The beginning of 2018 really doesn't allow us to worry:
- Cao Laozi got married, the groom is not me, and what's even more shocking is that Cao Laozi said, "He's not handsome and he doesn't have any money," which is heartbreaking!
-The bureau chief said, Iran's many cities broke out in mass vandalism and looting and burning unrest, do you think the U.S. is not behind the black hand?
-Heard that Li Xiaolu derailed Pi tens of thousands, hand in hand to eat hot pot also night stay in the male home, really heartbreaking Jia Nailiang, your circle is really messy!
Eh, wait a minute .......
Our day three times to save my body: out of poverty? Stripped? Off the fat yet?
Have you started on the New Year's resolutions you made in 2018?
No? Where's the time to mind other people's business!
Shi Tiesheng said, "Some things in the world are mostly out of blind worry, from blind worry and then evolve into poor interference." Finally know why a lot of people often tired, to the end of the year but bok fruitless, blind manipulation manipulation.
So friends, if you don't want the new year to go on in a daze, with Uncle Jock, dry this bowl of poisonous chicken soup:
2018, more manipulation of favorite people, less manipulation of useless heart it!
Fewer worry about celebrities' entertainment gossip
Lu Yao said in The Ordinary World: "People would rather care about a crappy movie actor's food, drink, and cocktail than understand an ordinary person's choppy heart ......"
More and more people are suffering from Internet dependence disorder, addicted to and dependent on all kinds of entertainment news, Zhang Liangying and her mom are tearing each other apart, Chen Weiting is sitting on a relationship, Li Xiaolu is cheating on his wife, and Xue Zhiqian's character is crumbling ......
How relevant is it to our lives that we spend so much time every day worrying about these eight-pole celebrity trivia?
On the surface it looks like we're the ones consuming these stars, but in reality we're the ones being consumed. We spend our time and energy on these big stars or on hype or catching news. When the stars clarify, they are still in the limelight, and we are still living our lives on the subway, ordering takeout, and living a life of unparalleled realism.
Neil Bozeman, in "Entertainment is Dead," wrote:
"All public discourse is becoming more and more a form of entertainment and a cultural ethos. Our politics, religion, journalism, sports, education, and business have become willingly subordinate to entertainment, without complaint or even a word, and the result is that we have become an entertainment-to-death species."
As we spend more and more time on these celebrity gossips, we get closer and closer to being a transparent shell with an empty head, immersed in entertainment. So instead of caring about divorces and cheating in the entertainment industry, why don't you, instead, pay more attention to your own heart and care more about your partner and family.
Friends and microblogging will never be short of hot topics, and our time will never return. It's a shame that life is so short and we always live in the celebrities' chickenshit.
Less concerned about other people's food and drink
Yang Jiang once replied to her help young people: your problem mainly lies in reading too little, thinking too much. For many of us, the main problem is that we worry too much about others and too little about ourselves.
Previously, a friend told me that recently the mood is not good, I asked her how, she said: "a few weeks ago I broke up with my boyfriend, I heard that he is now living a very depressed, depressed, I feel very guilty ......." . After a short while, she called again to ask me to go out to dinner, the whole time complaining: "ex-boyfriend so soon made a new girlfriend, see him live as if he is very happy, I feel so bereaved ah!"
This time I really can't help it: "Since we've broken up, it doesn't matter to you if other people are having a good time or not, you have time to worry about other people, it's better to think more about yourself ......."
Sartre said, "Others are hell."
We spend two to three hours a day brushing the circle of friends, concerned about other people's food and drink; we are always concerned about their own annoying green tea whore coworkers, whether it is again in the play soft; we spend half a day, time and time again to enlighten the love-struck female colleagues "life should learn to let go"......
Some people say that the skillful use of off your ass and off my ass can solve 80% of life's trouble. Instead of worrying about other people's rights and wrongs like this, which is not half as good for others as it is for ourselves, we should worry about ourselves first.
Where you spend your time, you become what you are. Someone who has a life of their own never spends too much time on the rights and wrongs of others.
Don't wring your hands over what hasn't happened yet
After celebrities and others, all that's left is ourselves, and the most useless thing we can do for ourselves is to worry about what hasn't happened yet.
Regularly, I get messages from readers in the background:
-Uncle Jock, I'm 25 years old, what if I don't meet the right person in this life?
-I've heard that my company is going to lay off employees next year due to the economic downturn in recent years, and I'm so worried that I can't even concentrate on my work anymore, so what should I do?
One of my readers even said, "Uncle Jock, what am I going to do when I get older?" I asked him what was wrong, and he said, "Those square dances all look so hard ...... I don't think I'll be able to learn them when I'm old." You're playing with your Uncle Jock, aren't you?
In fact, a lot of our anxiety is just worrying. We are worried about ending up alone, so we are anxious to matchmaking; we are afraid of old age without support, anxious to have children, one can not be two children; we are worried that the child grows up unsuccessful, so early to force the child to go to cram school ......
We saw a program where Yang Lan interviewed Jordan. Yang Lan asked Jordan: "Over the years, you've been successful in every way, what's your motivation? What are your goals since then?" Jordan replied, "What's in front of me changes every day, I don't know, I just live in the moment."
The worst outcome in life is not to have a bad future and live a life you don't like; it's to have the opportunity to become better in the present, but you miss the time to change in worrying about the future.
The future will not be better because of your worrying now, so don't take the best time to worry about the future. It's taking every step in the present that counts.
The outlook on life in the movie "The Godfather" is one that I particularly agree with: the first step is to work hard to realize your self-worth, the second step is to take care of your family with all your might, the third step is to help as many kind-hearted people as possible, the fourth step is to be a voice for the community, and the fifth step is to fight for the honor of your country.
Looking around, there are too many people around us who, before they can do steps one and two, are already worrying about steps four and five.
So it's better to worry less about useless things and try to simplify our lives so that you can put more time and energy into the things you really want to do.
The other day I saw a quote that sums it up extremely well: "You can't put things off, you can't talk too much, and you can't make things happen. Things that have nothing to do with you, don't ask, don't think, don't say." ***Vigorously!
What's worrying you about 2018?