Contents Part 1: Change your thinking 1. Define success in your own way. 2. Find out what type of ambition you have. 3. Set personal goals. 4. Develop specific strategies. 5. Set clear boundaries. 6. Play to your strengths. Part 2: Develop good habits 1. Train flexibility. 2. Eliminate negative thoughts. 3. Build confidence. 4. Be a realistic person. 5. Make healthy choices. Part 3: Maintain your ambitions 1. Learn from setbacks (failures). 2. Find creative solutions. 3. Use visualization methods. 4. Remind yourself why this ambition is so important to you. 5. Restore morale. Making up your mind is a skill that can be learned. To be determined, you need to set a goal and be willing to work hard for it, but it is completely achievable! Train your self-confidence, think flexibly, and use failures and setbacks as learning opportunities. So, let’s start from step 1.
Part 1: Change your thinking
1. Define success in your own way. Not everyone has aspirations. Having ambition requires you to have backbone and a strong will to achieve it. Remember, different people's definition of success can be very different. Start with your basics. Think about what success is first. Is it successful to get a degree in psychology and become a child counselor? Is getting married and having children a success?
Ask yourself these questions: What is daydreaming? How do you want others to see you? What contribution do you want to make to the world? What do you want to leave behind after you die (contribution, even trouble, etc.)? These questions may give you a clearer idea of ??what success is and what it takes to achieve it.
Think about what can bring happiness to yourself, rather than what can bring joy to your parents, friends or society. If you think happiness means having a farm (with camels on it, in the middle of nowhere), then you need to start thinking about how to make these things happen.
2. Find out the type of your ambition. There are many types of aspirations, and people often use the word in different contexts. Some ambitions are more practical, while others need to be combined with other types of ambitions. Uphill ambitions are decisions that are fraught with obstacles and may require you to work extra hard to achieve them. For example, a high school student needs to graduate early by taking more credits, and he also needs to work part-time. This type of determination requires crossing difficult terrain, it can consume a lot of energy, and such determination sometimes does not last very long.
Coastline ambitions are those that are long-term and may require you to sacrifice short-term satisfaction. This type of ambition is an action, not a reaction; achieving it requires discipline and knowing what you want. An example to illustrate this type of resolution is someone who wants to save money to travel. If you want to achieve your travel plans (long-term goals), then you can't eat out often (short-term gratification).
On their own, both ambitions are good, and sometimes they need to be used in conjunction with each other. Sometimes, you need uphill ambition more than coastline ambition, because you may encounter problems that need to be solved immediately at any time.
3. Set personal goals. Once you know what success is, then you need to set goals (setting goals helps you achieve success). You'd better combine big goals with small goals, so that you can constantly feel the joy of success and support you to keep going. This also helps you achieve your goals step by step. If you focus too much on the big picture (the big goal, or the ultimate success), you will feel overwhelmed at the beginning, and it will be difficult for you to stick with it.
For example, if your definition of success is publishing a novel, then your goals would include: writing the book, editing, learning the publishing industry, finding a literary agent, writing a synopsis and cover letter, Send manuscripts to various agents and publishers.
4. Develop specific strategies.
Once you set your goals (what you want to achieve), you need to start developing specific strategies so that you can ultimately achieve those goals. The more detailed and specific a strategy is, the easier it will be to execute. When these strategies are feasible, you'll be able to stay motivated. Create a timetable for your goals. Record them in your calendar so you can follow them step by step. Make a list of big long-term goals and small short-term goals that can help you achieve your larger goals.
Goals and timelines should remain flexible. Don't beat yourself up if you need more time to complete a goal, or if you feel like the goal isn't actually important.
Make a plan to deal with temptations. Sometimes it happens that something makes you want to abandon your original plan, or makes you interrupt your original plan. You need to have a plan in place to handle these situations so that you don’t give up and become addicted to short-term gratification. For example, for a person who is planning to travel, they need to always hint that they have made up their mind to travel and that they need to save money so that they will not be tempted (to eat in a restaurant). At the same time, they can also create a meal plan so that they will not eat out easily.
5. Set clear boundaries. If you don't have a clear understanding of your goals, if you don't know what it means to exceed your limits, then you will have a hard time accomplishing your set goals, even if you have made up your mind. This doesn't mean you have to limit yourself, because you don't want to limit yourself too much. But if you know the boundaries, it will be much easier to accomplish your goals. For example: instead of saying generally "I plan to write a novel every day," you should set a specific time "I plan to write a novel every morning between 6 and 8 a.m." There can be no ambiguity in this matter. You should set specific parameters, which will make things easier to implement.
6. Use your strengths. When you get feedback or work on improving yourself, you usually focus on those things you need to improve on. But you also have to find your strengths, play to your strengths, and use your determination to achieve ultimate success. Never neglect these things. Ask your friends, colleagues, family, and teachers to give examples of your strengths (when you demonstrate them). Find the similarities between these examples and create a "strength map" (your own strengths).
For example: If people give you examples of how you are honest, hardworking, and always come up with creative solutions, you will have a general idea of ??what your strengths are.
