What should you do if your father-in-law thinks you are too introverted?

You should try to make changes. Here are the ways to overcome introversion that I have compiled.

The book "Psychology and Life" is a textbook of the psychology department of Stanford University. In it, there is this description about the life of introverted people: introverted people tend to be shy, not very good at expressing their emotions and thoughts, and are prone to problems in interpersonal interactions.

The first step is to get rid of the label of "shyness and lack of self-confidence" and to believe in the possibility of changing oneself.

First of all, introverts need to change their definition of themselves from a cognitive level, rejecting "stereotypes", and only after they have transformed their own thoughts and concepts can they make further changes in their behavior.

It's interesting to note that if a person who occasionally suffers from social failure makes several positive attempts, he is likely to become more and more socially adept and eventually regain his social confidence. If the person completely rejects his potential due to one or two failures, then he has completely lost his chance to be successful in socializing. Therefore, if you do not tear off the labeling of yourself, introverts will become more and more introverted and less confident.

Second, follow the psychology of "gradual exposure therapy" to overcome shyness and find self-confidence little by little.

After you have corrected your perception, you can change your behavior. In the behavioral school of psychology, a classic approach to overcoming introversion and shyness is known as "gradual exposure therapy". Specifically, this approach encourages people to try to do things that previously made them anxious, gradually overcoming their introversion and lack of confidence.

Third, always remind yourself not to worry about what others think.

In fact, for most of the introverts and lack of confidence, the reason why they feel anxious, afraid, afraid to do things, in fact, because they are too concerned about the views of other people, afraid of their own behavior is not good, resulting in an embarrassing situation. Therefore, in order to overcome this kind of psychology, we have to change this kind of unreasonable beliefs of our own.