I was helping my daughter with her child's grandmother. Once accompanied by my daughter to the hospital to see the child, saw a small child's mother on the back of the old lady followed by a face of dislike and vicious look, I thought it was the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had a conflict, a moment to find that the old lady is the grandmother, at that time, I couldn't understand, the child's mother and their own mothers can be what happened to her, resulting in such a face and attitude? Look at that and I'm about the same age, calm, sharp and dignified maternal mother, definitely does not seem to be a four or six do not understand, stupid and lazy to invite people to annoy people, why is her daughter to her like this? I think my heart is very bad taste, I think if my daughter is like this to me, what should I do?
I think no matter what the reason is, the mother of the child should not blame the grandma or grandpa for helping to take care of the child. Older people who help with childcare should be respected and appreciated. They should be patient and persuasive in communicating with new and old parenting methods, and they should understand that they are helping and should learn and accept new parenting knowledge, rather than treating their children according to their own habits. The child's mother should have patience to remind the old man of his inappropriate behavior and unconscious faults, as long as it is not intentional nonsense.
On the daughter's accusations, the mother of the mother should have a serious conversation with her daughter and tell her: your attitude is not right, I can not stand it. If she doesn't improve, I think she just has no respect for her own mom. She has no respect when she suffers for her, can she have respect and compassion when her mom becomes a burden to her? If it were me, I couldn't continue to put up with this effort and disrespect as much as I do now. I can't continue to put up with it. I'll do my own thing a little earlier, earn myself a little money for my retirement, and prepare my mind for the fact that I don't have any children.
Nowadays, there are a lot of young people who don't know what's going on and don't know how to be grateful, and a lot of young people are still as naive as those who are about 20 years old when they are over 30. I heard a story about a mom who helped her daughter with her kids that was both funny and sad.
A doctor's daughter married in Beijing, gave birth to a child, the man is a native of Beijing, previously in-laws almost 70 years old two in the band, the results of the grandfather is sick, the grandmother to take care of grandpa, the daughter asked their own mom to take. But the doctor and his wife had not yet retired, and the daughter was crying on the phone. The doctor had no choice but to take a few months' leave from work and go to Beijing to help. Daughter and son-in-law live in Beijing city, but work in the Changping District, the two people early in the morning to drive away, seven or eight o'clock at night before returning home, the doctor is basically a person day and night with more than a year old child. Daughter can not rest assured that the child, every day to send their own mom video, send photos, to understand what the child to eat what to wear what to play, collectively with their wishes, a little less than what they want to blame, roar, when the mother of the gas half dead. Later, when the mother of their own money, in Changping daughter of their units near the rental of a house, with the child to live where, close to the parents, thought it would be easier, but who knows, the doctor in addition to bringing children, and to undertake three meals a day plus cleaning chores, the two parents, in addition to play with the child, do not do anything, the meal served on the table, only to come up to eat, eat the dishes and chopsticks on the table and leave, and even the garbage are not thrown, too much trouble, in addition to watching the child play, nothing to do, meals served on the table, only to come up to eat, eat dishes and chopsticks, even the garbage are They don't even throw the garbage away, they are too troublesome, and they only watch TV or play with their cell phones. Usually, my son-in-law doesn't say anything, he just tells his daughter what to do, and what about her? The mother is like a maid, a little bit not good, always blaming, either because she is slow, or because she did not do a good job. Once at dinner outside, the two people only care about their own food, the doctor concentrated on serving the children to eat and drink, a moment of the soup spilled, the daughter said loudly on the spot: "How did you get so careless? Watch it!" Make the side of the people eating all look toward the doctor, the doctor is simply angry, serious damage to self-esteem, hate to leave on the spot, and they are cut off. Think of yourself in a big hospital famous and prestigious woman, in front of the children, suffering not to mention, actually fell to even a nanny is not as good as the doctor, the doctor would like to throw them home the next day.
The child's grandpa was more seriously ill and was admitted to the hospital, and the daughter wanted her mother to continue to bring up the child. The doctor said that she came to pay, please nanny, daughter they do not agree, said to read the news, nanny with children make people afraid. The doctor had to make up his mind, more than a year old child back to his hometown, in his hometown to ask a relative as a bellhop to help bring, the doctor continued to work during the day. Some people ask, is it tiring to bring up such a small child? The doctor said it was fine! Tiredness is secondary, but the main thing is that there is no one to tell me what to do, to blame me for this and that, and I am in a good mood, at least I am in charge of my own family, and I am happy to be alive. The doctor never intends to go to Beijing to bring up her child again, she said, they are not even a little polite to me, condescending, bossy, my own daughter is like this! I am living a life that is too suffocating and undignified.
