A video arouses the feelings of so many netizens and can only be "crammed". How should parents treat children who cannot teach? Let him "let himself go" and always feel sorry for his children. Instead, he will be angry and hold his "head hanging on the beam and stabbing in the stock" every day. Is it so difficult to help with homework? What should parents do?
Parents of the same paragraph:
It's a trivial matter to gnash your teeth, and there are many "heart attacks" and "anger"
"After watching this video, I think the father in the video is me." Mr. Zhao said. Mr Zhao's daughter MengMeng is in Grade Two. Teacher Zhao once helped her with her "practical homework" and almost went to the hospital. Mr. Zhao said that at that time, her daughter was studying mathematical measurement, and the teacher suggested that parents take real objects in life as an example to let children intuitively feel the situation of measurement units such as centimeters, decimeters and meters. Mr. Zhao thought it was very simple, so he took out intuitive tools such as rulers and tape measures and showed his daughter the length of these measuring units. Finally, he asked his daughter, "How high do you think our door is?" The daughter blurted out "2 cents". At that time, Mr. Zhao was still holding a tape measure in his hand.
At that time, Mr. Zhao was very angry and shouted: "How can it be 2 decimeters? How can it be 2 decimeters? " Hear dad such a roar, MengMeng immediately injustice to tears. After that, she refused to continue studying measurement units. Even if her mother came to comfort her, MengMeng was not in the state after that, and still said, "A dictionary is 10 meter thick." Mr. Zhao said that he wanted to jump off the building at that time. "Why are you so stupid? Even with a ruler. "
Mr. Zhao was so angry that he almost jumped off the building. Ms Liu really felt the feeling of "heart attack". When Ms. Liu's son was practicing calligraphy, the teacher told her that when the child encountered the word "mouth", he especially liked to draw a circle instead. The teacher wants parents to help correct it at home. As a result, that night, Ms. Liu went through the whole process of the child drawing a circle and then correcting it, then continuing to draw a circle while she was not paying attention, and then continuing to correct it. Finally, the two men had a quarrel, and Ms. Liu tore up her exercise book. As a result, the child cried very grievance and locked himself in the bedroom. Ms. Liu was so angry that her heart was pounding and she felt that she could not breathe for the next second.
"Flying" parents:
Let the children watch themselves roar first, and then watch themselves reflect.
After listening to her childhood experience, I suddenly realized that every child's growth trajectory is different. Being "poor" now does not mean that the future will be bad. She doesn't scold her children with tears every day, but she is angry to death. It is better to live in peace. Later, Ma quit the tutoring assignment. If the child doesn't know what to do, she really needs counseling. She asked the child to find a good classmate to study. Up to now, although they have not achieved amazing results, Ma said that the two can really be filial. "I am not worried that I will have a heart bypass operation."
Similar to her mother, Ye's mother's mentality is even a little "rotten". Ye Zi's mother said that she has a clear understanding of her growth and orientation. "I didn't study hard since I was a child, which is really bad. I am not qualified to ask my children to be good. " Mother Ye joked, "I am a rabbit, and I can't give birth to a dragon." So Ye Zi's mother has been very tolerant of her since she was in primary school. Besides slowly mastering knowledge, Ye Zi did well in school, and the teacher liked her very much. Although sometimes the teacher insinuates that Yuzryha's mother is concerned about her children's study, Ye's mother still wants her children to let nature take its course. "I don't want to give her pressure. I just want her to grow up healthily and happily, and just be an ordinary person in the future. " Mother Ye's heart is very calm.
Psychological counselor:
Parents can be angry, but they should also be aware of their children's abilities.
Guo Rui, a psychological counselor, said that she especially understands those angry parents. She said that she studied psychology and had coached so many psychological cases, but sometimes she was really "angry" about tutoring her children's homework.
Guo Rui said that many parents are so angry because they measure their children by their abilities. For example, if parents think that they have told their children "1+2=3", then children will certainly know that the answer to "2+ 1" is also 3, but in fact, children who still need your help with their homework may not have developed to this extent. If you keep replacing it with your own abilities,
"Parents yelling at their children will also bring double frustration to their children." Guo Rui said that the child can't do his homework, which means that when he is studying this part of knowledge, he is depressed because he didn't learn it. If parents accuse him of being "stupid" and "unable to learn how to study", the child will fall into the second setback of "I was so stupid" again, hurting the child's heart.
So how can I help with my homework? Guo Rui suggested that it is better to "reduce the difficulty". For example, when tutoring English homework, if the child still can't understand the complete sentence after reading the pen and explaining it to the parents, it is better to disassemble the sentence and use role-playing to reduce the difficulty of the child's homework and let the child learn slowly. Guo Rui said that parents should not be too strict with themselves. Teachers in schools have mastered so much teaching knowledge that they still encounter "headaches" when teaching students. It is unrealistic for parents to want to teach their children at once. The role of parents' homework is actually to cultivate and maintain children's love and interest in learning, such as guiding children to feel the beauty of China's poems and the application of mathematical figures and logic in daily life, so that children who are interested in this subject will have the motivation to learn well.
On the issue of parents' anger, Guo Rui said that in fact, parents can be angry, and their emotions have reached the peak. They must find a channel to vent, but this channel is not yelling at children or hitting them, but communicating with them. For example, if you are really angry with your child, you can clearly tell your child, "Mom is very angry now, especially angry, and can't continue to tutor you. Let's calm each other down first. " Then leave the tutoring homework "site" and wait for parents and children to calm down.
Produced by New Media Operation Department of Guilin Daily.