The face of forced marriage how to anti-marriage?

The first move, back-of-the-ear defense defense mechanism is a psychological term of the psychoanalytic school, meaning that when people face difficult situations, a kind of inner relief of anxiety. Adaptive tendency psychology has developed to the present day, the defense mechanism is also changing with the times. During the Chinese New Year, Gold, and other large family serials hyped up for release, the exposure of the back-of-the-ear defense is increasing. In the process of fighting with parents and relatives, playing dumb behind the ears is a basic trick, the principle of which is to wear down the patience of elders to change the topic and nip the topic of marriage reminders in the bud. In the face of all the soul torture of family and friends, to uphold the smart play dumb, serious perfunctory purpose, the implementation of selective attention, indirect deafness, persistent deafness 17 words of the core spirit, to create a harmonious and warm, happy atmosphere of the Spring Festival. This defense mechanism is convenient to carry, readily available, the use of the index three stars.

The second trick, attention diversion method. This trick to use, the need for agile responsiveness as well as proactive execution, to know people. Attention resources are limited, if you can do a preemptive, promote each other to shift their attention to themselves, coupled with the chances of hyping will be much less. For example, when the uncle and aunt are going to ask, ah, the daughter is so big, I do not know if there is no find? Auntie drink a mouthful of water. Where does your child work? Uncle, where did your child buy a house? How much is a square meter? You should always be careful to throw the sensitive topics of square dance, pension, marriage, work, mortgage, and second child at each other in order to take the initiative in the fight against marriage reminders. Let aunt and uncle show off, or spit a few words to enhance the interaction, better than the sad practical index of four stars.

The third trick, reasonable **** love law. Once upon a time I had a friend in the mom and dad hyped up, attempted to reason with them, and now he got enteritis, because his whole intestine is green. This story tells us to drink again. When not discussing the issue of urging marriage, you must maintain a strong desire to survive, the Department of reasoning both death, a **** love to draw the point. *** love is not the same as reasoning, *** love is to put yourself in the shoes of others to understand the feelings and emotions. For example, when mom and dad say, you are this age, and then do not find a date, alas, what can be done? Mom, I know you are very anxious, but I look ugly, it is really difficult to find a partner ah right, I understand your feelings, I am as anxious as you, really, but I do not have a house, no car, anxious also useless ah. In short, the appropriate **** love in addition to reducing the number of parents urge to marry, but also to promote the harmony of family relations. For example, mom and dad will close their eyes to comfort you, in fact, you do not look ugly and so on. The practical index of this trick 4.5 stars.