I am helping my daughter with the child has been two years, the baby is now two years and three months, the first three months of the nanny, then she said the nanny or not, let me help with the child, the night with me to sleep, twenty-four hours a day to follow me now has been two years, have not slept a day of the whole night, the first year of the night, but also up a few times to feed the powdered milk, and now the baby is always kicked at night quilt, a night to him! Covered several times, the daughter also from time to time nitpicking this is not that is not, a few times want to leave, see the lovely baby or stay. Recently, the baby's stomach cold diarrhea, hospital ultrasound and stool examination is a viral gastritis, the hospital prescribed some medicine back to eat, and go to the clinic to see that the baby is food diarrhea and opened several boxes of medicine, back to me to see which drugs are not symptomatic, and there are antibiotics, I did not give him to eat, eat are big hospitals to prescribe the medicine, because the doctor said that viral diarrhea does not need to eat antibiotics, eat the baby's body is not good, so Did not give the baby to eat that medicine, because of this medicine accused me of two days, the baby in my arms under the wow crying or loud accusations, I hold back tears afraid of the baby scared not dare to argue with her, gas I can not sleep for a few days, sisters what should I do ah
The mother takes care of her daughter sitting in the moonlight, from the month of scolding into the month of the month, the daughter of the whole day in tears!
"I give you a child, you have to give me a salary, people in Beijing please nanny 10,000 dollars a month, you give me to open 8000 on the line."
This is the great aunt that year before the birth, please my mother-in-law to take care of her month, my mother-in-law said.
The mother-in-law said, "I don't know what to say, but I'm not sure if I'm right."
She said, "I don't know what to say, but I don't know what to say.
Great aunt's family in the countryside, rural women sit in the month, generally free care of the mother, the great aunt's mother-in-law passed away long ago, so it is to ask the mother's mother to take care of, even if the wages, but also according to the town's wage standards, I did not expect my mother-in-law opening is the standard in Beijing.
On the other hand, the great aunt married a man is very poor, no their own house and land, in the countryside are renting other people's houses and land, her man in the coal mine digging coal, the father-in-law is not good health, perennial medication, she took four-year-old daughter (ex-husband's) at home to work as a farmer to give birth to a child, no one to take care of the really tough.
My sister-in-law, who is not related by blood, feels sorry for her. The days are already tight, and my mother-in-law still needs such a high wage.
My husband thought my mother-in-law was joking, and called her to ask her, she said it was true: "I have no obligation to bring her baby, I will not go without pay."
Hubby said, "She didn't say she wouldn't pay for the work, but 8,000 a month, that's too high."
The mother-in-law said, "How many times will she sit in the moonlight in her life? I'm not sure how many times I've earned her money, but I'm not sure how many times I've earned it. This is the only time you think you're getting me too much?"
In my husband persuasion, she agreed to 3000 also go, 3000 wages in the town is also higher than double, she also asked for money first [face], my husband gave.
Then, the whole month, the mother-in-law, while taking care of her sister-in-law, while scolding her no interest, marrying one man after another are so poor, sister-in-law all day in tears, only behind her back to call me to complain, I advised her to open up a little bit, their own body is important.
Out of the month, the mother-in-law did not mention that back, continue to stay in the home of the great aunt, to time to reach out for money, late one day on the temper scolding.
The great aunt easy to send God difficult to stay a few months, can not stay up, she is in the countryside, where a month to earn 3000 dollars? Every month to the man to ask, to be so she can not open the mouth.
She was so worried that she called me and asked how she could get her mother to leave without making her angry.
We were running a restaurant at the time, so my husband called my mother-in-law and said, "We're very busy with business, so mom come help me for a few days."
My mother-in-law said, "I'm not coming for a few days, I'll do it for a month."
My husband said, "I'm afraid I need help for a few months."
"Then how much do you offer me for a month?"
"3500 with you," it had to be a higher salary for her to come over.
"3500 is too little, your restaurant is too tired, open 4000 I will come."
"Good, 4000 on 4000!"
At that time to hire a waiter is only 1000 yuan a month.
Then the mother-in-law really came to help the great aunt to get rid of this trouble, we stalled, she should be done every day not to do, do not like to pore, do not like to wash dishes, just like to collect money.
