I am the snow fall without dust, you have a story, come to me.
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The transition from love to marriage, really become a husband and wife, many women will have such a feeling, why become a wife, but not as good as when you are a girlfriend, when the man of all kinds of care and consideration, and now there is only a lazy ignore.
Many women will blame it all on the man does not love themselves, and even suspect that the man from the time of the relationship on their own false love, and now to deceive themselves into the hand, of course, will not be so good for themselves. Just like the man will often say the words, the fish are hooked, still need to under the bait?
In fact, many times it is not so, marriage, more than men in the change, the woman herself is changing. The only thing is that people are always like this, always able to see other people's problems at first sight, but blind to their own problems.
A slap in the face is not a slap in the face, the marriage was more complicated than we thought, not to mention the complexity of human nature involved, and often let us not see the truth.
Since women are married, they feel that men have changed their hearts, so today we will discuss why men want to "change" their wives after marriage? Why do married men want to "change" their wives? Listen to the men's heart.
01
Mr. Zhao, married for five years.
I admit that I have changed my mind, of course, I do not have any actual action, it is just my inner thoughts, I do not love her anymore, always want to change a woman to try.
Five years ago when I was going to marry her, she was really my life, I love her, love crazy. She is my first love, before that I have not been in love, then I thought she was already the most perfect woman under the sky, to marry her, I know this life.
But five years later, I no longer feel this way. In fact, these five years she did not have much change, or as before as beautiful and generous. The change should be me, perhaps because only once in love to get married, I have other women in addition to her, full of curiosity, always want to go to try.
Maybe you think I don't know enough, or that I don't know how to cherish, but I've never lost, so how do I know what to cherish?
02
Mr. Lee, who has been married for ten years.
I've been married to her for ten years, and I can say I've put up with her for ten years.
It's a good thing that I've been married for ten years, and I can say that I've put up with her for ten years. Before I got married, she was a woman with a good temper and a good sense of humor, but she didn't get married for two years.
In addition to her increasingly bad temper, she is more and more unkempt in the house, and the image of her beauty and generosity before she got married has gone down the drain. I kindly reminded her of this, and she argued with me, saying that I disliked her. I took the initiative to buy cosmetics and beautiful clothes for her, she also gloomy, why suddenly so good to her, is not in the heart of the ghost.
These ten years, she said to me countless times of divorce, every time I go to coax her, and then she lost a temper after the reunion. I'm afraid she has become a habit, and I coaxed to coax, only feel tired, the other day she said she wanted a divorce, I unprecedentedly did not coax her, but agreed to a divorce.
The result is that she is more unhappy, yelling at me, saying that I actually dare to really divorce her. I can't help but laugh and cry, and I don't know what she really wants. To be honest, I really can't stand her anymore, I don't know what other people's wives are like, anyway, she really let me have enough.
03
Mr. Yang, married for 17 years.
As I get older, it seems to me that marriage actually comes in stages. I got married when I was 26 years old, then in my mind, she is the most suitable for my woman, in addition to her, others I do not want to see more than one glance. Only with the passage of time, many things will change.
Today, after 17 years of marriage, she and I are increasingly inappropriate. She retired internally two years ago, and became a middle-aged woman with nothing to do, going to square dance with a group of older women in the neighborhood every evening, or else playing mahjong with people, and nothing else.
But for me, a man in his 40s, it is the golden age of career, every day to deal with the work of the problem, but also to continue to learn, in order to keep up with the work of the various changes. So I've gradually distanced myself from her, or I don't have the same topic to talk about anymore.
The distance is only getting wider and wider, and there's nothing wrong with her lifestyle, but I don't have the same language as her. At this time, I will have the same work pressure, I prefer to have a can understand me, or willing to with me *** with progress of the woman beside.
04
In fact, people's feelings are changing all the time, and marriage is not an absolute guarantee. Both men and women, there are all kinds of reasons why they start to get tired of the people around them, and they may even have the idea of switching to another person. This is why more and more people are now betraying their marriages and having extramarital affairs.
It's just that when women complain that men have changed, they need to look at themselves to see if they have changed too. Marriage is not easy, everyone should walk and cherish.
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Author: snow fall dustless, writer, member of Xinjiang Writers Association. Want to talk to you about love, your heart has me willing to listen. There are any emotional problems, you can send a private letter to me Oh ~