Valentine's Day, the circle of friends everywhere are sunshine happiness, spread dog food, called me a single dog envy, have a partner can not spend a romantic Valentine's Day, but there are exceptions, such as Jing sister.
She complained to us that other husbands are entrusted with children, secretly with his wife to go to the world of two, other wives receive gifts and surprises, but to her this only angry and blocked, blocked panic.
It turned out that the day, a courier knocked on the door of the sister's home to ask her to sign for the roses, the sister looked happy bad, the husband of the ancient food finally got the hang of it, know that couples need to be a bit of fun, play a little romance.
Jing sister is ready to send a circle of friends to praise her husband, her husband called, a talk about this her husband on the spot confused, said he did not know today is Valentine's Day, not to mention what flowers.
Later, I realized that a big mistake was made, it was the neighbor's husband who gave his wife to someone else, and the courier misread the door number and sent the wrong one, because of which the neighbors made fun of me, and it was a disgrace.
Her husband came back from work and told her about it, and he said, "Oh, I don't know what to say. The first time I saw this was when I was a kid, and it was a very good time for me.
Jing also said that when she was in love, she knew how to go out for a meal alone occasionally, and she would take her to pick out a gift on her birthday, but after she got married, not to mention a meal, even a flower has never bought for her, she just read it up, and her husband said back to her that there was no need to make a whole lot of those false things in the life.
And her husband every day after the nine-to-five work, after returning home and not much to talk to her, are watching a little TV or play a little game will go to sleep, even if it is a holiday vacation, but also hate with the people crowded, will not want to take her out to travel out to play.
She said that her husband does not ask for his husband like other people are very romantic every day, very good at love language, as long as occasionally know how to train her body, buy a little gift to coax her, for them to add a bit of interest in their lives spice, otherwise this goes on day after day, less and less exchanges between the two, more and more days like plain water, tasteless.
If the monotonous life of the woman lost the enthusiasm and curiosity of life, then she will not only gradually numb the life, and slowly will also be on the marriage and even the two feelings numb.
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Who said it is not so, love and marriage certainly do not have to be perfect, but also can not be mixed up with the day to day, a little added interest, with a little heart management, the day will be living a flavorful.
My grandma and grandpa have been together for more than half a century.
My grandma and grandpa have been together for most of their lives. My grandpa said that my grandma was very beautiful when she was young, and she had a pair of big, flashing eyes that were very expressive, and she had two dimples on her face that made her look good.
In the early days, how many good men lined up and broke down the threshold to ask for marriage, but the grandmother was not able to see, but finally was the family conditions and appearance of the body is very general grandpa won.
It's not because the grandpa is a very good lover, he knows how to send flowers and write love letters when he was young, and he also burns a handful of good food to please the grandma, even if he is now old, he will also accompany the grandma to take care of her favorite moonflower, and take the grandma with him to go to the square dance, and whenever the grandma is angry and black, he will call the grandma's name to coax her to be happy, and he will also sneak in private and buy a cake to celebrate the grandma's birthday, and the two of them will also buy a cake to celebrate the grandma's birthday. Birthday, the two people from time to time small fight sweet love look, no less than now twenty-something years old young couple.
In fact, the girl married, married not only a person, but also a way of life.
Marrying a man who understands love is actually marrying a lifestyle full of fun. Even if the year after year, day after day, life gradually tends to be dull, there are bitter and tired, but also still find pleasure in it.
Just like grandma, she married grandpa and lived a very interesting life.
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"Interest" is a way of being in the world, a deep character, and a way of laughing at life.
A man who knows how to have fun can spread this attitude to the people around him, affecting his other half, his children, and even the whole family.
When my mother married my father, my father was still a poor boy, many people advised my mother to follow him to suffer, but my mother insisted on her own choice, believing that the man around her will bring her a happy life!
I was curious why my mom would choose to spend the rest of her life with a man like my dad, and I was impressed by my mom's answer.
Speaking of the bottleneck period when they first started their business, all the relatives, including mom, were anxious, and dad was not beaten down by the reality of self-pity, but has been positive and optimistic to find other sources of goods, but also often comfort and tell jokes to make mom happy.
Although the jokes are very old, but at that moment, the mother's heart is warm, was completely impressed by the father, thought: with this man together, what difficulties I can get through.
In this way, the two people a life is decades, the wind and rain do not leave. The first thing I'd like to say is that I don't know what to do, but I'd like to know what to do, and I'd like to know what to do, and I'd like to know what to do.
With such a man who knows how to be interesting, I am still afraid of not being happy.
Liang Qichao did not also say: "People should live in the fun." Married life for decades, if you have to live with a person who does not understand the fun, gradually you will also lose enthusiasm for life, slowly you will lose the original vitality and vigor, into a pool of stagnant water.
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In life, it is inevitable that we will be some bad things affect their mood, for because of these things to lose their temper.
At this time, understand the love of the man will operate his high emotional intelligence, think of ways to do everything possible to coax you happy, to help you calm the anger.
How good is it to be married to a man who understands love?
When the two of you have contradictions and quarrels, the man who has a sense of humor he knows how to skillfully resolve the war between the two on the verge of a touch, can let you get back together, rather than letting the emotions around you, make the situation become more serious.
When you are busy at home all day long, the whole person is tired and exhausted, the man who is interested in him can feel your pay and hard work, will say some sweet words or give you a big hug to encourage and warm you, rather than take for granted that you ignore your busy, so you feel more physically and mentally exhausted.
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This kind of man can add some romance or interesting spices in your daily life, making your marriage more picturesque, and discovering the beauty and warmth in the unpleasant and cruel reality. The first thing that you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what is going on in your life and how it is going to be.
A man who knows how to be interesting can pamper life as a lover, and knows how to collect the beauty from the minutiae, and then the ordinary days will not be monotonous.
He is willing to accompany you to wash dishes and make soup, with good food as a reward for hard work;
He is willing to accompany you to run in the morning, sweaty to meet the morning sun;
He can take you to travel adventures, and you can also be alone in a room, and want to look at the two do not hate.
Think about every day, and such a person together with the life, you almost do not feel the passage of time, because you can get fresh from each other every day, every second in the present, life is full of surprises and fun, that is how lucky!
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