But she always miscalculates because she can't remember the price of the food. I did the math, she went to collect the money, and the money would be less. Later we realized that she had secretly hidden some in her bag [cover face].
Did less than two months, her husband and her big fight, the reason is that a customer forgot his cell phone on the table, she collects the plate when hidden, did not say with us.
That customer soon came back, looking for the phone to find gone, asked her to see it, she said she saw another table on the people took it.
But that night, her husband found a cell phone in her apron bag, angry, said: "How much is a cell phone worth? You are trying to stink the reputation of my restaurant! I dare not keep you, you go back!"
The mother-in-law said angrily, "If you want to use people, you call me, and now you say you don't want me, don't want me, and take this month's wages to me! I'm still going to help your sister look after the children!"
Hubby said, "Don't think we really want you to help, it's my sister who can't afford you, so she called me and asked me to call you back. People's parents are thinking about their sons and daughters, you're a mom who is looking at how you can pit your son and daughter against each other!"
"You this mom is bad! How do you eat milk when you were a child do not think you this mom bad? Now you think I'm bad? I am no longer bad you have to call me a mom!"
The mother-in-law left in a rage while scolding.
After all, strange mothers like my mother-in-law are very few, and most mothers are for the sake of their children.
The subject is also for the daughter willing to pay, but was accused of complaining, I can not help but sigh, it is really a family has a difficult time.
If the subject is as strong as my mother-in-law, the daughter not only dare not accuse of complaining, but also speak carefully, for fear of upsetting her mother.
So I think, whether it is the mother or the daughter, do not be too obsequious, but to put their own ideas to speak truthfully, not to quarrel, not to make a fuss, calmly reasoning.
You can tell your daughter: you say this to me, I am very uncomfortable in my heart, if you can not change, then the child can only you hire another person to take care of, I can not stand.
The subject has reached the point of "wanting to cut off the relatives of the old dead", what words dare not say?
Some young people don't think differently. If you don't tell her, she won't know what she said that offended you, and she'll keep on doing what she's doing.
There was a time when I was talking to my mother like this, I always felt that she didn't listen to me, and I couldn't help but get angry and be very loud and mean to her when I said it a few times.
One day my mother talked to me, and after we communicated, I understood why she didn't listen, and realized that I was wrong to be angry with her.
So I suggest that the subject talk to her daughter and say what is in her heart directly.
You say all the grievances in your heart, but there are only two consequences, one is that your daughter changed her attitude towards you, you get along well. The other is that the daughter is not willing to change, but also think you are annoying, then you move out, there is no need to look at the face of the daughter to live.
I am also a grandma with grandchildren, a day exhausted, daughter home from work, the first sentence is, today, to the child what to eat, go out and interact with the children did not sleep how, after a pile of interrogation, began to accuse this is not, that can not, every day so. Finally, one day I couldn't stand it any longer and told her that from tomorrow onwards, she would not take care of the child for you, and that I would live my own life and go home decisively. Although I can not let go of the child, but I gritted my teeth is not to go, quite a few days, and finally she could not stand to give me and his father to buy a pair of shoes each back to please me, I clearly said to her, and then to me to nitpick absolutely will not give you a child again, now much better, cut off the mother-daughter relationship is not possible is also too extreme, let go of a period of time so that she can experience their own feelings of bringing up the child's not easy, is that we can not let go of the only way to let them be at peace with! The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
My uncle and aunt have only one child, my cousin, and my uncle and aunt have been very happy since I was a child, and the only thing that has kept them from being happy is that they have found a husband who is ten years older than them.
Cousin and her husband were introduced by others, not to mention ten years older than her, but also full of pimples, nearly one meter tall, weighing even less than one hundred and twenty pounds. This kind of a person is fascinated by the cousin is not married to him, my uncle said that if the cousin has to marry him, then and cousin cut off the relationship between father and daughter, but the cousin is not afraid of the uncle's threat, and finally the uncle and aunt or did not argue with her.
Cousin not long after the marriage was pregnant, to determine the pregnancy of her first time to my aunt called, she said: Mom, I am pregnant, when the child was born you have to come over to help me with the child.
The cousin's mother-in-law is in her seventies, and her health is not very good, so she can't help her cousin with the baby, and she is working in the system, so she doesn't want to quit, so she has to take care of the baby. The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it, and I'm sure I'm not going to be able to do it.
