You want a piece of land in the village near the field, but I want a house in the city by the river.
A generation has a generation of ideas, so it is difficult for two generations to agree on the same thing, which will inevitably happen some unpleasant things, we are always looking for a compromise, can make both sides compromise, in fact, this is not very right. If there is no way to bring the two generations closer together, then the best thing to do is not to interfere.
Take young people of my age group here and the parents of young people of that age group.
You talk about going for a compromise solution that allows both of them to compromise with each other and then what is the result, a lot of the time or in the vast majority of the cases it is the younger one who conforms to the older one, why? Because of moral suppression. What did the ancients say, "filial piety is the first of all good things, regardless of the heart of the line". From ancient times to the present more than two thousand years of history, we have been firmly confined by the word filial piety, many times we can not help it, because of a "filial piety" word, we carry too much baggage, it is true that filial piety is an irrefutable virtue, born as a human being, not filial piety is not based on, but if everything is to take the filial piety to pressure, the young people will have no The first thing I want to say is that I'm not going to be able to do anything about it.
A generation has a generation of values, and it is a very selfish behavior to always impose the ideas of our generation on the next generation. To give some examples:
Parents like bed sheets big red and purple, we are pursuing the simplicity of Ikea; parents love to listen to the red dust love songs, we like to pop and Europe and the United States; parents love to dance in the square, we are interested in the square to play skateboarding ...... There are too many things that contradict each other, and it is enough to list one or two of them. If we have to conform to their ideas or they conform to ours, what will happen? Dissonance and incompatibility and even some comical images to make up your own mind.
If you go to explain to them, if you go to tell them that young people nowadays are like this, they will say that young people don't understand, and then they will say more and more that it's a waste of time, and that they had to listen to them when they were young, but when they grew up, they just ignored them. Do what you want. Those in their eyes is very fashionable things, in our eyes is dirt. Time will make a lot of things obsolete, and if you don't keep up with the times, then you will eventually become the object of ridicule for the next generation.
But here is not to say that this is the fault of the adults, I think no one is at fault, to blame it on the times. We now think that the minimalist style is best, the next generation is expected to like the retro style, do we have to be like our parents to preach to them when the time comes? Won't we then become like the people we hate now? The best solution is never a compromise between the two parties on who is right, but non-interference. You don't come to lecture me on what I think, I don't object to your behavior, and if you want any harmonious picture, leave it all to time, which seems a bit irresponsible, but in this one case, is the perfect thing to say.
Also, I think one of the worst things for two generations to undertake today is traveling. Whether it's traveling to a faraway place or just nearby, having our parents with us is a big no-no and often unpleasant for us. They'll want to go here to see the sights, but we just want to go there to take pictures, and they'd rather have a glass of cold white tea than milk tea. Although traveling with the family is a very cozy picture, we often overlook the harmony behind the coziness. We hope that parents can understand our generation, and can no longer require us to follow their footsteps, although it may seem annoying, but it is good for everyone.
Of course I won't beat them to death, there are still some truly harmonious family images, I'm just addressing the vast majority of discordant scenes. Many of the current conflicts between the two generations are not because their ideas are not well communicated and resolved, but precisely because of the attempts to communicate in the past to solve the problem, resulting in greater and greater conflicts, like a mess of hemp, the more you solve the more messy. Therefore, try not to interfere with each other, there may be unexpected gains. In addition, knowing the current situation, we need to treat our next generation in the same way in the future, so that we don't become the target of the next generation's incomprehensibility.
Happy family.