#Emotion#In the 1970s, people needed three things to get married, including a bicycle, a sewing machine and a watch, and sometimes a radio. In the eighties, these three things became a TV show, refrigerator and washing machine. In the nineties, men began to need a bridal chamber, as well as gold rings and earrings.
Modern marriage, house, car is indispensable. When dating, the woman's first concern is whether the man has a car and a house. If you don't have a house, she basically won't take the next step with you. This is not to say that women nowadays have become snobbish, but the reality of the situation is so.
If the man does not have a house, both parties have no place to live after marriage, or the two can only live with the man or the woman's parents, which is unacceptable to many young people.
Perhaps, the man can rent a house to serve as a matrimonial home, but the woman's parents most likely won't agree to the marriage, and they don't want their daughter's future to be spent in a cramped rented house. And a rented house gives you a different feeling on a psychological level than your own house. A rented house gives you a feeling of being adrift, while your own house is more of a home.
It is because of people's immediate need for a house that house prices have been skyrocketing everywhere. But in order that their sons can get married, many parents do not hesitate to spend most of their life's money to prepare the wedding house for their sons. Parents' love is always selfless, they never expect their children's return, they only want their children to live well. That's why many parents will not live in their son's house even if they go out to rent a room for their children's house, after selling the house they live in.
But many women's parents will not be so, many of them even moved directly into the young couple's new house, which makes the man's parents have an imbalance in the heart of the idea: "I poured all my money to buy a house for my son to get married, the in-laws did not spend a penny to live in, I feel aggrieved."
Chen Chao and Minnie after graduating from college, they stayed in Hefei to work. Chen Chao is from the small county of Maanshan, the family is quite well-off. The two are the only children in their family, while Minnie comes from a small village in Jinzhai, where the family is in a more difficult situation.
When Chen Chao brought Minnie back to see his parents, his parents were more open-minded and did not dislike Minnie's family. Because in their eyes, Xiao Min is the only child in the family, at most her parents need to support, and will not cause too much pressure on Chen Chao's future. And they have long prepared a sum of money for Chen Chao, enough for Chen Chao to buy a fairly good house in the local area.
But after both parents met, Minnie's parents were not satisfied with the house they prepared: "Your son and my daughter are now working in Hefei, and the development is not bad, the children want to go to a bigger city development. If they go back to your county, they certainly can't find better jobs, why don't you buy them a house in Hefei, and save them the trouble of having to rent a room in Hefei!"
And Hefei, as the capital of Anhui Province, has been developing rapidly in recent years, and housing prices have risen even higher, several times higher than in previous years. The money Chen Chao's parents were going to buy a house in their county was obviously not enough to buy a house in Hefei, so they were silent in the face of their in-laws' demands. Instead, Xiao Min's parents dropped a line: "Your family will either buy a house in Hefei or not marry my daughter. She is the princess of my family, a person who will do great things in the future, how can she go to your small county to settle down."
After returning home, they remembered how happy Chen Chao and Xiao Min were when they were together, and resolved to raise money to buy Chen Chao a house in Hefei. In the end, they sold their house in their hometown and barely managed to buy Chen Chao a house in Hefei. And they deliberately bought a three-room house in consideration of their future grandchildren.
After participating in the wedding of Xiaomin and Chen Chao, their parents were ready to stay and accompany Xiaomin for a while. Chen Chao's parents also expressed understanding, after all, Xiao Min's parents raised more than twenty years of daughter married far away, parents must be reluctant to leave. They thought that the in-laws would stay for a few days at most, and then go back. However, Xiao Min's parents stayed for a few months, and had no intention of moving out, and even moved some of the family's things over.
Chen Chao's parents then realized that the in-laws let themselves buy a house in Hefei, in order that their own family can move to live in Hefei. Looking at the rental house they were in, Chen Chao's parents became furious and took the nearest train to Hefei.
When he arrived at Chen Chao's house, it was already evening. Chen Chao and Minnie were home from work, while Minnie's parents were out square dancing. He threw Minnie's parents' things out the door in a fit of anger, despite Chen Chao's obstruction. When Minnie's parents came back, Chen Chao's father was even more ready to fight. Fortunately, with Xiaomin and Chen Chao's discouragement, both sides did not get hurt. In the end, it was only at the stern request of Chen Chao's father that Minnie's parents agreed to move out of their house.
The relationship between the in-laws, which was originally harmonious, was also broken because of this incident. In fact, when we analyze this matter, it is not difficult to see that Minnie's parents did go a bit too far. Chen Chao's parents have met their requirements, in Hefei to buy a wedding house, but they moved over to live by themselves, which led to the impulsive behavior of Chen Chao's parents.
In fact, there are many similar incidents in real life, where both parents are upset because their daughters favor the other's parents. But Dabai still hope that all parents can adjust their mindset. Children and grandchildren are blessed by their children and grandchildren, as parents should believe in their own children and should also sympathize with them. They surely love you, and the occasional favoritism to the in-laws is understandable. There's no need for you to get angry over these little things, it's not good for their marriage and even worse for your health.
Marriage, is a product of the union of two families. The fact that two previously unrelated families cross paths because of the marriage of their children is a rare event in itself. In the face of the conflict between the two families, we should sit down and negotiate together to solve the problem, do not let each other's conflicts affect the children's marriage.