere and love, the old couple quarrel, but the heart are at home, love in the children.My mom was divorced four years ago, 65 this year, that is, 61 years old divorce! The reason for this is that my dad had an affair for years, and knew that it was only discovered 4 years ago!
I will say that I will respect my mom's opinion, whether she wants to be single or remarried, I support it!
If she wants to remarry, most likely because of loneliness, no companionship, every day at home by herself, even a person to talk to, I'm far away, she temporarily do not want to come over to live with me, so I do not feel at ease, so she would like to find a, do not have to register to get married, my mom and I will not think about people's property, can be a companion, the other side does not have a house, if you can live in my house, but also to make it clear that if the old man is not a good choice, he can live in my house. But also have to be clear and good, if the old man's health is not good sick or something, I will take care of my mom, the other side if there is a serious illness or something, and finally to let his children take care of!
If mom only wants to be single, I also support! Nowadays, women who are looking for a companion are more likely to be free nannies for others, so why bother? If mom wants to be single, it's good to go out and travel, and when she's older and wants to live with me, she'll move in with me, and I'll take care of her, and my husband will agree!
So overall, look at yourself and don't worry about what others think!
This question, there is age discrimination against older women Oh. If there is a woman who gets divorced, there must be a man who gets divorced, so why only talk about older women? Nowadays, the social media often marginalize older women, stereotyping, subjective, demeaning, and artificially digging up the social divide.
In fact, divorce is not necessarily a bad thing. Those who feel that divorce is a bad thing are still stuck in the values of the 1980s and 1990s. Divorce may be the node to rethink the past and start a new phase of life.
Unlike young people who get divorced, people of this age tend to do so after careful consideration. On the one hand, they have a richer life experience, and on the other hand, they have a deeper understanding of themselves. There is no excuse for their desire for a better quality of life.
Old age is the final stage of life, this stage will be more time to reflect on life, sublimation of their own meaning of life, is to complete the age. Some of them insist on exercising and focusing on health, some of them write books, and some of them study music, chess, calligraphy and painting, etc.
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Young people need to grow up, learn to respect the elderly more, understand the elderly, let go of discrimination, because that is a stage of life that you will have to face in a few decades.
Most of them are abandoned, not away from can not be ah, this old generation of men got to play with the girl disease, abandon their wives and children, the old woman lifelong hard work, and in the end ended up being abandoned, away from a good man to marry did not meet do not marry it, and live well every day, the old woman you're great, you're a great generation of women, away from who can live, and live better, the old do not have to wait for who, wife also do not have to worry about who!
Due to the breakdown of feelings, it is difficult to get back together. Divorce should be a wise choice. If remarried, that can be careful and cautious, do not repeat the same mistake, according to the second harm, to the family and friends and relatives according to the trouble.
Personal advice: Before the divorce, the two should try to communicate more, mutual understanding, memories of the good times, mutual understanding, forgiveness of each other, look at each other's strengths, to find out their own shortcomings, can not divorce as far as possible not to take this step, *** with the operation, happy the rest of their lives. If remarried, then you have to think carefully, spend some time to learn more about the place, and then take a step, be sure to grasp, from all aspects of good preparation. I wish you a successful remarriage and a happy rest of your life.