It is easy for everyone in love to make a mistake: the authorities are obsessed. Most of the time, you need time. When you go out completely and look back, you will feel suddenly enlightened.
Before that, you didn't even realize that you were just moving yourself.
Colin is a friend of mine. Two years ago, she fell in love with a boy. That year, she graduated from Kline University for one year and had not been in love. When she was studying, she was the kind of girl who only knew how to study hard. In addition, she is introverted, so her circle is very narrow, let alone looking for a boyfriend, and there are almost no friends of the opposite sex.
Colin and he met on the Internet, and they felt they hit it off. There are not many constraints in real life, and Kling is much more active on the Internet than in real life. After talking for a long time, Colin said that he seemed to like him a little.
After chatting for almost a month, the two met, which was put forward by Colin. In fact, the two are not far apart. It takes about an hour by bus in the same city.
Colin invited him to meet him on the grounds that he happened to be there on business, otherwise he would meet him. To tell the truth, this is really a brave move for Clint, because she didn't actually have a job in the past, she just went to see him.
After meeting, Colin was very satisfied with him, because after seeing the photo, she came back and said that she thought he looked better in person than in the photo. That is, on the day they met, they ate together and watched movies together. When he came out, he held Clint's hand.
Colin didn't refuse. When Colin came back, he announced that he was in love.
She told us about her love experience. Someone thought it was incredible and asked, "It's not a lie, is it?" Colin shook his head: "Don't worry, although I've never been in love, I'm not stupid. He is not like this. "
Since then, Colin has put himself in the position of girlfriend. She is determined to be a sensible good girlfriend, but she still often feels that this love makes her very tired.
02
Many times, we can't use an accurate standard to judge whether this person is right or wrong, because after meeting that person, you will find that all the rules you set before may not count.
However, you have to believe that your feelings will not lie to you if it is the right love. Then, you should have at least two feelings in this relationship: happiness and comfort.
Yes, this is a necessary condition for a correct love, and these two feelings should be the dominant emotions. On the contrary, if you have more sadness or other negative emotions in this relationship, then you should re-examine your relationship.
Because in most cases, your guess is right.
Just like Colin, she always suspects that he doesn't like himself enough and is always insecure in this love. I thought she was stuck in it, and put herself in the position of girlfriend, and his attitude was much colder.
Kling said that before they chatted, he always took the initiative to find himself, chatted with her whenever he was free, and woke her up in the morning. But then it slowly began to evolve into a situation in which Colin took the initiative to find him and it took him some time to come back.
He explained to Colin that he was very busy these days. Although Colin feels a little sad, he still thinks he should be considerate of others. Therefore, the only thing she can do is wait for his news, but whenever he sends a message, Colin always replies within a few seconds.
Some people advised Colin to break up, saying that he was too insincere, but she broke up and he saved it. His heart softened as if he had saved Colin.
In front of the person you like, no one can be really cruel. Strangely, even under his hot and cold attitude, Kling became more and more fond of him inexplicably, and paid more and more in this relationship.
03
Sometimes, you really don't understand that the person in front of you doesn't like you? No, I actually know whether I like it or not, but whether I can let it go is really another matter.
During the time with him, Colin always cried, looking for us to cry and telling his grievances. She said that they were obviously in the same city, and they didn't see each other twice a week, because he always said that he didn't have time. Every time they met, Colin went to see him.
When she said her birthday, he sent a simple happy birthday. Colin asked him for a red envelope, and he was very angry. The terrible thing is that Kling tried to explain to him that he either wanted money or wanted to see his mind.
On Valentine's Day, he said he was working overtime. Colin thinks he will prepare a present for himself. She quietly prepared it for him, but she didn't send it out. That was the first time that Colin really lost his temper with him.
She said that all her best friends had received presents, and that was her first time in love. She has never received flowers on Valentine's Day, so she is really envious. After listening to this, he said that he didn't like his girlfriend to compare him with other boys, but he was angry.
Finally, the two men had a cold war, but Colin didn't hold his horses and talked to him first.
Through Kling's description, everyone said that he didn't like her and let her choose to break up. Then why waste yourself on such a person? Colin shook his head and said that he was really kind to her sometimes and made her feel love.
Colin said he was good to himself, and those things were really insignificant to us. For example, when they go out to decide what to eat, he always says, "I don't care what you like."
This moved Colin and he thought he was really good to himself.
For another example, once, Colin told him that he was working hard and didn't want to do it. He said without hesitation: "Nothing, then don't do it. I will support you. "
Colin was moved again because he loved himself.
04
Girl, don't be silly yet. Talk about love twice more, and you will understand what "being good to you" means.
When we are in love, we should remember one sentence, never listen to what a person says, you should see what he does. Because not everyone can keep his word, some people lie as casually as eating.
Colin and he were on and off, and finally broke up after a year together. The final breakup was put forward by Colin, because his countless cold violence really broke Colin's heart.
He didn't recover when he broke up. Colin sent him a lot of words in large chunks, saying that he was sorry for himself in love. After a long time, he replied, I'm sorry.
Colin turned him down, and they never contacted again. Clint was deeply hurt in this relationship. She said that she should never be so desperate to like someone again.
She once poured out her heart to him and finally understood one thing: at first, when he held Kling's hand, he didn't like her, but Kling liked him then; Later, when they got along, he had a good impression on Colin, but he didn't like it strongly at all, and Colin had fallen in love with him. When Colin fell in love with him, he paid too much, and he stood still, so he stayed in the stage of liking Colin and never made progress. Even in the end, due to all kinds of suspicions, Kling constantly doubted his love and his affection for him was decreasing.
Forest shells walk too fast.
It took Colin a year to get out of this love completely. Later, he really met a boy, and he liked her from the beginning. Colin has a crush on him, too, but he never dares to start paying as soon as he started.
On that day together, he invited many friends, put flowers and candles to let Kelin express his love, and announced loudly that he liked her. Later, for many days together, Colin was very happy. At this time, she said with a grain of salt: "It turns out that falling in love can still be like this. He is too good to me. "
In fact, it is not that he is excellent, but that he is a primitive forest shell and doesn't know what "good for you" is in love. Because he doesn't love forest shells, it doesn't matter, and he can't do the romance and ceremony he deserves.
So, girl, don't be silly, don't lower your bottom line again and again because you like it. You should have your own pride and turn around when it's time to turn around. Only in this way can we reap true love.