There are many definitions of happiness in the world. If this happiness must be described in a general way, I think it is probably just this:
Choose a city to grow old with, and spend the rest of your life with one person. First of all, when you are young, you meet the person who makes your heart beat in a sea of ??people. It just so happens that the years have not let down the person you love. They enter into marriage hand in hand, have quarrels in the siege of marriage, and eventually have children and grandchildren, and finally get married. Enjoy the happiness of family, work hard for your dreams when you are young, and when you are old, you never look up to the sky and lament that you have not met your talents, but you are satisfied with the aftertaste: This life is not too regretful after all!
This may be the case for most people. Happiness, having this ordinary, plain, stable life is also great, but the world always needs some legends, and the same happiness will make the world less colorful. At the end of the Qing Dynasty and the beginning of the Republic of China, there was such a talented woman, She never fell in love or married, stayed away from the trivialities of marriage, and lived a wonderful life.
She was Lu Bicheng, the first talented girl to establish a girls’ school in the Republic of China. Her family was ruined when she was young, her husband’s family broke off her engagement, she was suppressed by her relatives, and she was forced to live on the street. However, she lived a different life with her own hard work and wisdom. She used her legendary life to tell us:
Beautiful blooming is not just to wait for the arrival of butterflies. In human life, gorgeous blooming is a very beautiful thing, and the meaning of blooming is to show oneself. A whole body of light and color, not just for the favor of butterflies.
So Lu Bicheng has never been in love or married in her whole life. She has stayed away from the love affairs of crazy men and women in the world, and lived her life in the most unique way. She has never been contaminated by the fireworks of marriage. She is pure. He has been noble and independent all his life, and has become the white moonlight of countless men.
Lu Bicheng was born into a noble family. Her family background could be described as the kind of Daxing family that everyone envied at the time. Her father, Lu Fengqi, read poetry and books and was a bachelor. The family had thousands of books and was full of works. He was the third emperor of Guangxu. He was a Jinshi in 2011. His mother, Yan Shiyu, was also born in a scholarly family. She was erudite and talented since childhood. In such a beautiful environment, the smart and alert Lu Bicheng was a little genius since she was a child. She was deeply loved by her family. Many members of the aristocratic family also proposed marriage to the Lu family. , his father also chose an excellent marriage for Lu Bicheng. If the road in life is as smooth as expected, Lu Bicheng may be a happy little woman in this life, reciting poems, painting and playing the piano, caring for her husband and raising children, and doing all kinds of things. A rich lady with a good background and support, her life is as simple and happy as ordinary people.
But the world is always so unpredictable. Lu Bicheng's life is destined not to be too smooth or ordinary. Her happy life only lasted until she was 5 years old. After that, there were constant hardships, and two brothers who loved her. The successive deaths caused a great blow to his family. There was no heir to his father's huge family business, and the Lu family became a "family without a child." However, when fate wants to deliberately torture a certain person, it often will not be merciful. It seems that Nor will enough be enough. When she was 12 years old, her father, who loved her the most, suffered an old illness and passed away at a banquet. The Lu family's fortunes truly collapsed, leaving behind her mother, sisters, and a group of orphans and widows. Lu Bicheng's life entered a low point.
Originally Lu Bicheng thought that the biggest disaster was his father's sudden death, but he never thought that he was too naive. His father's departure was like a key to the door of hell, and the kind-hearted uncles in the past were exposed. The true face is that because women did not have the right to inherit at that time, family disputes were about to break out. The huge property left by Lu Bicheng's father Lu Fengqi became a piece of cake in their eyes. Everyone wanted to step on the bodies of Lu Bicheng's mother and daughter to reach a hidden family. In her arms, her mother was kidnapped by her family because she was unwilling to transfer her property. Several sisters worked hard to rescue her mother. However, after leaving the Lu family gate, the orphans and widows had nowhere to turn to, and they were confused.
This "face change" made Lu Bicheng deeply realize: in the face of interests, human nature is so vulnerable, so ferocious and ugly. Except for close relatives, those usually kind faces are just... A wolf in disguise, bloodthirsty.
Lv’s mother and daughter were penniless and homeless. A woman is weak by nature, but a mother is strong. Her mother, Yan Shiyu, took her daughters everywhere to ask for help. In the past, the rich and luxurious body had never suffered. It was painful to be looked down upon, but for the sake of her children, she had no choice.
