One, communicate in advance
Differences in parenting concepts with the mother-in-law is almost a problem faced by every daughter-in-law, since it is a high probability of time, why can't you prepare for it in advance?
Before giving birth, the daughter-in-law can communicate with her mother-in-law openly and honestly, the possible future situation and her mother-in-law together to do analysis and predetermination, in the case of a specific problem has not yet occurred, both sides of the emotions will be relatively more calm, conducive to the unity of opinion.
Two, understand the old man
Mother-in-law to bring children, whether it is out of her own want to help their children to share the worry, or children take the initiative to invite, as a daughter-in-law should also be grateful to the mother-in-law. The mother-in-law could have danced and traveled around the world with her partner, but for the sake of your little family, she came a long way to share the task of parenting, dragging her body, which is not very sharp, to take care of the house for you.
So no matter how much difference there is between a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law in terms of parenting philosophy, the daughter-in-law shouldn't hold a grudge against her mother-in-law. If after a period of time, they still can't get along well, they can hire a sister-in-law, or bring up their own, so that the mother-in-law can go home, and they must not enjoy the services provided by her mother-in-law while complaining about her shortcomings.
Three, flexibility
Many times, a family is not so harmonious and perfect, although the mother-in-law understands the children, try not to give themselves trouble, the children are also considerate of the mother-in-law, do not let her too much work. But the reality is that there will still be a lot of irreconcilable contradictions and conflicts, which will require children to be able to flexibly deal with, not to get entangled in the specific details, to maintain family harmony and happiness.