Man and Woman
Praise, like a climber's sense of direction can be lost in the direction of the discovery of new footprints, and the lack of praise for the lack of self-confidence, and the darkness of the heart of the future has a lot of uncertainty, as the saying goes, the good words of a sentence of the three winters, the bad words of the people hurt people in June, no matter whether it is an adult or a child. Everyone likes to hear words of encouragement and praise, because praise and encouragement are recognized and expected.
Especially in the face of some difficulties or do not do things well, encouragement and praise will play a big role, and criticism of the words of the fight but let things become worse, do things more fear, many parents often complain that the child is not here, there is no good, in fact, this is a kind of criticism of the fight, why the school bully's grades will be more and more better, and the scum's grades are more and more poor, this is also because praise is a good thing, but also because of the good things that are done by the children, the children's grades are more and more bad.
That is to say, to educate a child well, parents must have the ability to praise the child, but praise the child more need to be skillful, we can think back to the unusual life of praise the child several ways, such as "you're great", "do really good! "
These are the most common ways of praising a child in a normal life.
These praises may not sound like a problem, but the positive dynamics contained in them are relatively vague, especially if you often listen to these praises of the child will find them boring, and show either arrogance and arrogance, or listen to the usual unresponsive, and at this time, the parents of the child's praise should know how to change the way.
How to praise the exciting? Personally, I think the praise should be praised the main achievements, with targeted praise to praise the details, praise the essence, such as the following 8 kinds of praise:
1, praise the details of the child's work Xiangxiang
Careful praise, not only in the tiny things, but also the child's consideration of the problem Xiangxiang, and the multiple perspectives of the problem presented by the child. As well as multi-perspective consideration of the problem presented by the careful effect, if your child went out and took the initiative to ask for a cup of water, then parents must remember to praise the child this excellent, tell the child "baby, you remember to go out and bring a cup of water, this is doing great, dad (mom) did not think of it, after you when our teachers to remind Oh!
These are the first time I've ever seen a child in a computer.
2, praise the children involved in the sense of cooperation
Any time, anything, the power of the team can not be ignored, the development of children's sense of teamwork is also equivalent to improve the children's social skills, if your child is playing toys, or do something difficult, know how to go to the invitation of others to participate in the time should not forget to praise, tell the children, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. If your child is having difficulty playing with a toy or doing something, don't forget to praise him or her and tell him or her, "You're doing a great job working with your buddies, and if you can keep it up, I'm sure you'll be able to solve any big problems you encounter in the future.
3, praise the child to see things creative
Everyone has different ideas and creativity on everything, the younger the child their creativity the more strange and weird, and the children of those strange and wonderful, in fact, is exactly the accumulation of thinking and creativity, but also may be the children in the many times after the reverie of the brain. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you're doing, and how you're doing it, and how you're doing it.
4, praise the child to honor the honesty and trustworthiness
Everyone, including children, it is difficult to do completely consciously, more often than not in the supervision of other people to go consciously, want to keep the child credit, then the parents will have to be in the child honesty and trustworthiness of the child to praise him, for example, we stipulate that the child will only watch half an hour of television, set the alarm clock, and then the child will be able to watch the TV, the TV, the TV, the TV, the TV, the TV, the TV, the TV, the TV, the TV. The first thing that you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you're doing and how you're going to do it, and how you're going to do it.
5, praise the child's enthusiasm to help others
Everyone has a period of enthusiasm to help others, we can think back to the child in kindergarten or so, is not they always want to go home to help their parents to do some of the chores, such as sweeping the floor, wipe the table or wash the dishes, which is because the child in kindergarten to learn a lot of good habits, and then come home to do some of the chores, such as sweeping the floor, wipe the table or wash the dishes. This is because children learn a lot of good habits in kindergarten, and when they come home, they think about applying them. If we praise our children when they help with their chores, instead of saying, "Wait until you're older, then do it again," the children's enthusiasm for helping others will continue to be recognized, and over time, their sense of gratitude will be y rooted in their hearts, just like a habit.
6, praise the child to do things not afraid of bravery
Bravery, like the darkness of the star lighting before and after the footprints of the walk, the child was brave, does not mean they can always be brave, if the child is eager to be praised when the parents scolded, or even criticized the child this did not do well, that did not do well, in the self-confidence of the exploitation of the child will become less courageous. The child's self-confidence is exploited and the child becomes less brave, they are not confident in themselves, so they do not dare to try and do not want to try.
So, when the child to do things positively, not afraid of difficulties brave, parents must actively praise not language stingy, give children timely encouragement in order to be confident and strong, in the face of difficulties will not cower or fear, brave is a turning point towards a new stage, as long as the breakthrough of the difficulties ushered in a new inflection point, it is the darkness of the village of bright and clear. The first thing you need to do is to get out of the way and get out of the way.
7, praise the child responsible for the management of leadership
Some children are born with a strong leadership ability, such as the small time to see the square dance, like to stand in the conspicuous C, coupled with the cute action, cute expression is a proper "star"! "
Some parents may be more cautious, they do not trust their children to stay in the noisy streets, and over-protecting them will make them lose the opportunity to stand in the C leadership, which will gradually affect their children's social and language output ability.
In other words, when a child is particularly motivated to do something, don't douse the child's enthusiasm, but encourage the child to do it as much as possible - that's management, and that's where the child's leadership skills and experience come into play.
8, praise the child is not afraid of failure perseverance
In the way of praise, parents in addition to the above plot in time to praise the child, but also do not ignore the praise of the child is not afraid of failure perseverance, for example, the child walk too fast to wrestle did not cry, we have to timely say to the child "Baby, you see how great you are doing, fell and did not cry, if you can stand up strong, it is even more powerful".
It should be noted that parents praise their children's bravery when it is best to encourage children to break through the difficulties, in the new difficulties in the breakthrough is also equivalent to improve the child's practice, courage, including the positive ability to praise the child in fact, in general, is aimed at a certain thing to fine praise, fine praise, which is easier to attract the attention of the child than "you're great," such a monotonous praise. It's easier to attract children than the monotonous praise, and it's also easier to learn more about your child in more communication, so you can really streamline your education!