In the end, they planned to go to Lu Bicheng’s fiancé’s house for help. After having an unattended meal, they were kicked out. Lu Bicheng’s engagement was broken off by the Wang family. Uncle Wang, who always brought gifts to Lu Bicheng at home, became extremely cold and strange at this moment. Breaking off an engagement in ancient times was a great insult to women. This break-up cast a huge shadow on Lu Bicheng's emotions, so much so that she has been avoiding marriage in the future.
Compared with the past scenery, this sadness penetrated every nerve of the mother and daughter. In desperation, the mother had no choice but to take the Lu Bicheng sisters to Laian, Anhui Province to join their uncle and come to his uncle's house. Afterwards, Lu Bicheng's life began another journey. Compared with the expected life, this disaster caused the death of Lu Bicheng, who was pampered in the past, and the strong and independent Lu Bicheng will be reborn.
There is a saying:
No one is born strong, but wounds will slowly scab over if they bleed too much, and the hard scabs will protect the fragile wounds like armor. Every seemingly strong person has come through suffering. They shed too many tears and endured too much struggle and sadness before they gained the invulnerable and decisive attitude they have today.
Lv Bicheng’s strength and independence in the future were all due to the armor that was turned into by the scabs formed after being injured again and again. In the future, she would wear this armor and stand on her own to conquer the world alone, creating A life of your own.
The so-called love of parents for their children is far-reaching. Maternal love can make a weak woman wear a suit of armor, protect her children like a warrior, and love her children like an angel. Yan Shiyu returned to Lai'an with several children. Looking at Lu Bicheng's eyes full of expectations for study and the future, he did not want to tie her to his side, so he sent her to Tanggu where Lu Bicheng's uncle Yan Langxuan worked. Education, this decision changed Lu Bicheng's life and also benefited Lu Bicheng's life.
She came to Tanggu and stayed at her uncle's house. Her uncle treated her like his own daughter. However, just like Daiyu stayed at Jia's house, she always seemed cautious when living under someone else's roof. She was afraid that one of her actions would endanger her. Disappointing her uncle would make her aunt resentful, so at the age of thirteen or fourteen, Jiu learned to be a good girl who was observant, well-behaved and sensible. She lost the innocence that a child should have and suppressed the child's lively and active nature.
As the saying goes: people live when they move, trees die when they move. Lu Bicheng truly lived when she came to Tanggu. She got rid of the pain of family destruction and death, got rid of the shame of being divorced, and plunged into the world of knowledge. Haiyang, her uncle and aunt were very kind to her, and Lu Bicheng, who was sensitive at heart, also tried her best to be a good child and not cause trouble to her two relatives.
Throughout the ages, who has made some achievements in literature, who is insensitive? If you are not sensitive enough, how can you appreciate the beauty of the great rivers and mountains, and how can you feel the wind and grass in the world? Analyzing it from the perspective of praise, why is sensitivity not an innate talent? With this talent, Lu Bicheng had great attainments in poetry and poetry. According to later research, she was the last accomplished female lyricist in Chinese history. All this was also due to her high sensitivity.
In Tanggu, Lu Bicheng is happy. Her uncle's family is well off, and servants take care of her food, clothing, housing and transportation. Lu Bicheng devotes herself to studying. Her eldest sister Xianzhong also married into the Yan family. Lu Xianzhong married before his father died. Yes, she is full of talents. For her, marriage is not a constraint, but the icing on the cake of life. The eldest sister often takes care of Lu Bicheng's life. The talented Lu Bicheng is also appreciated by her uncle Yan Langxuan and her father's old friend Fan Zengxiang. The two elders Lu Bicheng and Lu Bicheng became friends who often talked about poetry. Lu Bicheng also received academic guidance from the two elders and grew up very quickly.
On the other side, her mother and sister Xianman were hated and coveted by their relatives, and were kidnapped by their relatives in collusion with the kidnappers. The young Lu Bicheng was at a loss, and her sisters could not think of a way. It was Lu Bicheng who asked Fan Zengxiang for help, and he rescued his mother after many twists and turns. , this was the second time that her mother was kidnapped. Lu Bicheng felt very sorry for her mother. Because her mother and sister did not want to be humiliated, they chose to commit suicide by taking poison. In the end, they failed, but the scars in their hearts were thus formed.