My cousin has been living in school since she started junior high school. During the summer and winter vacations, my uncle and aunt have to go to work every day, so she hasn't been with my aunt for more than 10 years, and the two of them are very uncomfortable at first sight.
Auntie life thrifty inertia, and the cousin spends money to always spend a lot of money, whether it is to buy fruit or buy snacks, are into the box to buy at home, a lot of fruit can not wait to eat are bad, snacks are also a lot of expiration date, Auntie see will inevitably be a little heartbroken, will not be able to help but chatter a few words. The most unbearable thing for the cousin is to listen to the aunt chatter, the first few times she still endure, and then do not want to endure again will be and my aunt quarrel, but also claimed and did not spend the aunt's money.
In my cousin's eyes, my aunt is not doing anything that is not serious and careful, so every time my aunt finishes her chores, my cousin will check again.
Auntie finished mopping the floor, cousin will check the floor again, from the floor to see a hair on the floor will let Auntie pick up again. After the aunt brushes the dishes, the cousin will also check all the plates and bowls again, and once she finds that one of the bowls is not brushed clean, she will ask the aunt to rinse all the plates and bowls again. The aunt did the same thing with the laundry.
Because the aunt is not assured of doing things, the cousin also installed in the home monitoring, usually in the unit when there is nothing to observe from the monitor my aunt at home is how to bring up the child, if there is a little bit of work is not to her liking, she came home from work in the evening will be fierce my aunt.
Auntie is full of grievances, she said to her cousin: your requirements are too strict, who can do things so perfect, if you are not satisfied with me to bring up the children and do housework, I will simply go back to my hometown, the children you let your mother-in-law to help bring.
The cousin said: "It's obvious that you didn't do a good job, I pointed out to you that you are still not happy, you know my mother-in-law can't help us to bring up the child and you still say this kind of thing, you want to go back to your hometown, you can go back, the worst thing is that I resigned from the job and bring up the child by myself.
Auntie knows that her cousin can do what she says she will do, she and her uncle worked hard to provide her with education, and it was hard for her to find a good job, so she couldn't bear to let her quit her job. The aunt had no choice but to put up with it.
Cousins are sometimes tired after a long day at work or because of something unpleasant that happened between colleagues, and then they arrive home in a bad mood, and their faces don't look very happy. When the aunt sees that her cousin is unhappy, her heart will not feel good, maybe when the mother is like this, she will be careful to ask her cousin why she is unhappy again. I think that the cousin is also not want to let the aunt worry about it, most of the time is to downplay the situation and say that there is nothing wrong.
But one time, the aunt even asked the cousin several times, the cousin finally couldn't help but loudly rushed to the aunt roar: to you said several times not how, how you still ask again and again ah, I'm in the unit of a busy day has been tired enough, come home to relax a little bit, do a little bit of self, want to laugh, don't want to laugh not to laugh, is not my face in their own home still have to be accompanied by the smiling face every day? I have no freedom at all?
Aunt aggrieved tears in the eyes, she said: I am not to see you unhappy some worried about you, want to care about you.
Cousin said: I don't need this kind of concern from you, you are not concerned about me, but a kind of burden, you can help me to bring up the child, the other don't need you to worry about.
Aunt silently returned to her room, lying on the bed with the quilt over her head, and cried a lot.
Aunt will get up every morning at five or six o'clock to make breakfast, 6:30 or so to make breakfast, cousin and her husband began to get up and wash, 7:30 or so they finished breakfast and went to work directly, aunt hastily put together a few mouths to eat, and then began to coax the child, feed the child, while the child sleeps or plays with toys, she cleaned up the house or organize the home, and then began to pick the vegetables and vegetables. The first thing that you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services that you can find in the marketplace, and then you can start picking vegetables, cooking, and feeding your child.
Busy day would like to wait for the evening after work to come back to their own a bit of rest time, but the cousin and her husband came back from work, after dinner on the couch to watch TV or play cell phones, the child does not care, no matter what the child wants to do, the cousin and her husband are letting the child go to find the grandma. By the time she got to bed at night, her aunt was so tired that her body felt like it was falling apart. She genuinely felt that bringing up a child was harder than when she was working.
Sometimes after dinner Auntie would like to go down to a square dance, to the cousin said the cousin is not opposed, but often jumped less than ten minutes cousin began to call Auntie, a child cried coaxing not good, a child pulled a child, a child to look for the maternal grandmother,...... so that Auntie is no longer in the mood to go home. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
Even if the aunt is so paid, the cousin and her husband did not say a word of thanks to the aunt, that the aunt did all this is what she should do. The cousin's husband has even been upset with my aunt because she was against the two of them being together in the first place.
