It is best not to have a married life when you are over sixty years old! The village's 62-year-old Wang old man died three days into his second marriage, and they say the young old woman he married screwed him up.
Soon, the matchmaker introduced him to the neighboring village of a 58-year-old woman, she is also the death of her husband, living alone, after a blind date, the two are more satisfied, five days after the family invited three tables, is considered to be married.
After marriage, the old lady got up every morning in the vegetable field to pick the vegetables to cook, the two people sat in the door with a big bowl to talk and laugh to eat and chat, but also often greeted friends passing by, especially love.
After eating, they closed the door, and then never saw out. For three days in a row, they came out for a bit in the morning and never went out.
On the fourth day early in the morning, I heard the old lady shouting loudly, come to the people ah! Old Wangtou can not, the neighbor Zhang uncle heard, rushed over, found the old Wangtou covered with a quilt lying on the bed, red face, breathing rapidly.
Uncle Zhang rushed to call the 120, half an hour later, when the 120 arrived, the old head of the king has not breathed, and then, the old head of the king's children rushed to the old lady, they scolded the old lady is a vixen, it is she who charmed the old father to death, and then drove the old lady back home.
My second aunt got a 60 year old partner and was cheated out of all her money, so it turns out that it really is the bad guys who get old!
When my second aunt was 50 years old, her aunt's husband left her due to illness, and for this reason, my second aunt was sad for several years. They say that old age is a companion, but in her old age, she was often alone. Her children were busy working in the city outside, and she could only keep the old mansion alone in her old home.
The second aunt likes to dance, and the community often organizes trips for the elderly, so she meets an old man in the community. The old man is five years older than my sister-in-law, and is said to be a cadre in the public sector before retirement, and a keen dancer and photographer after retirement, so he is definitely a human being from the outside.
The old man saw the second aunt of his interesting feeling, so the second aunt contacted more frequently, one after another, the two also talked about love, into the old man and woman friends, it seems that everything is going in the right direction.
Then the old man slowly leaked out the tail of the deception, began to home children sick in need of money, in order to buy internal welfare housing and my second aunt to get married as the reason, successively cheated my second aunt of 500,000 yuan, and finally also encouraged my second aunt to sell the house, and he went to the big city to buy houses.
The second aunt at that time did not suspect that the old man, but also to go to the big city to buy a house told the news of the children, the second aunt's children heard, it is not a typical liar trick.
Second aunt's children were suspicious, let the second aunt of the old man's name and phone number, the retirement unit as well as the old man's housing address told the second aunt's children, the second aunt's children to the police in the county police station to check, the old man said that the words are false! Retirement unit did not have the old man this person, even the old man's housing are rented, and the old man has a lot of cases, is a typical eat, drink and cheat the old man!
The truth is clear, the second aunt let the old man back to her money, do not even think about it, the old man said that the money is spent, posing a rogue phase, anyway, it is to money no, want to life a posture!
The second aunt reported to the police, the police also filed a case, but the second aunt lent money to the old man, belonging to the behavior during the relationship, not enough to fraud, so can only continue to recover the debt, for this, the second aunt really hurt the heart, obviously an old man in love, but it turned into a fraud.
1, the elderly if you want to talk about the elderly love, must know people, know people, and then know people, is not the old man became bad, but the society of bad people become old!
2, the elderly if single, or try to choose to continue to be single, cultivate some good hobbies in old age, such as square dancing, play jitterbugs, and then do not help, look at the TV, go out and take a walk, go to the place where they have not been Travel, are some healthy behavior.
3, the elderly have worked hard all their lives, the late years should enjoy the late happiness, so we must not do against the life of some young people to do things, and go with the flow, go with the flow and live, in order to live out of the old man's wonderful.
The age of the flower armor, the time to struggle has not been repeated, family, career has been characterized, good and bad, rich and poor, wonderful and mediocre, the status quo has changed is not a person in his sixties, in the upside down.
Not that we do not want, do not want to have a better economic conditions to enjoy, to have, but our physiological organism does not allow, can not be overloaded by the operation and pressure.
