First, freedom, autonomy
When life is still in their own hands, we have to learn to take control of themselves, like a clear sky in the fall, the sky is high and the wind is fresh.
Retired, without the pressure of work, without the hard work of earning a living, without the temptation of fame and fortune, life began a second spring. As far as the average person is concerned, the average life expectancy is around 80 years, which means that we have about 20-30 years at our disposal. At this time, we have unloaded the two burdens of career and family (our children have started their own families, and they have their own family responsibilities), and what is left is our complete selves. What we need to do is: I am in charge of my old age. Think about what long-cherished wishes you had when you were young that you haven't realized, see what new knowledge and skills you can still learn, find those healthier and more appreciated lifestyles, and let the sails of life set sail again.
Second, activities, communication
Human beings are group animals, and we start group activities from the age of two or three, going to kindergarten, school, and work. Human interaction and organizational behavior, so that people in the exchange of active or passive growth and progress, on the one hand, people change the world, on the other hand, people also change the self, which is a win-win result. After retirement, once separated from the group, people are bound to produce a sense of loneliness, a sense of decline, both physical and mental will be harmed, premature aging is inevitable. Therefore, in our age is not too old (about 60 years old), legs and feet are still flexible, the body is still strong, we must participate in a variety of organized activities, so that they move, busy, such as the University of the Elderly, the elderly art group, the elderly Games, the elderly tourism group, community activities, fitness activities, public service activities and so on. In short, they like, have the ability to participate in, the community needs, should be included in their own schedule, planned, selective participation. Let yourself realize: I need these activities, these activities also need me. Psychology recognizes that this need and satisfaction is a necessary element of mental health. In higher education, its necessity and importance is confirmed by the various activities currently organized by the Retirement Association. In various group activities, old teachers and staffs not only improve their status and cultivation (collective concept, cooperative spirit), but also exercise and strengthen their physical fitness, and show their talents, which can be said to be a multi-benefit. Very good, very good!
Our Industrial Retirement Branch, in addition to actively mobilizing more old comrades to participate in the annual school games, has also set up an art troupe, so that the old comrades who like art and can sing and dance to show their talents. Over the past few years, our choir has gone from not being able to sing in parts to being able to sing in four parts, and has been unanimously praised in various performances and competitions organized by the school, especially for singing Chairman Mao's poetic song "Winged Plum", which has become a reserved program of the Art Troupe. We organized a square dance performance, passionate and bold "Horse Pole", lyrical and elegant "Snow Mountain Ajia" (self-written and directed, won the school square dance competition award), everyone sings and dances, beautiful movements, passionate. Not only grew artistic cultivation, cultivate the sentiment, but also exercise the body, the formation of cohesion.
Participating in the activities also has an important purpose, is to communicate with each other, learn from each other's strengths and weaknesses, **** with the improvement. Although older, the reaction is not flexible, but the less communication, the less stimulation of the brain hippocampus, the more it will atrophy, the sooner the person's retardation or dementia will come, some people will also appear mental illness. A good way to prevent dementia is to communicate more, read more, learn more, think more, talk more, and keep the brain in a constant state of excitement. A scientific mode of thinking and a good mental state is one of the signs of happiness in our later years.
Third, pleasure, health
The scientific definition of health includes not only physical health, but also mental health. Mental health refers to: a good state of mind, harmonious interpersonal relationships, scientific knowledge of health care, correct self-knowledge and evaluation. With these basic qualities, we can maintain a high standard and quality of life in our old age; we can be happy every day, make ourselves happy and make others happy.
Ancient Roman philosopher Rossesi said in "On Old Age" that the elderly should not only take care of their bodies, but also pay attention to the health of their reason and mind, and therefore they have to keep learning in their old age. "A man who always makes a living at these studies and works will not perceive that old age is approaching." Life and death come passively in a person's life; all births and deaths are inevitable by nature and we cannot choose them. But what we can control is our own mindset and mood in life. A lifetime will always encounter unpleasant things, the important thing is not to avoid, but to adapt, learn to adapt to science, so that they can get out of the shadow of unpleasantness as soon as possible, to maintain a good state. The goal is to be happy, happy, happy to finish our life should be our goal.
When we were young, we were childish and inexperienced, and we picked up a heavy burden for the sake of our survival and career, and we always stumbled and staggered with the weight on our backs. Now, we are like ripe fruit, plump, can self-manage, to the stage of free choice. We can no longer carry the weight of the past, but should learn to subtract and remove the burden of the past. We should not only clean up the physical space around us and give those useless items to useful people, but also clean up our own inner world, abandoning false perceptions, boring worries and negative emotions. Learn to give up personal grudges, treat the people and things around you well; learn to understand a little more, more tolerance; learn to give up too much desire, no longer for fame and fortune and dispute, and worry about every harvest is seen as a reward for you; learn to let go of the heart of the attachment, children and grandchildren, children and grandchildren, leave your support, they will walk more stable and better. Once traveling light, we not only walk easily, and laugh at life, this is what we want in old age, this is the happiness of old age.