Cousin's husband complains about his wife's bad behavior from time to time, but at first he would say a few words for her, and then slowly she became more and more dissatisfied with her. The child is usually fine, once the child is a little uncomfortable, the cousin will be with her husband to accuse my aunt did not bring the child, either the aunt to give the child too much to eat, or to give the child too little to wear.
Once my aunt had a fever of 39 degrees, my cousin was working overtime that day, and my aunt had such a high fever that she had to carry the baby, and she felt a bit confused. Her son-in-law didn't care about her and the baby, but just sat on the sofa in the living room and watched TV. The aunt was so upset that she couldn't stand it, so she went to the living room and told her son-in-law that she had a fever, and asked him to go to the drugstore to buy some medicine.
This is a very small thing, but I didn't expect her son-in-law to refuse, because he didn't know what kind of medicine to buy for her. The aunt was chilled to the bone, and the child she didn't care about, changed her clothes and went out to buy the medicine.
Coincidentally, when the aunt went out, the cousin gave her husband a call, and instead of mentioning the aunt's fever, he told the cousin that the aunt had left the child and gone out on her own. When the cousin returned home from work, she gave the aunt a hard time. The first time I saw this was when I was a kid, and it was the first time I'd ever seen a kid in my life, and it was the first time I'd ever seen a kid in my life.
Then another incident happened, and the aunt finally couldn't stand it any longer and broke out completely.
Every year on New Year's Eve and the child's birthday, the uncle and the aunt would give the child a red packet, and each time they would give the child a red packet of two thousand dollars. The year of the child's third birthday, the aunt again gave the child the usual two thousand dollars red packet, and that time the child's grandmother, that is, my cousin's mother-in-law for the first time ever gave the child a ten thousand dollars red packet.
The cousin's husband was so impressed that he was able to speak to my aunt with a lot of confidence. The day after the child's birthday, they ate dinner, the cousin's husband and said to the cousin in a conspiratorial way: you see, I said that the grandparents than grandma and grandpa love the child, usually just in the mouth hanging love the child what is the use of ah, to the child's money will be able to see whether it is a real pain or a fake pain.
My aunt is not stupid, naturally, she heard him think that my aunt gave the child less money, and he also whispered to my cousin, my aunt had suppressed a lot of grievances in her heart, and now she doesn't want to bear it anymore.
Aunt put the chopsticks vigorously to the table, said: your parents love the child let your parents to bring the child, don't let me bring here ah, just I have long brought enough! In order to help you take care of the child, I don't even go to work, lose a few thousand dollars every month for nothing, in your place, usually eat at home vegetables and meat, which is not I buy, down to a year of miscellaneous expenses how much money I have spent have you counted? Do you think it's a big deal for your parents to give your child 10,000 dollars? If your parents were to take care of your child, I could give your child 20,000 dollars a year, not to mention 10,000 dollars. The child is now three years old, have your parents ever bought the child a dress or a pair of shoes? Not even a pair of socks. Even so, your parents are still good people in your heart, but I am still a bad person for giving you money and effort! Regardless of good people and bad people, I don't want to stay in your house, I don't want to live a good life, I run to your house to suffer from this aggrievement, what do I want?
Aunt said she went back to her room and locked the door, her cousin knocked on the door and she didn't open it. The next morning, she packed her bags and went back to her hometown.
The cousin had to hire a nanny for her child, and only after the nanny was hired did they realize that the aunt's good, and mentioned several times to let the aunt go back to the house, but the aunt did not even think about it, and refused, and the aunt said in a profound way, "If I continue to stay in your family, I may even lose your only daughter.
I found that there is a phenomenon around, the son of the old man is always envious of those who help the daughter of the old man, that help the daughter of the child will not have so much trouble, but the fact is, whether it is to help the son of the child or to help the daughter of the child, the old man is not easy to live, and young people and the occurrence of a variety of contradictions.
What are some of the frustrations of helping your daughter with her children?
1, and son-in-law do not get along too well.
Mother-in-law and son-in-law are actually in a similar situation with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, although the son-in-law is a man, may be in many small things, not like the daughter-in-law so much love, but still inevitably will produce a lot of contradictions with the mother-in-law. If the son-in-law and mother-in-law are more generous okay, once one party is more stingy, then the problem between them is inevitable. Accumulated, the son-in-law will have a lot of dissatisfaction with the mother-in-law, the daily life will be more formal and awkward.