The material conditions are not satisfactory, but can be slowly improved, can move a time, move a time, but can not be too hurt body, health is important. There should also be children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren's blessings, not with the children and grandchildren to do the attitude of the world of horses and cattle.
The most important thing that couples in their sixties cannot do is to think and psychologically do not understand, do not communicate, do not get along, do not harmonize, do not enjoy.
Young couples, old age! Half a generation of hard work, painstakingly raise their children to adulthood, academic success, after starting a family today, is to enjoy the blessings of the time, but still pulling the strings, as with young people, make trouble to the shield, cold war, sleep in separate rooms, you ignore me, I ignore you, the two people are in a heavy mood, all day long worry about soft and joyful, physical and mental health is very harmful, in the long run, it will result in the "three highs! "The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
It's not a matter of how much money you have,
Understanding and forgiveness is the first thing you need to do!
Mutual communication, less doubt,
love and love smile show.
Happy every day,
Whitehead and whitehead.
Speaking of this matter is really a tragedy ah, our village has a 65-year-old moncler, he has a successful career, son and daughter and have been a family, he also became a grandfather and grandfather. Family conditions are good, the children and filial piety, he should have been able to spend a happy and stable old age, but unfortunately he did not know how to self-discipline finally even died in bed.
The grandfather in our village, when he was 45 years old, his wife passed away due to illness, and because his children were still young, he shouldered the family burden, so he has not been married again. After his son grew up, he left his career to his son and retired to the second line. After he retired, he was idle every day, he was fishing, square dancing.
Once he went to the river to fish, met his first love girlfriend, his first love girlfriend is the neighboring village, when she came to the river to pick water to watering vegetables, coincidentally, he saw. So the two of them sat by the river and chatted, and when his first love girlfriend told him that her spouse had also passed away, he got the idea of marrying her and going home, when he was 64 years old.
When he returned home, he talked to his children about marrying them a stepmother. His children were very happy to hear that, because all these years over, he spent alone, and his loneliness cold and warm, his children are in the eyes. And that moncler outlet store had the idea of remarrying, as children they were naturally happy for him and in favor of him.
Later, his children organized a wedding banquet for him and invited the whole village to his house for dinner. Because their family was very rich and they were marrying in their old age, when they notified the village people to go to his house for dinner, they also specially instructed the village people that they need not send gifts and money, and that if they went to his house for dinner, they would be giving face to him very much. On the day of his wedding, his family set up a 130-table banquet, the whole village to attend, it seems very lively.
Since he and his first love girlfriend married, he was not going to the river to fish, but to take his first love girlfriend around the world. Every day he's either on his way around the world or hanging out at home. But the good times didn't last long, they had just been married for a year when he died, and he died in his bed. His son felt that something was wrong, because usually his father's health was very good, and a sudden death did not make sense.
So his son took his body to the hospital to be examined by a doctor to determine the cause of death. The doctor told his son that his father died of SIDS. But his son didn't know what SIDS meant, so the doctor told him in an easy-to-understand way that it was because the frequency of sex was too high, leading to a failure to keep up with the nutrients, which led to his sudden death.
After that moncler outlet store death, his son found a large number of tonic pills when he cleaned up his belongings in his room. And that moncler outlet online bank card as well as other finances were in the hands of that wife of his, and his children didn't ask her to take them, and she consciously took them out after that moncler outlet online death and divided them among his children, and then she wanted to move back to live in her own house, but that moncler outlet online children didn't agree.
They felt that this stepmother was the love of their father's life, so they had to give her a pension no matter what, so they didn't let her go. She stayed in the village, and people in the village talked about her, saying that she was unlucky, but their family was not superstitious, so they didn't care what the people in the village talked about. Now that this matter has been over for years, it is still used as a story by the village people.
Through this incident in our village, I think the most important thing that couples in their sixties can't do is to have sex too often, and in this regard, it should be appropriate, not to mention that, like the moncler outlet store in our village, you can still take the tonic medicine. I think that couples in their sixties should take care of their health, exercise more, increase their physical fitness, and take care of their bodies in order to live a long life.