Part 2: Develop good habits
1. Train flexibility. A very important skill is to develop flexibility. This doesn’t mean you need to be flexible (folding your body like a burrito), but it means you need to be flexible to handle life’s problems (life’s curveballs). When you deliberately want something to happen, you may overlook some random opportunities. Test your goals and strategies. When you are 34 years old, you don't have to think about what a 24-year-old can do, it doesn't matter anymore. People will change and grow. You must look forward and ensure that the goals you set are advanced. Don't think you have to do something, and don't be too persistent (get into a dead end). If something doesn't contribute to your success, give up on it as early as possible.
Try new things. Stepping outside of your familiar territory will keep you flexible and better able to handle unexpected situations. This is also a great way to make up your mind. For example: If you have never been outdoors before, try going out for a hike and start small. You can climb the entire mountain or go on a night hike.
Change your daily habits. This is a great way to change your routine thinking; it allows you to be flexible and deal with unexpected situations. Take a chance and instead of driving home, allow yourself to take the bus or ride your bike home. After get off work, try something fun, or go to a new coffee shop (not your usual coffee shop).
In order to get yourself into sleep quickly, you can turn off electronic devices (such as computers, mobile phones, iPods, etc.) 30 minutes (at least 30 minutes) before going to bed.
Choose healthy foods. Eat more vegetables and fruits (especially green vegetables or colored vegetables, because these vegetables contain more nutrients). Don't eat too much sugar, salt, or processed foods, which can make you tired and even make you feel sluggish. Brown rice, oats, and malt are good carbohydrate foods. Eat enough protein (such as eggs, fish, lean meat, etc.).
Exercise for 30 minutes every day. Exercise causes the body to release some good chemicals, such as endorphins, which give the body more energy and make you feel happier. If you stick to it for a long time, anything can be used as exercise, such as playing music, ballroom dancing, etc.
Part 3: Maintain your ambitions
1. Learn from setbacks (failures). Ambitious people never regard setbacks as "failure". No matter how well prepared you are, setbacks (and the experiences they bring) are bound to occur. In most cases, setbacks and "failures" are actually opportunities (it sounds like a cliché, but it's true). Reframe the problem (re-understand the problem). Thinking about "why" is a good way to analyze things. For example, if you want to build a bridge across a river, then you need to think about why you want to build the bridge. Your answer might be "Because I want to get to the other side of the river." Of course, there are many ways to get to the other side of the river (ferry system, tunnels, hot air balloons, etc.). Think about why it is necessary to build a bridge; to expand your thinking, you can even ask further questions (Why do you need to cross this river? Are there any materials that can be used, etc.). Asking these questions can give you a new perspective on the matter.
Ask yourself what you learned from your "failures." What would you change if you had another chance? What factors combined to cause this "failure"? Is failure really as bad as you fear?
Fear of failure is one of the reasons why people give up on their goals. However, this depends largely on who is involved. Seeing "failure" as a basis instead of blindly worrying about "failure" will make it easier for you to achieve your goals.
2. Find creative solutions. Breaking out of your usual mental framework can help you stay on track and achieve your goals. This is especially important when you encounter setbacks, because creative solutions can often open your mind to options you might not have considered. Daydreaming is actually a very useful tool. When you encounter a problem, take some time to daydream and let your thoughts "fly" freely. The period before bed is a good time to daydream, but not necessarily at this time. Daydreaming can occur at any time.
Ask yourself some questions, use this method to expand your thinking, and then creatively solve the problems you encounter. : If you had all the resources in the world, how would you solve this problem? If there was no possibility of failure, would you try? If you didn't have to worry about budget, what resources would you use? If you could ask anyone for help, who would it be?
3. Use visualization methods. While this may sound a little strange, visualization is actually a powerful technique that can strengthen your resolve. In the process of achieving your goals, you can try to use visualization techniques. The more visual the goal is (sounds, smells, specific details), the more likely you are to actually achieve it. Try meditating every day. This helps calm your brain so you can focus more on what you think is important. Try to meditate for at least 15 minutes every day (or choose a specific number of breaths so you don't have to keep looking at the clock).
4. Remind yourself why this ambition is so important to you. If you don't know why, it's hard to stick with it. If you neglect the things that are important to you, they will be difficult to achieve.
When you face temptation, you have to ask yourself; "What will I lose if I give in to this?" For example: If you can't resist the temptation and spend your money on a big meal instead of saving it for a trip, Then you have to remind yourself of what you're going to lose (you might have to spend more time saving; or you might not be able to play as much because you don't have that much money).
5. Restore morale. Sometimes, you really need a good rest to restore your energy. There is nothing wrong with taking a break! Taking a break does not mean that you have no ambition. On the contrary, taking a break is to conserve more energy to achieve your goals. [[Image: Be Determined
Tips: You should reward your efforts and achievements. At the same time, this is also a good motivation (motivating yourself to work harder).
Build confidence by recalling your achievements. Remind yourself: You have already accomplished a lot; use this to motivate yourself and keep going with determination.
Warning: drink less. Alcohol lowers your blood sugar levels and weakens your willpower.