If you are the kind of person who is unsociable and yearns for a plain life, I think a small city may be more suitable for you. In a small city, at least the pace of life will not be too fast. And the consumption level is relatively low. It is also a good choice to find a suitable job and lead a dull life in a small city. If your job nature is more inclined to the high-tech era, big cities will be a better choice. After all, the conditions in big cities are still much better.
I think the most important thing is family. If your parents want you to be closer to them. I think we can respect their opinions. But in this case, we must make it clear to our parents that it is best not to give up our ideals because of our family. I think it will be a bit of a loss. Another is the development of the other half. Two people can negotiate to choose the most reasonable method. I wish you a happy life.