It's a sad fact that my father, who is my cousin, has a lot of pension after retirement, and he could have had a quality life in his old age, but because of his indulgence, he fell from the bed and died.
Cousin uncle long years in the ship to do, a year rarely come back a few times, he grew black and strong, according to his words is in the ship wind and rain, every day to eat seafood are eating fat.
As the cousin uncle rarely come back every year, his wife can not stand it with someone else to go, since then the cousin uncle 30 years old on the single person, the child by the grandparents with, we let the cousin uncle while young and then find a, but he did not want to look for the nature of the work, just the reason, more than a few, a lot of girls do not want to live such a life, so the cousin uncle has been a single to the retired.
The first two years of his retirement, he followed his 80-year-old mother to live a piece, and by the way, also took care of his grandchildren, his pension a month also have a few thousand dollars, life is also good, at least no pressure.
One day, my cousin went to the park with his grandson to play, and saw a square dance, and watched as he was mesmerized, and my cousin followed the dance, not to mention that it was quite decent, because his fat body jumped up and down with a different sense of joy, which made everyone applaud, and my cousin found self-confidence, and has been addicted to it ever since.
As long as there is a free time to go to the various squares, see the dancing will go up to twist a few times, the character of the cousin uncle is also big, but also more talkative, coupled with his long and tall, it did not take long for him to find his own dance partner.
Since then, the cousin uncle even grandson also do not care, and pushed back to his son, he was all day with the dance partner together, and over time the two also produced feelings, to get married, this operation of course, also met with the opposition of the children, but the cousin uncle economic independence, they can do their own main, lazy ride on these people against, determined to marry with the dance partner.
At this time, the cousin has been more than 60 years old, his mother is almost 90 years old, the cousin very much like this dance partner, perhaps so many years of single person's emptiness, or perhaps now there is a soul mate of the same hobby.
Uncle often think that they are still very young, so indulge in the desire to marry a month or two after the obvious to see the uncle's blood are not quite enough, we advise the uncle to pay attention to the body, eat a little more good make up for the body, the uncle thought that everyone is laughing at him, said with a big grin: the body of the old man is good, so many years of seafood to eat enough to make up for the life of a complementary what ah.
Until one morning, uncle felt sleepy and sluggish, cousin aunt at this time has been up to wash up, uncle hard to climb and stand up, but did not stand firm on the ground fell to the ground, or the head to the ground, he fell with a heavy body with a muffled sound, the cousin aunt in the washroom to hear the sound and shouted: What is my husband doing? But there is no echo.
Cousin aunt did not think too much, thinking that such a big man can have what happened, she continued to wash and make up, wait until everything is cleaned up properly before she went to the bedroom to find the cousin uncle, but at this time on the ground flowed a lot of blood, the cousin uncle are cold. Later realized that the cousin uncle because after marriage often indulgence lead to physical weakness, the morning when he got up fainted and fell on the ground head to the ground, was dropped dead.
Cousin uncle accidentally passed away after his nearly 90-year-old mother can not stand this change, white hair people send black hair people is very painful, a few days the old man also went. This is really a miserable old age ah.
And the cousin aunt was not long married, and their families are not very familiar with the cousin uncle left after she also left, perhaps afraid of it, so she went to another city.
From the cousin's story, people in their sixties must recognize themselves, the old is old, the body function with the young is not comparable, so couples must be restrained, moderation, not overindulge.
The elderly over 60 years old should be more healthy and green life, drink tea, play chess, talk to the old guys, and old friends to buy groceries with their partners, cooking, enjoying the joy of family is happiness.