2. Living with your son-in-law will be a lot of inconvenience in your life.
It's just like a father-in-law and daughter-in-law, in the son's home, when the mother may pay a little attention to it, and in the daughter's home, especially in the summer, it will be very inconvenient. After the bath must hurry to wear the board square, usually go to the bathroom also have to close the door tightly, in short, there are a lot of places are not very convenient.
3. My daughter blames herself when her child is sick.
The son of a big grin, may be a lot of things will not be too much, but the daughter of a mother, the child a little uncomfortable will be very nervous, will analyze why the child is sick, and finally will be the cause of the child's illness pushed to the body of their own old man. It is said that the daughter is a sweet little coat, this is true, but because and parents are more intimate, so speak to the words will be carefree, what is in the heart directly out, and these words in the ears of the elderly may be a little sad.
4, and the daughter son-in-law living habits of different, frequent quarrels.
Everyone has everyone's habits, who can't change who, who can't persuade who, the final result is that the two sides over and over again quarrel. Who all think they have a point, do not think they are doing wrong, so the gap between each other will become deeper and deeper. The old man in the daughter's home to stay more and more unpleasant.
In short, whether it is to help the daughter to bring up the child or to help the son to bring up the child is not easy, the family has a difficult to read the scripture. The old man on the children more tolerant, do their own part of the matter, less on the children's business to point fingers, not to mention behind the scenes to provoke right and wrong. The children of the elderly more understanding, more grateful, do not move on the old man lost his temper.
The two sides of the unpleasant things happen, are calm to sit down and communicate, so that the family atmosphere can be more harmonious and pleasant.
The treatment of gas does not support the family, why do we need to do hitched to the fate of the gods do not like it?
At this age, we should be able to do the favor and not be afraid, why should we be so angry because of the child's ignorance?
The concepts of the two generations are definitely two cars running on two different roads. And in the matter of bringing up children, the old and new concepts must collide. I remember when my son was just a few days old, his little butt was drowned in urine, and it was red like a little monkey's butt.
My old mother brought a bag of fried fine river sand. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to do it," he said. But the result was that the skin fell off one day, and it was only after listening to the doctor and applying ointment that the problem was solved.
We are "helping" our daughters to bring up their children, and the children are theirs, so it's not enough to do everything according to their opinions. If you're not satisfied, then we'll take the initiative to retreat, and we won't serve you anymore.
As for the idea of breaking up the relationship, this is a gas, anyway, ask me, I do not have this idea. The relationship is good to move around a little harder, the relationship is not good to less to come to some, why put words so absolutely?
There is no such idea. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to do it," he said. The principle: let the children understand, if you want the parents to take the child, all according to the parents of the ways and means to bring, the children want to blame, the parents will not take the child. Some of the ways and means of parents may not be scientific, but most of them are experienced with the method of bringing, children can communicate with their parents new concepts of bringing children. Your daughter accuses you, the actual is also your education failure, generally, do not blame the daughter, but certainly will communicate with the mother. On the other hand, we are only responsible for helping to bring up children, not responsible for helping our daughter and son-in-law to cook and do housework. The in-laws are the same way.
Just follow your own plan! If you don't want to do it, don't do it Why should you serve them and not fall in line?
Through this incident, we can see that the girl and her mother's attitude is not only on the issue of bringing up children, but also in the past, she did not put her mother in the eyes of the eye, no respect, belittling her, and randomly accusing her of being a "commonplace", which is already a habit. Such a situation by consciously waking up is difficult, because she simply do not know how to respect her mother ...... in the matter of helping to look after children, the old and the new concepts are different, the methods of the elderly may not be idealized, a little adapted to the young people's requirements, but teaching and learning, mutual exchange of views will be, and can not always be in the accusation, since this is not reconcilable, there is no understanding and tolerance, and the family has been accustomed to it. Since this is irreconcilable, there is no understanding and tolerance, or temporarily leave the better. Of course, mothers should not go to the extreme, "severance" of such things can not be easily said, let alone done! Just make your attitude clear that you don't fit the requirements, it's hard to get into the role, so just leave early and don't get in trouble. Let the girl find another nanny to take care of it. As a mother to be calm, do not panic when things do not panic, the main idea to be clear, the idea is to be correct, can afford to let go, or the girl more wanton, more disrespectful to you.