Every wanderer in a foreign land has a weakness, and this weakness is his family. If his family is healthy and peaceful, the wanderer can let go and pursue his ideals. If his family encounters problems, the wanderer's heart will feel like he is being held hostage. Thousands of arrows stabbed straight into the chest. I couldn't breathe. I felt angry, worried, helpless, and anxious...
For a long time, Lu Bicheng's mood was very complicated and depressing. Fortunately, her mother and sister also Nothing happened again, and the people around her supported her many times. Lu Bicheng would not disappoint those who had expectations for her and treated her sincerely. Her talents became more and more abundant, and she gradually became a small celebrity. As a well-known figure, Lu Bicheng also gradually came up with some ideas to change the status quo as the situation became larger.
She did not want to be just a little woman who could only live by being dependent on others. At that time, the seeds of the concept of equality between men and women were gradually sprouting in her heart. She believed:
Women should also live their own wonderful lives, instead of blindly packaging themselves to please men. The destination of life is not to find a good man to marry. Women and men should be equal, instead of women clinging to men, everyone is independent individual.
The look of love in her heart should be: two people should long for the great rivers and mountains together, two people should shoulder the hardships of life together, two people should work together for a great cause...
So Lu Bicheng wanted to get out of the small world of Tanggu and see the outside world.
If she continues her current life trajectory, Lu Bicheng’s life will actually be very happy. Her uncle has already begun to look for talented young people from aristocratic families for her, just like her sister. It seems good to finish school smoothly, be assigned a decent and easy job, and live a stable life with a well-matched man.
But Lu Bicheng is not the kind of person who is willing to let others arrange her life. She has a stubborn personality, and even the King of Heaven and I can't stop her from doing things she is determined to do. After discussing with her uncle and being rejected by her uncle on the grounds that she had no female virtues, She no longer expected to get her uncle's permission. After writing an unsent letter to her mother, she set out on her way to Tianjin alone without any money or anything. She wanted to leave behind her past. In life, walk towards the sunshine, and the stories behind you will be sealed, and the future will be bright.
After Lv Bicheng ran away, she came to the "Grand Mansion" newspaper office several times, and met her first noble man, who was also her first bad relationship. Ying Lianzhi saw Lv Bicheng's letter to After Mrs. Fang's letter, she admired Lu Bicheng's courage and determination, especially her beautiful calligraphy, which made Ying Lianzhi full of curiosity and expectations for this girl who would not succumb to fate. So under Mrs. Fang's arrangement, the two met When people met each other, this was the one face that Lu Bicheng stayed in Ying Lianzhi's heart forever. From then on, he loved her thousands of times and couldn't help but care about everything about her.
At that time, Ying Lianzhi had already married, and his wife had been together since childhood, and they had a passionate love. However, with the appearance of Lu Bicheng, Ying Lianzhi still couldn't control his feelings. Lv Bicheng came to As the editor of the "Grand Mansion" newspaper, Ying Lianzhi is the newspaper's prime minister. The two work together, and every moment of their relationship reflects Ying Lianzhi's uncontrollable love for Lu Bicheng.
In the end, Ying Lianzhi’s actions attracted the attention of the gentle and kind-hearted Mrs. Ying. Mrs. Ying did not behave or seek arguments from Lu Bicheng, but chose to go to school to study and re-cultivate herself. Mrs. Ying’s approach In my opinion, it is quite good. If there is a problem in a relationship, no matter how hard you try to save it, it will be useless. Improving yourself and making yourself more confident, outstanding, independent and beautiful is the only way to be abandoned. What people should do the most is that in this world, only their own love will not disappear easily.
On the other side, Lu Bicheng didn't know Ying Lianzhi's feelings for her. She thought that Ying Lianzhi was just treating her well out of admiration, but when she saw Mrs. Ying's alienation and sudden departure from her, she became very confused. When she went there, she more or less guessed that she chose to alienate Ying Lianzhi. When she saw the couple picking up Ying Lianzhi at the station, she saw Ying Lianzhi chatting and laughing with a beautiful young lady, while Mrs. Ying walked alone. Behind the two of them, Lu Bicheng's hatred for Ying Lianzhi arose from this. Until later, she never got an explanation from Ying Lianzhi (the beautiful lady was Ying Lianzhi's cousin), and later she left "The Grand Mansion" .
