The heart is difficult to go out to see and eat well; but it can not solve your problem. I have a period of time encountered a very annoying thing, I bank loan to buy a house, the house rental money to pay the bank loan. However, the person who lives in my house has not paid me rent for half a year. The house loan was to be paid back by me. I thought a lot and had to go to court to sue the person who occupied my house. During the six months I waited for the court hearing, I was really anxious. I had no money left to pay the bank loan. Luckily, after I waited for 6 months, the court found that he had given me 6 months rent. During this period of time, I had been watching the Journey to the West TV series. I saw how brave and resourceful Goku was. I then thought about being like Wukong and figured out how to solve the problem, and in the end I prevailed. When you have a problem, go and watch a TV series to divert your attention, let your mind calm down, and think of a solution to the problem. There is no river you can't cross. A few years have passed and my bank loans are slowly becoming less.
First of all, thank you for being brave enough to ask this question.
Anxiety, depression, more often than not, is because something, something, did not achieve the result you wanted, or someone touched your cheese, and these are like gases filling up your inner world.
Everyone's inner world is like a ball that is pumped up, pumped up, pumped up every day, and he needs to find an outlet to deflate it so that it doesn't blow up.
To solve this problem you need to consider the following points.
First: what are the specific causes of your anxiety, depression and the underlying needs behind yourself? Find out and give it a solution.
Second: find a place where you can let yourself out of anger, this should be considered in conjunction with your own hobbies, the following points can be used as a reference.
1) Go out and travel, so that their minds and nature as one, feel the nature to bring you all the good things, the wind on the river, the mountains, the moon, the appreciation of the people.
2) Mountaineering, enjoy the process of mountaineering, embrace the good after the summit, after the summit hands square, enjoy the sunshine and rain.
3) Singing, so that the song, music to cultivate their emotions.
4) Reading, in the sea of knowledge, free to soar. Let knowledge wash over your mind again.
5)Exercise, from the inside out, experience the fun of exercise.
6) Talk to people who have experienced this, and see how they regulate their mood, so as to find a more suitable way for themselves.
7) If time and financial conditions allow, you can read some psychological quality books or training schools, so as to adjust their state faster.
I hope my answer is helpful to you!
From the question can see that you are a responsible person, only responsible people will be anxious and depressed! The proverbial heartless people, most of them are not responsible people. We also need to understand that long-lived old people are basically belong to the heartless and uncaring people.
But most of us are fathers and mothers, and the pressure of life is like a thousand pounds on our shoulders. In addition, we Chinese blood flow in the comparison to the face of the psychological, to constantly pursue a better life than others. The majority of the anxiety and depression comes from this!
We need to look within ourselves to see what we really need, and not be concerned about what other people say about us and what they say. You have to realize that you are not that important, not to the extent that people want to pay attention to you and talk about you.
Looking at life and problems we have to jump out and look at the next, like walking a labyrinth, if you walk inside the labyrinth, want to find the exit, only to constantly touch the wall to try, each path until the head touches the wall to know that this road does not work! But if we stand at a high place to observe, we will see clearly which path leads to the exit.
Anxiety and depression can confuse your brain and cause serious physical conditions such as dizziness, headaches, and stomach aches. So you need to stabilize your emotions in time. Methods are: 1. Absorb fresh air, promote brain aerobic exercise, reduce the burden on the brain. 2. Emotional release, will be anxious and repressed emotions out. 3. Distraction, will be distracted to other things. When your mood calms down, then think about the problem solution.
All day in the anxiety suppression is not in your heart there is something you want to achieve, but the implementation of a very difficult to cause, or a desire to a certain time to anxiously wait for the suppression, people are not perfect, can not do very perfect, do not be too harsh on themselves so that the spirit of the collapse of the life of this should be relaxed a little bit, the efforts of the winner is to go out of the home to the crowd, go to the sports that will be good! The first thing you need to do is to get out of the house and into the crowd, and get more exercise!
In fact, we are because of the work life caused by a variety of trivial things piled up together, there will be a sense of pressure, I do not know whether others have the kind of nothing want to just want to stay alone, too much want to do nothing, the world do not pay attention to me. But we can not, we live in such a situation, there is no way to get rid of the status quo, only to meet head on.
If you want to go out to get some air, we suggest not to, so that out of you is also a shell, how can you be happy.
It would be better to suffer a little more to look at yourself, to see how in the end they are, want to release these negative emotions, there are many ways.
Find someone else to talk to this time not only to witness the friendship but also to find out if these friends around you can do with you to listen to you talk about
You can also do some more exercise, your usual anxiety, depression time are out of a good exercise
Read more books, now this era there are a few people will really hold a book to read books, those who are so-called can be pacified to calm the self-compassion of their own
The first thing that we need to do is to find a way to get the best out of the world, and then we can do it. The people who have been in the world for a long time are the ones who are slowly coming out of the world.
If you really don't want to share this with others, then find your own place to vent and let yourself collapse, this kind of a I will use the way, you can try.
For many people say that the way of shopping, do not quite agree, you buy things on impulse will not be practical, for these things not only spoiled your silver, maybe a certain period of time you have to eat dirt.
Believe in yourself, there is nothing you can't do, the pressure of nature we can be stronger.
If the whole day in the anxiety, depression, shows that the body and mind in a serious state of fatigue. First of all, find out the external causes of anxiety and depression and exclude it; at the same time, go to the hospital to check whether there is depression, exclude this situation can be found in the Chinese medicine practitioner to open a few pairs of liver relief tonics, and with moderate physical activity, such as jogging, yoga, square dance, etc. can relax the mood. You can also go with your family or friends to the famous mountains and rivers, in the embrace of nature to release the pressure, happy mood.
Going out for a walk is only a short-term relief of anxiety, but if the actual problem can not be solved, come back and still repeat the status quo ante, so you can go out for a walk for a short period of time and get out of the original depressing environment, or you really need to dig into the cause of anxiety.
Many modern people are bound by society, family, and work, and all of them want to succeed. Not everyone has to be capable enough to get and have everything. A lot of anxiety is caused by not being able to fight for it or not being able to get it. Anxiety is often self-inflicted; repression is the result of not being able to get it and barely being able to maintain it. Repression is also caused by one's own desire not to let go.
So, all the bad emotions, all because of the force is not caught but the fight and not, get and not firm, get and do not match. The ancient Chinese wisdom - give and take, only to give up not suitable for their own, to catch their own ability, in order to change the good mood. The break away, not only say living things, but also can say the shackles to break, only to get a new life.
Spring has a hundred flowers, autumn has the moon, summer has the cool wind winter has the snow, if there is no idle matter hanging in the heart, is a good time on earth
On the contrary, go out to disperse will only be like the walking dead! You need to be quiet and recognize yourself and what your problems are! If you feel anxious from time to time, or make yourself so angry that you shake because of a word, you should see a psychiatrist, do a brain rise and fall analysis chart to see if you have anxiety symptoms, and cooperate with the doctor to treat it! Or find your own point of interest, focus on something and slowly regulate it!