After retirement, there are at least two or "big" or "small" things to do. First, the "past" is not "quarrel". The past is a "big deal". Over sixty or older, all the way, or gain or loss, or up or down, or happy or sad, or lucky or woe ....... When the past again turned up, perhaps to each other to bring the "right" tone, perhaps there will be each other to reveal the "scars" of the impulse. In fact, in the long years of life experience, everything that happens, seemingly a period of old things, is actually a major life event. More couples *** with the good memories, whether it is sweet, sour, bitter and spicy, that a mixture of flavors are worth recalling. Therefore, such a "life event" is worth cherishing, worth recalling. Second, "trivia" is not "entangled". Retirement home, face and do seems to be some trivial. However, often is not much trivia will make each other entangled, pulling non-stop, each stick to their own views, stubborn. For example, what order to do things, things placed, and so on, and so forth. How to do "trivia" is not "entangled", 1, trivia is a small thing, do not have to be angry, hurt God sad; 2, trivia does not hinder the big things, therefore, each other should be the same as the big things, to abandon the different, so that each step back, harmonious and smooth.
The couple over 60 years old can not do the most three things, do not take it seriously!
Couples in their sixties have been together for decades, weathered the storms and heat, tasted all the sweet and sour. In the limited time, we must cherish each other, considerate and take care of each other, depend on each other, do not give the rest of life regret.
This age group of old couples, the most should not do the following three things.
One, don't fool around.
Sixty years old is not old, seventy-year-old people, the body organs are weakening, most of the one more sick, legs and feet are not good, try not to go out of town. As the saying goes, seventy do not stay overnight, eighty do not stay meals, ninety do not stay sitting, is to tell us that people to the old age as far as possible do not travel, not string of doors. Because after all, old age, walking inconvenience, very easy to happen unexpected things. At home, the old guard Tianyuan, enjoy a peaceful old age is appropriate. What do you want to eat what you want to do what you want to do, as you wish, live a quiet, peaceful old age.
Secondly, don't worry about your children and grandchildren.
As the saying goes, "Children and grandchildren have their own blessings, so don't worry about your children and grandchildren. In the process of transporting my granddaughter to and from school, I have seen a self-haired pale and thin grandmother, sitting on the iron railing next to the school gate, waiting to pick up the child. When the school bell rang, she got up with great difficulty, and then a little girl in the fourth grade, taller than her grandmother, came to the grandmother's side. If this elderly person does not have cardiovascular disease, it would not hurt to walk her child, but if not, the possibility of an accident is unmanageable. So for the older elderly, if the physical condition is not good, do not force yourself for the sake of children and grandchildren. At this age, they deserve to enjoy their twilight years in peace, even if they are a little selfish. I can take good care of myself, not to drag my children, not to let them worry about is good.
Thirdly, don't be too careful with your money, you can't afford to eat, you can't afford to drink.
In real life, there are many older people due to the past suffering, poor family, living in poverty has developed a good habit of thrift, so they live a very frugal life, often buy cheap dishes and discounted goods, the remaining meals can not throw away. Obviously their favorite things, but too expensive to buy, and even travel can not afford to take a taxi. In fact, this is really a bit sorry for themselves. I've suffered for most of my life, and I'm still harsh on myself in my old age. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
Good advice to the world's elderly, to cherish the unique themselves. Think openly, you will understand that in this world, you are you, no one can replace. You pain, pain yourself; you tired, tired yourself; you bitter, bitter yourself. Even if someone sympathizes with you, so what? In the end to clean up the mess, desolate and helpless or your own. It's not that the children are not filial, nor is it that they are not accompanied by, but they are not able to do what they want, they are not able to take care of themselves.
What else is going on, is not the matter of husband and wife, our village, there is an old Chinese medicine or powerful, he told the village all day long the old man, people to a certain age, especially in the sixties of the old man, the two people do not sleep all day long in a room, to sleep separately for fear that the two people together with the old husband and wife, then in case of physical problems, it is a problem.
There is an old man heard the old Chinese doctor said, but also really do not believe, also do not listen to, he was young when the flirtation is accustomed to, feel not believe.
Who knows which day heard him in the hospital, or rescue back, people have become unable to walk.
Finally, I heard people say, is that the thing that caused the trouble, the children of the family are angry, said he was old and unashamed, suffering children to take turns to take care of.
So the doctor's words still need to listen to, or suffer their own and harm the family.
