5 simple steps to get you to happiness
5 simple steps to get you to happiness you guys that have heard of it? Happiness is to create their own, many people's happiness is through a small thing to accumulate, but happiness and happiness are coexist, hope the following 5 simple steps to make you towards happiness can help you!
5 Simple Steps to Happiness1
Happiness - often elusive, but a state we all crave.
The reason we are unhappy is simply because our lives don't always turn out to be as miraculous everywhere as we fantasize in our heads. Millions of years after the formation of the universe, the earth appeared and then evolved from apes to us, and our sperm had to traverse heavy competition to become one winner out of millions. Life is a miracle, and our very existence is a reason for happiness.
I know that just thinking without creating is not a practical way for us to achieve happiness. Of course I myself am very practical, and there are other things that make me happy besides learning the ability to change my self-happiness at any given time.
"Happiness is something you create by the process of experiencing it, and no matter where you are right now, you need to learn to choose to enjoy what you have right now while being the best version of yourself."
1. Define Happiness
To come up with this definition, I interviewed nearly 100 people for what I call The Happiness Project. I've read a lot of books on happiness and attended a lot of workshops on improving happiness. What you see as happiness right now may be simple, but ask yourself this question - are you tracking and perpetuating it?
2. Live in the moment
No matter what time it is, live in the moment and feel what you can feel, whether it's seeing, hearing, or doing, it will give you a pleasant feeling. In our fast-paced society, we often allow ourselves to think about the future or reminisce about the past, but only the present moment is a good medicine for happiness and makes us refreshed by change.
3. Improve Yourself
In case you didn't know, sharks have to keep moving forward and circulating water through their gills in order to survive. They even continue to move forward while they sleep. Let's say we humans have a similar problem, then if we don't move forward both physically and mentally, we become weak, stupid or outright destroyed. So the most important responsibility to ourselves is to improve and upgrade.
4. Take responsibility
"I don't have to answer to anyone." -- Have you ever heard someone say this with pride? It may be true, and it may be true that some people just need to hold themselves accountable, but that's not always the best way to live. When you hold yourself accountable to also others, informing them of your goals and aspirations, in a way they will be controlling you mentally, meaning you will have some pressure on you because of them, and instead make sure that you can do things better. This will lead to you reaching your goals more effectively, boosting your self-esteem, and feeling happy and blessed by the accomplishments you have created.
5. Don't stop, just do it
If you are constantly thinking about what will make you happy in the future, then you will gradually get into the habit of trying to deepen your sense of self-happiness. If you want to do something, do it right away, try to do it, and don't stop there. On the contrary, if you are happy with where you are now, then you are feeling happy no matter what the event or location.
"When you try to stay happy, maybe the current unhappiness is also created by you."
5 Simple Steps to Happiness2What is success? What constitutes success? Some people break the law and jeopardize the society for the pursuit of money; some people are physically and mentally exhausted for the pursuit of career, and their families are not in harmony, and they even die young; some people cling to the rich and powerful for the pursuit of fame, and they lose their own selves. In my opinion, this is not the real success; the real success should be to improve the quality of life of oneself and others, and make oneself and others feel happy and blissful while benefiting the society through persistent struggle. After studying "Youth Career Management", I have a lot of feelings. In my opinion, the essence of this course is to guide young people in scientific management and planning for a successful life. After learning this course, my biggest gain is to further clarify a life subject:.
Setting appropriate goals is the first cornerstone of success. The goal is the precursor to action, the formulation of goals can neither be short-sighted, nor over-ambitious, must be in line with reality. I've heard this story: a famous marathon runner in the race before the entire race route to observe a number of iconic references set up as their own along the way a small goal. During the race, every time he accomplished a small goal, he would rejoice and be full of strength, looking forward to accomplishing the next goal, running faster and faster, and finally won the championship. In fact, life is a marathon, everyone from the date of birth began this journey, every milestone on the journey, are the various stages of life 's goals, is the mark of life growth, and the end of the marathon is the ultimate goal of life. This tells us that if a person has only the ultimate goal, but not the daily goals of each period, the recent goals, medium-term goals and the main goal of life, his life will be easy to run into the desert, and gradually can not find the way to the road, and even more can not see the way of the future.
