Your relationship won't be sensitive and fragile because you are a man's penniless confidante. You can be his listener and reader. There may be a lot of things he won't tell his wife or same-sex friends, but he will tell you. Because you won't be his competition or talk to him like his wife. He feels comfortable and relaxed with you as his confidante. You are an integral part of his life. In this world, what a man needs most, besides a wife, may be a confidante.
The most important thing about being a confidante is to adhere to boundaries. A confidante is not a lover, so there will be no love, but the absence of love does not necessarily mean there is no affection. Men are more likely to identify with confidants. Sometimes they are like siblings, sometimes they are like friends, they can go drinking and traveling together, or sing and dance. Because they are not lovers, they feel especially open and fearless, and even if there is gossip, they do not care. The woman who dares to be a man's friend must be a chivalrous woman, and this kind of bright character will make men appreciate your femininity at the same time.
Often, a wife is a confidante and a confidante is a listener. In front of her, a man can be a tired bird or a prodigal son, tired, lonely, escaping, lazy, and the confidante can accept your darkness, give you peace, and make room for your energy to recover. Only those women who are full of open-mindedness and tolerance, those who have a beautiful heart, are qualified to be a man's confidante. She will not go to steal other people's husbands, but just want to share a good man's spiritual home, make a short stay in his spiritual home, so that each other's hearts are full of pleasure, which is completely different from love.
Just like when a man is sick, his wife cries. She is afraid that you will hurt and die, and she hates to hurt and die for you. She cries and haunts you and moves you and distracts you. And a confidante does not. She's just here to comfort you and make you choose to be strong and take on what life has to offer. I cry because I love you, I don't cry because I understand you. They are completely different in nature. A man once said what a lucky man he is to have a beautiful and virtuous wife and a brave and fearless confidante.
The key to being a man's confidante is to master the "degree". Don't give you any chance to move into a relationship. That will only take you farther. Because the lover's road is only two, one is a divorce you married, built on the basis of other people's pain love will never be happy; another is to break up. There is no forever lover, and lovers don't last forever. But a confidante is different. You can be his confidante for life. Lover tears countless, confidant always sunny. Therefore, the condition of being a confidante is to give him enough care, but don't give him a good feeling, so that he doesn't have the threat of falling in love with him, and doesn't have the impulse and passion to fall in love with you. That's the trick to being a confidante. If you are a smart woman, do a man's confidante, because the confidante is absolutely beautiful.