Colleague Xiaoxi is about 5'5" and a little bit fat, but she is a girl with an extraordinarily girlish heart, and is uniquely partial to small floral dresses. This is not the summer is coming, the girls have felt that the previous year's clothes are not worthy of this year's more excellent themselves, so from time to time have to spend a bit of blood.
Xiaoxi is no exception, one day, she bought a pink dress with an oversized bow in the back, fresh and not too cute.
Everyone chattered away, "It's so pretty, you have such white skin, the pink color looks even more girly." "Yeah, I also think this set of dresses especially match your skin color."
At this moment, another colleague walked slowly over to us and coldly said, "The dress is quite nice, but it doesn't look good on you, and you're so fat that you can't wear it with any temperament." Oh come on, this is the end, the most feared thing is that the air is suddenly quiet, even breathing is flooded with the embarrassment factor. It was estimated that how happy Xiao Xi had just been, how much she wanted to die at this moment.
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Embarrassing someone without regard to occasion and without any boundaries is not in itself a sign of cultivation. But in our daily work and life, this kind of thing is commonplace. You will be surrounded by such people, they play the slogan of "straight talk", to the people of the bad language. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and then you'll be able to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world.
This is the first time I've ever seen a person with a high level of confidence in a computer, and I've never seen one. The first thing you need to do is to get the person to say "no" to you, and then you can say "yes". Then this is really the biggest black pot that "straightforwardness" has ever taken. I don't believe that there is such a thing as a "knife heart", but I do believe that a person with a knife mouth is a person with a knife heart. It is said that the person who says something has no intention of saying it, but the person who hears it has an intention of saying it. You never know how much damage you can do with an unintentional word. As Mencius his old man told us: a good word warms three winters, a bad word three winters cold.
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Before I moved, I had a neighbor who was particularly nosy and had a broken mouth, in his fifties. She was supposed to be an older woman who was a leader in the square dance world, but spent her time taunting others. There was an aunt selling sweet potatoes downstairs in our neighborhood who was especially nice and never lacked pounds. Every noon, a middle-aged man came on his bicycle to bring her food. As soon as he got off the bike, he said, "I'm late, I'm starving, aren't I?"
The man smiled nervously, took out the lunch box from the bicycle basket, sat down next to the aunt, and said gently, "Eat quickly, don't get cold. When I was lamenting their happiness, my neighbor's aunt came up to me, looked at her lunch box and said loudly, "Aigoo, you work so hard to eat this at noon at the stall? The day how so bitter, this eat what ah this is, not a bit of oil and water, really miserable."
Said, while also issued a tsk sigh, face showing a sneer expression, twisted body left. At this time, the aunt, holding the lunch box in her hand stared straight at her back, her eyes filled with tears, baring down. Next to the man's eyes are also red, the atmosphere is depressing people can not breathe. I looked at the scene in front of me, harboring a bellyful of fire in my heart, suddenly especially hoping that she would fall, fall to the ground, fall all over the face. It was simply too damnable alright.
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I often think, many times, we vilify others because of inappropriate speech, seemingly a problem of language organization, but in fact, simply will not do. Because whether intentional or unintentional language vilification, is tantamount to a pot of cold water from the sky, doused not only the other side of the painstaking efforts to ignite the fire, but they are fragmented self-esteem and self-confidence.
I remember when I first got into college, the whole family was especially happy. At that time, my mother said to me, "Now that you've been admitted to college, you'll have to work even harder in the future. In our family, you are the most learned. In those days, the whole family was overflowing with happiness and joy, until an acquaintance asked intentionally or unintentionally, "I heard that your daughter got into college, and she's still very good at it, is it Tsinghua or Peking University?" The father said the name of the school, he immediately showed a surprised look and said, "What kind of school is that, I've never heard of it, this kind of school can't find a job after graduation, right? Even if you go to this school, it's just a pendulum. Or my son is more powerful, he took the exam is a famous school, after graduation, the unit all rush to want him..." After he finished speaking, he patted his butt and walked away, leaving behind the messy father and the messy me.
The atmosphere was inexplicably depressing, and my heart dropped from hot to cold. All of the family's happiness and fulfillment, by the gibberish a burst of cannonballs, blasted out of existence, all the good mood in a moment will be dissipated. But after calming down, my father said to me in a serious manner: "Don't listen to what others say, their mouths will always grow on them, and the days are our own. To punish yourself with the faults of others is one of the silliest things you can do." Over the years, I have remembered my father's words and have used them to remind myself from time to time. Yes, when we look in the mirror, if there is something on our face our first reaction is that the mirror is dirty. So it's the same thing, why should we feel that it's our own fault when others vilify us with their words?
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Life in the world, inevitably bumps and bruises. What's more, we can't avoid encountering a few people who make us feel bad, like a time bomb, they have to come out and blow up from time to time, so we can't defend ourselves. We often say, people's language expression ability, can best reflect a sentiment and cultivation. You will not speak, you cultivation is how, this is not pretend, even if you can muddle through once or twice, there will always be a day will reveal the cloven foot. Because this is the result of years of long-term precipitation, not deliberately interpreted can be covered up. Do not say anything "knife mouth tofu heart", I always believe that a real "tofu heart" people, will not allow themselves to go through the mouth, to hurt others recklessly. When you again to character straight to the reason for their own excuses, not inevitably think about it, their own in the end will not speak, or will not do people? I really don't know whether you can speak or not, but what I can say for sure is that a person who can be a human being will not build his addiction on the pain of others. After all, as a human being, the most basic respect for oneself is just to know how to hold the balance. Really, you talk well, we all talk well, do not use words to hurt people, okay.
People beautiful and talented emotional author, public number: Zhong Niannian
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