In fact, the process of setting and adjusting goals is also a process of constantly recognizing oneself. There is a book in the world that is the most difficult to read and understand, and that book is yourself. Thousands of years ago, the ancient Greeks took "know thyself" as the ultimate proposition of life, and today most people still have trouble answering such propositions as "who am I" and "what do I really want". Most people today still have trouble answering questions like "Who am I?" and "What do I really want?" So often, we fail to identify the goals that are right for us. I am a young man with goals. I have set two "don'ts" for myself when I set my goals: don't go with the flow and go against my heart; and don't get out of touch with reality and be overly ambitious. When I was a child, I had a lot of wild dreams: to be a soldier, to be the general manager of a large enterprise, to be a good basketball player, and so on. With the growth of age, when I really understand my physical condition, specialties and hobbies, I changed all the previous ideas. Especially the extraordinary years of college entrance examination two years ago made me realize that the disadvantaged group of people with disabilities is one of the most needy groups in the society; in order to fundamentally improve the quality of life of people with disabilities, the most important thing is to let more people with disabilities receive education. As one of the lucky ones among thousands of disabled people, I have decided to do something for the education of disabled people since then. Since I entered the university, the academic atmosphere of the university has intoxicated me with the world of theoretical thinking, and I realize more clearly that: with my current physical condition, it is impossible for me to run around for affairs all day long like other people do, but wandering in the embrace of books, concentrating on studies, and using colorful and profound words to bring my thoughts to the faraway places is the work I am most capable of, and the gap between me and the able-bodied is the smallest.
Therefore, I hope that in the future, with my theoretical knowledge and personal experience, I can contribute to the theoretical study of people with disabilities. In order to realize this ideal, from now on, I want to seize every opportunity to continue to learn, to expand their horizons, to improve the theoretical level and cognitive ability, and in the future, no matter what kind of work, I will make efforts to make people with disabilities live a better life. My teacher once made a hypothesis for us in class: when we are a hundred years old, what do we want the people who come after us to say about our life? I don't expect too much, but if there are still people who can say that I have done something for people with disabilities, that would be the greatest reward for me. One of my favorite quotes is "If you have a dragon in your heart, it is both a torture and a joy." I understand that the "dragon" here is one's ideal and goal; I also know that I am bound to undergo "torture", but I want this kind of "torture" because I already have a dragon in my heart. I also know that I am bound to undergo "torture", but I want this "torture", because I already have a dragon in my heart, which is clearly visible, and it will be the joy of my life to fight for it. Maintaining a positive mindset is the second cornerstone of success. After the goal is set, it is very important to have a positive mindset. Napoleon Hill, the master of success, said: a positive mindset is the health and nutrition of the mind. Such a mind can attract wealth, success, happiness and physical health.
What kind of mindset is considered positive? I summarized three points based on my own personal experience: one is to love life, cherish life, and be a singer of life. I am a disabled person, the disability certainly brings a lot of inconvenience to my life, so that I go to the road to success is full of thorns, can be described as the misfortune of life. But now I have learned to be "frank" in front of this kind of misfortune, to face the disability, face the pain, face the hardships of life. Now, I have been able to treat my disability as a gift of life, and even appreciate this wonderful gift. Without my disability, how could I have experienced a special kind of life training? How could I feel the strong love and care from my family, friends and society? In a sense, 'disability' is a different kind of wealth of my life, it allows me to look at life from more angles, thinking about society, feeling life. Mr. Bing Xin said, "We should be grateful for life when we are happy, and we should be grateful for life when we are in pain." Because life allows us to feel joy and sorrow, experience sweet and sour, there is nothing more than life gives; but also only love life, cherish life, we can establish goals to create a better life. We should always be grateful for life, praise life, and be the singer of life. Secondly, the more frustrated, the more courageous, to be the strongest in life. The journey of life is to continue to overcome the frustration of the journey, everyone will encounter setbacks, the biggest difference between the successful and mediocre is: successful people can calmly face the setbacks, and bravely overcome the setbacks, and thus appreciate the splendor of life; and mediocrity in front of the setbacks to cower in fear, chaotic life, to become a setback of the "victims! ". As a young man with ideals, since we must frankly bear all the life to me, we must frankly accept the challenge of setbacks, do life's strong. Third, get rid of trivial entanglements, do life's wise man. In real life, there are always a lot of things can not meet people's wishes: criticism of the leadership, friends of misunderstanding, the existence of a variety of immoral and irregular phenomena in society ...... are far from our ideal of a harmonious society, easy to make people produce pessimistic and anachronistic mood, one-dimensional denial of the reality, the denial of others, and even the denial of the self, so that we can not control the We can't control our own life. When Zheng Banqiao's sentence "hard to get muddled" out of the flavor of the world, in fact, is to get rid of the annoyance of the transcendent method; a few days ago, I read a dozen hale and hearty centenarians of the secret of longevity, deep understanding of the connotation of the word "tolerance". The wise man of life should be: dialectical understanding of society, open-minded tolerance of all things, poor and low, spoils and insults, single-mindedly create a life, happy to enjoy life. The third cornerstone of success is the scientific management of time.