There is a first rich man in our village, about 55 years old, it is because the second marriage is too happy, resulting in people away. He married a woman in her 40s who was also a second wife, and it was a happy thing to have two lovers. But a few days after the wedding this happened and his two sons regretted it.
This man in the 90s, his wife left, a person with two sons is too much pressure. So he gave his two sons to his parents to raise them for him, and he went out to work by himself.
Listening to the people in the village, he said he was very competitive and hardworking. After about 5 years, he was not even 40 years old when he opened his own small processing plant outside.
He did this small factory more and more big, and then also the village of young people to bring out to his factory work to work, the whole standard of living of our village are brought up.
His two sons graduated from the university and worked in his factory, and together, they made his factory a listed company.
It is really a father and son, brothers of the same heart, the benefit of breaking gold, a heart of them, become our village of learning example.
The village elders educate the young or children, all of them take out their cases to say.
Probably because of the young time too laborious, the body seems to have more minor problems, so he to the age of 50, the two sons can take over his class, he retired from the background, his company many things are given to the two sons to take care of.
His son felt that he was alone in the village, life has a lot of inconvenience, so he wanted to find him a nanny.
He was reluctant at first, saying that he had gotten used to living alone over the years, and that suddenly having an extra person out there made him uncomfortable.
But his son said, just find someone to help him cook, wash clothes or something, do odd jobs, if he insists, he can still do it.
He knew that both sons were filial, and in the end did not force it.
His son also found him a single, relatively young woman.
This woman is indeed very diligent, originally his father is also more polite, a lot of things do not let the woman to do.
But this woman is always able to strong body step, the housework done.
Time slowly long, his father slowly accustomed to a woman to take care of household matters of life.
And then, slowly after the two of them are familiar with, his father often do not go out, a lot of habits have changed.
She used to take walks in the village park, plant vegetables in the fields, look for old people in the village, and play chess and so on. Now it's basically all off the table.
He stays home a lot, and a lot of people say he's found his new relationship.
These things reached his two sons, who not only did not have a problem with it, but were happy to facilitate this happy event for his father.
In the case of all parties are very happy, the two of them picked a good day to get married.
Since their father was taken care of, the two sons were more at ease, because after all, they were all already family.
But not long after they got married there, his dad had problems and left.
The reason for leaving are fighting up, but did not publicize it, their two sons sad, regret doing such a thing.
Confucius said, fifty and know the fate of heaven! Many times we should be clear about what age we are at and what we should do.
If there is a little excitement shocked, we should control our mood to avoid good things become bad.
People who are older should be more about everything, a little light.
The reason for this is that many things in the body have begun to age, this has to be recognized!
Stability and health, is our main life pursuit!
"What is the most important thing that couples in their sixties can not do?" Let me answer this:
Let me tell you one thing first. I have an old superior, retired home, the old couple life should be happy to celebrate the old age. However, the son worked in Nanjing, also became a family, have a house and a car, in order to show filial piety to the old couple. He said to his father, "Dad, sell the family house, with me to Nanjing, we couple to support your old." At first, the old couple did not want to go, saying that people are not born on unfamiliar ground, where do we go? Son may be really want his parents to go to Nanjing, on the daughter-in-law two people. Daughter-in-law is Nanjing, Nanjing will say it, the old couple said well. The two really sold the house with the house base, followed by the son went to Nanjing. Just when everyone thought that the old couple in Nanjing to live a good life, the old man with a sick wife two people came back. As for what reason to come back, the old couple back did not say, others are not good to ask. Everyone guessed it.
After the return, the two first wanted to bring back the mansion. But people said, bought all re-covered house, back is impossible. The two had no choice but to go to the nearest eldest daughter's home, after a few years, one after another left the world. At that time, some people commented that if the old couple did not sell the property and the house, not with the son to go there, there is a pension to take, certainly not early death.
After the story, I answered the owner's question is: people to sixty-something, the most can not do, is to sell their old home. With the old nest, blocking the wind and rain, leaving the countryside, is the best health!