It can be said that it is right. To tell the truth, being a reassuring person is the realm I have long yearned for.
Unfortunately, because of my weak constitution, my life has experienced the wandering of being laid off and working, and I have become the most concerned child in my parents' eyes, but I still can't change my pursuit of "reassuring".
In order to reassure people, I try to be a better self, study hard, keep exercising, work hard and try my best to protect my life ... just for that "reassuring" expression.
In my opinion, "rest assured" means that everything has a cause and an explanation, caring about your own efforts and caring more about the feelings of others.
What is a person's best quality?
Gao Zan's answer is: if things are reliable, we must take responsibility, and credit will always be the first.
In fact, it is summed up in four words: rest assured.
It sounds simple, but it is the supreme practice.
We always have this experience in our life:
I made an appointment with a friend, but when I arrived at the restaurant, I didn't see anyone. I called. She said she was on her way, but she was still putting on makeup at home.
My lover went out on a business trip, saying that he would be safe when he landed, but I haven't heard from you for hours. You were so worried that he patted his head and said that he was embarrassed to forget.
In fact, the materials submitted to the leaders have long been used, just to put on a bad face and make you feel uneasy and embarrassed.
These seemingly trivial things actually reveal the essence of a person.
As chi Li said, "it's simple to say, complicated to fall, sounds like feeling, and it's a principle to do."
In this world, there are not a few people who let you fall in love at first sight. They have the talent of being smart and capable, and they have the lotus-like speaking ability.
But what can make you feel tired for a long time must be someone who can reassure you.
This is a person's greatest talent.
When I was young, I walked into the ivory tower from the care of my parents and entered the enterprise from the ivory tower. It's as simple as a blank sheet of paper. I know that a person only knows how to listen and see. With a simple sensory impression, I have never taken the time to delve into each other's intentions. It took a long time to understand that there is a kind of person in the world who always says one thing and does another, face to face and behind his back. Such people, words and actions are divided, knowledge and action are divided, and they are often full of routines. Know the routine, this kind of person is often an attitude when you are useful, an attitude when you lose your function, and even punches back, without mercy, how enthusiastic at first, how vicious later, how beautiful at first and how ugly later.
Indeed, in this era, cleverness is easy to see and reliability is rare. Too many people use routines to perfunctory, and too few people pay with sincerity.
But in fact, every reassuring performance you make is a savings in the life bank.
This is your most valuable business card at a critical moment.
Some people talk beautifully, but when doing things, a hole is bigger than a hole.
There are also some people who look ordinary, but they do everything with great care and everything is in place, attracting people to approach involuntarily.
Most of the legends in this world are just ordinary people putting their thoughts into action.
No matter how bright and smart your resume is, it is better than being a responsible person and doing things from beginning to end.
Only by reassuring people can we get more people's recognition and create our own luck.
Writer Li Zeng wrote in the book:
"There are many talented and intelligent people in the world. At first, they were optimistic, but later the outcome was not very good, and some people's experiences were still very tragic.
The reason is often attributed to bad luck and villains, but the essence is nothing more than: doing things makes people uneasy. "
Think about it carefully, those who are popular in life and always get promoted at work are reassuring people.
Moreover, they all have three qualities.
keep the mouth shut like a bottle
Jia Pingwa once learned the secret of achieving great things from a monk: being single-minded and keeping his mouth shut.
People who are really reassuring know what they are talking about.
practical
Whether a person is reassuring or not depends not on what earth-shattering achievements he has made, nor on what eloquent boasting he has said.
It is enough to do things well in a down-to-earth manner.
3. Have a confession
Luo Zhenyu said, the so-called reliable, is nothing more than a word: everything has an explanation, everything has a landing, and everything has an echo.
Now everyone likes to contact and chat on online platforms such as WeChat. Some people will not reply to messages when chatting, and some things will sink into the sea when they talk.
Because the child knows the parents of a daughter and classmate. At that time, her classmates were in a mess, and the class teacher assigned her to help them minor. My daughter is very serious every day and takes pains to tear the classmate who doesn't want to study. It looks really pathetic. In order to help her, I took the initiative to shoulder the heavy responsibility of assisting her classmates. In the ups and downs, I was close to my child's mother.
At that time, the mother obeyed me for the sake of her daughter, and even expressed great approval and recognition for what I said, no matter what her daughter did in and out of school, without exception.
Naturally, in her daughter's study, her dependence on me is obvious, so I helped my mother send her daughter to college for free, and even my daughter volunteered.
At that time, I deeply thought that in the past ten years, this mother and I have established a tacit understanding and friendship in the underage tearing.
But everything is not what I imagined at all.
Later, as my daughter went to college, my mother's attitude towards me took a turn for the worse and she never contacted me again. I sent messages on my own initiative, but she seldom replied. I met her in the street and didn't want to talk much.
Naturally, I felt her coldness.
So I began to reflect on this relationship and found that everything today is not groundless, but a sign.
Earlier, she was willing to deal with me and use me for her daughter's sake. Now that her daughter has gone to college, she feels that I have no use in her life, and those disguised enthusiasm is unnecessary.
Looking back now, in fact, we are not the same person at all. How can we have true feelings?
In terms of personality, I am low-key and conservative, and she is avant-garde. It's like she is divorced and likes to keep changing boyfriends, while I like nostalgia and the feeling of running water. Stylistically, she likes acting and being late for appointments, while I like truth and punctuality, just as she likes makeup and I like plain face.
In addition, we are far from each other in knowledge and pattern. Different circles, why should we be stronger? When you figure it out, you will never stick a hot face on a cold ass again.
Smart and easy to see, reliable and rare. Speaking of which, this mother is a very smart person with high IQ and EQ. She often has a group of like-minded friends around her. Since her daughter went to college, she has devoted all her energy to traveling and dancing. She likes ballroom dancing and often laughs at the square dance aunt. Although she is 50 years old, she can't live without the opposite sex. She likes being a teenager and her daughter is leaving.
Friendship, like love, will never be entangled again after a certain age.
If you still like me, then I will always wait for you to find me. If you don't like me, then I won't bother you anymore.
Being honest and trustworthy, everything starts and ends, and a person with an account is worthy of trust and rest assured.
There is conservation of energy in this world.
To be a reassuring person is a great talent without some petty advantages and cleverness.
People who are reassuring will form outstanding personality charm and win people's hearts.
Walking in the world, there are two important things: accepting others' differences with yourself and protecting yourself from others' differences.