Today's era, there is such a phenomenon exists: is the more not married to have children women, the more excellent. You can see that "excellence" has now become a burden.
This burden reflects the problem that women are not good at finding a partner, and it is difficult to organize a family. I remember once read this sentence: undergraduate women like Huang Rong, master's degree women like Li Mochou, doctoral women like the exterminator, and 35-year-old unmarried doctoral women is the East is undefeated.
35 years old for women, the age has been not small, can be said to have passed their youthful years, may be 35 years old before someone called you "sister", but once the age of 35 years old will be directly called "auntie".
Even in the shopping malls to recommend you to the cosmetic counter, will directly recommend you some anti-wrinkle products, as if yesterday or a youthful girl, today became a middle-aged woman.
It is said that after 35 years of age, women have not married, then later only married two marriage, want to find a heart, it is much more difficult, because at this time, even if you look at someone else, others will be skeptical of you for fear that you can not give birth to a child.
1, the chickens in the flock to find the phoenix
YanYan from a young age has shown her unique talent, learning is among the best, has been friends, neighbors in the eyes of other people's children, and finally more than the famous school.
At the time of graduation, Yan Yan's mother wanted Yan Yan to find a job close to home, and later to stay by her side when she became a family member, but Yan Yan went behind her back and secretly enrolled in the doctoral program.
Other children's parents are worried about their children do not study, but Yeon Yeon's mother is too good for the child to learn and worry about it, so she did not expect is that the year of the second year of the Bo Yeon Yeon also applied for a place to study abroad, which makes Yeon Yeon's mother even more unable to sit down, because she felt that they are Yeon Yeon this child, and later in the future in the foreign world mixing well, and then hand over a foreign boy, settled in the foreign country how to do!
Well, the good thing is that Yan Yan's mind is used in the study, for love is like a blank sheet of paper, I do not know whether it is because there is no talent for love, or because there is no time, Yan Yan now even the shadow of the boyfriend did not see.
Looking at the people of her age, she has a family with children, and Yan Yan is still not panicking, just immersed in the world of knowledge, every day is to study the things on her specialty. See Yeon has been like this, mom began to anxious about her said: you are 30 people, how not for their own life matters anxious it? In a few years the good men are picked out, or you can only marry the second marriage!
Forced by the pressure of the family, Yan Yan finally embarked on the road of dating, but this time to find the right person is not an easy thing, can only be found in the "chicken flock side of the phoenix", because Yan Yan mom think Yan Yan is a doctor, looking for the general public how can that!
2, the reality is very cruel
Beginning of the time, Yan Yan's mother on the daughter object is not worried, after all, her daughter's education, income, value are not to speak of, and find a car, a house, a successful person is not difficult.
But after a number of blind dates down, although see people is quite a lot, but really with their own imagination is very different, Yan Yan so far did not meet a suitable, so high not low, a wink of 2 years past, even the introduction of the object of a lot less.
The blind date was forced to stop, and Yeon put into her career, although now Yeon also bought his own car, bought a house, can be said to be considered a successful person, but Yeon's mom saw his daughter is almost 35 years old, and began to be anxious about it.
For the sake of her daughter's business, she square dance is not going to jump, focus on the daughter's busy, not only around to listen to whether there is a suitable guy, but also went to the marriage agency enrollment, but the standard in mind is indeed a drop again and again: there is no garage it is okay, preferably unmarried, the second marriage is also into but can not have a child.
3, I got married just to have children
The yellow sky is not responsible for the people, finally found a relatively suitable "man", but he is already almost 40 years old, has its own company, all aspects of the conditions are not bad, but also very elegant.
YanYan also wanted to get along first to see, but finally the man suddenly put forward a request: "We are adults, have to try together!
Yeon also understood the meaning of this sentence, but she even kept her first kiss, directly to the next step is a bit embarrassing, so she said: after the marriage can not?
But the man's next words exasperated her enough: "I got married to have a child, I originally wanted to find a younger, but I heard that you are a doctor to try, but you are already 35 years old, I'm not sure that you can give birth to a child, and if we have a child, we can get married right away."
Karl Marx once said, "Marriage without love is immoral." Marriage is happy or not, but also depends on the two sides have no emotional foundation, to just for the sake of having children to get together, then think about it also know, will face what the future of the suffering.
Everyone wants to reap the rewards of a good life, a good family and a good marriage, but if the marriage is not based on love, but simply the pursuit of those who are so-called successful, there is no happiness to speak of that.
Tu Lei once said: only high with short, beautiful with ugly, rich with poor can be more conducive to the solidity of marriage. Of course, this does not mean that all, but I think only suitable is the best, rather than the pursuit of the upper class, their own youthful years are delayed, so it is not worth the loss.