A lot of women ask the question: Is it good to get married? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and then you'll be able to get a new one.
In fact, I would like to say that it is not possible to express in a few simple words whether it is good or bad to marry far away, and it is not possible to generalize.
Some girls have been blessed and gained happiness by marrying far away from home, while some girls have been persistent in love, but in the end, not only did they fail to get the happiness they wanted, but they also lost all their dignity.
In the end, whether you will be happy if you marry from afar depends on who you marry in the end.
It's like that piece of advice Carnegie wrote to women, "Nothing is more dreadful to a married lady than choosing the wrong partner for herself."
Especially, if that partner is a mommy's boy.
Mom's Boys, as the name suggests, are men whose moms are treated like babies and who think they are everything.
The most important characteristic of them is that they can't make sense of family issues, not only do they not have their own opinions, but also only think of relying on their own mothers when they encounter problems.
If the mother-in-law is sensible, the woman's life is quite good. But if the mother-in-law is not willing to treat her daughter-in-law well, then married to the mom's baby boy, the woman will only fall into the isolation of the point of no help.
Because they simply do not understand the heartache and difficulty of the woman who is married to a woman, everything is only for their own consideration.
When it comes to conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, they know that it is the mother's fault, but they will still choose to stand on the opposite side of the wife, so that the woman suffered a lot of grievances.
Not even five years into the marriage, He Ling regretted it.
She said: my father was sick in hospital, I can not even afford a ticket home. The woman is a fool to marry for love. The woman's husband, who is a mother's son, is even more stupid! I am now, really regretting it.
He Ling and her husband is a university classmate, the two fell in love when they were students, the idea is very simple, all day in addition to learning, is to talk about love, the pressure does not know the social reality.
After graduation, the feelings of the two grew stronger, each other have the intention of marriage. He Ling thought, their love will get everyone's blessing, but did not expect the first to stand out against, is He Ling's parents.
The reason for the parents' opposition is simple: the two families are too far away from each other, and He Ling is not only unable to go back to her mother's house, but also has no one to support her even if she is aggrieved.
Mother said: "When you were in love with him, we did not agree. Now that we're getting married, we don't want to agree to it. Think about it, you are the only daughter in our family, you married so far away, let me and your father how to do? What will you do if you are wronged yourself?"
These He Ling understand, but she does not want to give up this relationship. She even naively thought that all these could be solved after she got married as long as she had a heart.
But she forgot to think about whether the man she married was worth relying on.
Despite her parents' obstruction, He Ling eventually married far away from home. But in the first year of marriage, her marriage was in crisis, mainly because of her mother-in-law.
He Ling's mother-in-law is a strong person, and in this family, no one can refute. And although He Ling's character is not so domineering, she is not weak either. When it comes to things that are not in her favor, she will only argue on the basis of reason, never refusing to compromise.
At first, her mother-in-law was polite to He Ling. But after spending time with her, her true nature was revealed. She is always in charge of He Ling, does not give He Ling a little freedom, even He Ling to buy a piece of clothing, she asked He Ling to report to their own in advance. She also asked He Ling to turn in her paycheck card after a month or so of marriage.
He Ling, of course, was unwilling to do so, and directly quarreled with her mother-in-law. It was this fight that made He Ling realize that her husband was a mama's boy.
He didn't dare to refute his mother at all, knowing that the other party was wrong, but he would only advise He Ling to listen to her mother-in-law, and even blamed He Ling, saying that she shouldn't make her mother angry.
With such a mother-in-law and such a husband, He Ling's married life is not at all happy. But she can only bite the bullet and go on with her life.
What she didn't expect was that the hard times were ahead.
He Ling got married and had children, and originally did not intend to resign. But her mother-in-law was not willing to help her with the child, and she was only concerned about playing mahjong and dancing all day long. He Ling had no choice but to quit her job and become a housewife.
Mother-in-law is very relaxed, every day at meal time on time to go home to eat, eat after a mouth a wipe back to their rooms.
Because of this, He Ling and her mother-in-law did not know how many times to quarrel. But every time, she was forced to bow down. Her mother-in-law is too strong, and her husband never speaks up for her, so she's all alone in the city and can't even find anyone to back her up. Even if she wanted to pack up and go back to her mother's house, it would take her a long time to do so.
What's more, since she got pregnant and quit her job, she's been responsible for almost all of the household expenses.
Smaller vegetables and fruits, as well as powdered milk and baby cribs, were all bought by He Ling with her own savings. I don't think I've ever thought about it too much, I just thought I had the money in my hand. When there is really no money, and then look for the husband to ask for is.
But I didn't realize that when I was looking for money from my husband, the other side was like a different person.
Father had a serious illness, and when He Ling knew, father had been in the hospital for several days. As the only daughter, He Ling felt both guilty and anxious, and only thought of rushing back to her mother's home overnight. But when she bought her ticket home, she realized she had very little left in her balance and couldn't even come up with the money for a plane ticket.
She could only ask her husband for money, but she didn't realize that she would have to deal with a barrage of questions: "What do you want money for? I don't know why I'm doing this, but I'm just going to go home and take the train, why do I have to take the plane? There is nothing wrong with your father, and there is no point in going home."
Later, her husband gave her the money, but He Ling's heart was broken. In that moment, she actually really wanted a divorce. But after the divorce, what about the child? She didn't want the child to suffer the pain of a single-parent family, so she could only simmer down on her own.
Whether or not you can be happy when you marry from afar depends on whether or not the person you marry is worth it.
The other person should not only be good to you, but also have a good character, and more importantly, be able to carry a clear and reasonable. If you marry such a man, no matter what, you won't have a bad life.
But if the other side will only let you suffer, then even if the two have more love, the woman can not feel happy.