After setting goals, the most important thing is to transform the goals into reality. The transformation of goals into reality requires a process: only the first daily goals can realize the near-term goals, medium-term goals, long-term goals, and ultimately achieve the ultimate goal. This requires that we must first start from every day, every hour, every minute, accumulate small amounts into a large number, and gather the armpits into a fur, because everything we do needs time as a guarantee. Huxley, the British biologist, said, "Time is least partial and gives 24 hours to anyone; time is also most partial and gives 24 hours to no one." How to make those 24 hours unleash maximum productivity at maximum level is the key to success. There are many ways to manage time scientifically, and there are three that I appreciate the most, and think I must try to strengthen: first, do today's work, finish today's work. This is a famous saying in front of the Harvard University Library, which has guided millions of Harvard students to success. "Today's business" is the foundation of a person's success, only to the realization of today's goals, in order to expect tomorrow's goals, and then run to a more distant future. Realistically speaking, "today's business, today's end" is my most difficult to adhere to the principle, on the one hand, because I myself every day on their own expectations are too high, on the other hand, always expect tomorrow's "remedy", do not know "tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow, what's the difference? I don't realize that "tomorrow is not the same as the next day". In my study, I often "spend one day without sunshine", which not only violates the law of study, but also often affects my daily life. In the coming days, I must further concretize the various goals, to do day-to-day, day-to-day, day-to-day, water always flows, and strive to achieve progress in learning and physical health of the double harvest. Second, do anything to endure loneliness. Loneliness is the basis for effective time management. The human mind's least favorite is loneliness. But in contemporary society, the world has never been as colorful as today, people's novelty of the world has never been as today so increasing, the society of people's mind to withstand loneliness ability of the test has never been as fierce as today. Many people therefore lose themselves, and can no longer be quiet to study and work. Competition in today's society is the competition of the comprehensive quality of the individual, and this comprehensive quality to rely on long-term lonely study and work in order to continue to improve and perfect. To make a difference in society, we must bravely withstand the external test of the mind, management of their own time and mind, enduring loneliness, exclude interference, refuse to temptation, not to complete the intended goal will not stop. The third is to do things clearly prioritized, in the limited time to do the most important things, in the required time to do the most efficient things. People's life can do the work, can learn something is unlimited, while people's time is extremely limited.
So we should always recognize our main goals and central tasks in different periods, and then carry out scientific planning. For example, some students want to go to graduate school, and thus the main goal of this period is to get the graduate school of the ideal institution, which requires you to exclude interference, the most valuable time on the realization of this main goal, with effective time to ensure the realization of the milestones. Please remember Hegel's words: "A man who aspires to great achievements, it must, as Goethe said, know to limit himself. On the contrary, he who tries to do everything can actually do nothing and ends up failing." Persistent and relentless striving is the fourth cornerstone towards success. Whether it's appropriate goals, a positive mindset, or effective time management, there must be a persistent struggle throughout, which is the cornerstone of the "cornerstone". Without this Cornerstone, all of the above is meaningless. Needless to say, "struggle" is every successful person must pass through the road, "one more effort", "more to overcome a few setbacks" are necessary conditions for success. Here I would like to focus on "perseverance". Many people have had a goal, there have been struggles, but a considerable part of the people did not succeed, is because there is no "perseverance and unremitting struggle", successful and mediocre boundaries sometimes lies in the "more than a persistence". As the old saying goes, "Those who have a good start are really complicated, and those who can finish are covered with few." Among all beings, there are those who are gifted and intelligent, and those who have developed their families, but those who are successful in the end are always the "persistent ones". Einstein's success in 99% of the sweat, Lu Xun's world-famous by waiting for the manuscripts, Zhang Haidi from a paraplegic to China's disabled role model and leader of the cause of the disabled, Helen Keller from a no light, no sound, no language environment to grow into a world-famous writer and orator, Qian Xuesen, Ji Xianlin with the accumulation of his life in exchange for "" master" praise - "", "the master". Qian Xuesen, Ji Xianlin with a lifetime of accumulation in exchange for the " master " praise - the success of the past and present are all models of perseverance. I am a person with ordinary talent and physical limitations, but I firmly believe that: Heaven rewards the diligent, the work is not a donation. As long as self-improvement, struggle, the door of success will eventually open to me. Where there is a will, there is a way; break the kettle and sink the boat, a hundred and two Qin passes finally return to Chu; bitter hearted people, the sky will not be disappointed; lying down on the payroll and tasting the guts, three thousand Yuejia can swallow Wu. Let us step on these four cornerstones, towards hope, towards the future, towards success.