Experienced the baptism of the years, from the initial love of life, to the current calm and collected approach to life, the years have not given you anything, but gave you a lot of life experience, only know how to enjoy life, in order to make themselves happy.
By the age of 55, you can understand a lot of people and things, although the young missed a lot of opportunities, there have been a lot of regrets, but the next few days can still make their own arrangements for everything.
Although he is no longer so anxious, but in the face of their own did not experience things, still can be calmly treated and dealt with, cherish the people and things that can be cherished in front of you, tell yourself: missed is missed, grasp the current is the most important.
Yesterday, I went back to my hometown, where I lived next door to my sister, Jin, who also happened to be traveling back from abroad. Although I haven't seen her for several years, she looks much better than she did in the previous years when she first got divorced.
After chatting with Jin for a while, I realized that Jin has been living alone in her hometown since her divorce, and that she always mopes around when she is first divorced, but she has been looking at everything for a long time, thinking that her life will continue, and that she should not be bothered by the past, because she has to live a life that is easy to enjoy and exciting. (For ease of narration, I write in the first person.)
I'm 55 years old, and I look much better now than I did before, and a lot of my friends around me are happy for me, because I used to mope around for a failed love affair, and I'm not happy all day long.
When I was first divorced, many of my friends wanted me to remarry in order to make my old age better, and recommended many male friends of the same age to me, but I thought: since I am already so old, I would like to give all my life to a new relationship, so I might as well let myself live happily ever after.
Whenever the night falls, I lie in bed alone, I can not sleep, I also feel lonely, after all, the children have grown up to become a family man, I am an old man and their young people's habits are different, living together is not accustomed to, the beginning of the solo living there is really a lot of unaccustomed to the place.
But life goes on. Although I am divorced, I have enough savings and pension for my old age. Occasionally, I encounter difficulties in my life, but I don't worry about it, because I still have a lot of friends who can help me out.
A woman who lives without a man will be under a lot of pressure to live alone, but when she is alone and quiet, she will realize that a man can earn money to support his family, and a woman can make a wonderful life through her own efforts.
For the remarriage, in fact, I have no objection, if I meet the right person, I will still consider the first dating a period of time to see, if the two can understand each other's heart, then remarriage is also possible.
The days after retirement, though, are very leisurely, and I don't have to get up early every morning to cook and eat, and I don't have to be angry about a bunch of things that bother me at work. I can do what I want to do every day, to see the scenery I want to see.
There is a divorced girlfriend beside me who is as divorced as I am, and she didn't grieve for a long time after her divorce because her ex-husband is a businessman, and she is very relieved that her son and her ex-husband are living together, after all, the child doesn't have to worry about having no money to spend, or worrying about no one to take care of him.
My girlfriend got a part-time job after the divorce, listening to her say is to do the restaurant waiter, every day, although busy, but in the restaurant also know a lot of friends, my girlfriend will rest every weekend, and when she rests, and she will know friends shopping and watching movies, life is very wonderful.
I just divorced that moment, I found myself living a very dull life, every day just want to lie in bed and daze, but time a long time, I think that such a life needs to be changed, I insisted on going to bed early every day and getting up early, in addition to daily exercise, I will go to the library to read two hours of books.
In fact, everyone can change themselves, by changing their hobbies, you can let yourself out of the original sad sad thing.
Every night after dinner, I will go to the neighborhood downstairs to square dance, where there are a lot of friends of my age, people of my age are talking and laughing together, talking about things that happen around them, square dancing can not only meet new friends, but also exercise.
In the square dance, I met a female friend who is 2 years younger than me, she and her husband are also emotionally unavailable, she paid a lot for the home, but also to help their husbands earn a lot of money, but her husband has another woman outside the marriage.
After all, I am also a divorced woman, after a period of quiet and solitary life, I also learned to calmly analyze the problem, to help this female friend to open up, and then this female friend also want to open up, since the feelings between husband and wife has become diluted, and the children have grown up, rather than just live, it is better to let the husband and wife to choose their own want to live.
55-year-old woman living alone, not only to exercise their own body, but also to learn to socialize more new friends, so that they are surrounded by more friends, so that in the future life when encountering difficulties, there will be someone to help themselves.
After a few more years, I plan to live in a nursing home. After all, my children have grown up, and if I get sick one day, my children don't have to worry about me, and if they have the time, they will come to the nursing home to see me, and if they don't have the time, it doesn't matter.
My parents are still alive, they also once asked me to move to their place to live together, but I think my parents are old, as their daughter, I know how to be grateful, I will give my parents every month 1000 yuan of living expenses, they are very happy, I also rest assured.
I often rent a car and take my parents to nearby attractions, just to tell them that I am now living alone in a good life, so that they do not have to worry about me, I want to live their own life leisurely and at ease.
I love it when my friends come to my home. Whenever my friends come to my home, I buy a lot of food and cook a few of my favorite dishes to entertain them, and they are very happy to come to my home to cook, and they also invite me to visit their respective homes.
Time flies, in the next life, I have to tell myself from time to time, although I am 55 years old, but I can not always think that I am too old, I still have a lot of things I have not done, there are still a lot of places I have not been, I want to make my life happy.
55-year-old single woman living alone, although emotionally wounded, but life is to continue, so that they have a happy life, every day when you walk on the road, you will meet a lot of strangers, to see a lot of unseen landscapes, encountered a lot of their own did not meet the thing, although occasionally because of a thing and upset, but still can be dealt with calmly.