She found a job again and planned to teach and study in a girls' school. However, due to her too strong personality and her strong abilities, plus the girls' school she wanted to teach in, The school director was a friend of Mrs. Ying, and she was unwilling to hire Lv Bicheng because of her friend's injustice. What Lv Bicheng didn't know was that during this period, Ying Lianzhi was running around looking for job opportunities for her.
Later, everyone felt that if Lu Bicheng went to teach in a school planned by others and tied her hands, her talent would inevitably be buried. Lu Bicheng also hoped to promote her female ideas by organizing a school, so she planned to build a school herself. That is to say, because the preparation for the establishment of the school required Yuan Shikai's approval, Lu Bicheng went to the Marshal's Mansion many times. When he went to the Marshal's Mansion to raise funds for the construction of the school, he happened to meet Yuan Kewen, the second son of Yuan Shikai. Qing Renguo, from then on Lu Bicheng became the playboy goddess who walked out of the flowers, fascinated and careful.
In order to prepare for the establishment of the school, Lu Bicheng worked hard by himself, drafting articles of association, raising funds, inviting directors, booking meetings, finding school buildings, hiring teachers, and visiting education. His daily schedule was full. On November 7, 1904, the opening ceremony of the "Beiyang Women's Public School" was held lively amidst the roar of people and thunderous applause. Since then, this 21-year-old strange woman has become the first female chief teacher in the history of Chinese education.
As for women’s education, Lu Bicheng believes:
Only when there is a virtuous daughter can there be a virtuous mother, and only when there is a virtuous mother can there be a virtuous son. If a woman is not virtuous, she will not be able to be a virtuous woman after marriage. Mother, if you don’t have a virtuous mother, how can you teach an excellent son? How can a country prosper without good men? Therefore, if we want our country to prosper, we must first start educating these female students! ”
She started from women’s education and made indelible achievements in women’s new education. In a sense, she made great contributions to the change of women’s status. To change the status of women, first of all To change people's views on the status of men and women, Lu Bicheng started from people's thoughts and advocated new ideas step by step.
Lv Bicheng, who had a prosperous career, seemed not to be so smooth emotionally because of the last incident. There was a misunderstanding, and there was already a gap between him and Ying Lianzhi. In addition, Ying Lianzhi was already married. Lu Bicheng, who pursued new ideas, would not do anything that would make him look down on himself. However, he could not help but control his feelings. Perhaps she had had subtle feelings for this man who was both a teacher and a friend, otherwise she would not have broken off her relationship with her second sister for the rest of her life because of Ying Lianzhi and her second sister Lu Meisun.
When Ying Lianzhi's passionate love for Lu Bicheng did not get a response, she met Lu Meisun, who was as beautiful as Lu Bicheng, but not as passionate and persistent as Lu Bicheng. Meisun was as gentle as water, and even her eyes were full of tenderness. , Ying Lianzhi was immediately attracted by her gentleness, and the two also had a love like a fairy couple. It was also because of this relationship that Lu Bicheng, Ying Lianzhi and her second sister broke off their friendship. The betrayal of the two people she cared about most , causing her great pain.
After that, Lu Bicheng seemed to be very slow emotionally. She was so beautiful, noble, and full of talents, and there was no shortage of men around her. Even the second son of the Yuan Shikai family was willing to kneel down for her, but Lu Bicheng is always unmoved.
Lv Bicheng's life is: I am charming and uncontested. She wears fashionable clothes and likes to dress herself up. No matter where she appears, she is the center of attention. , able to attract people around her. Because of their mutual sympathy, she and Qiu Jin hit it off immediately, and the two became good friends. Later, because Qiu Jin was arrested, Lu Bicheng was also implicated, and it was Yuan Kewen who asked his father for help. She Only then was he able to protect himself.
Yuan Shikai admired Lu Bicheng's performance and achievements in Tianjin very much. After the closure of Beiyang Women's School, Lu Bicheng was invited by Yuan Shikai to serve as a presidential counselor in the Presidential Palace, becoming a man who stood up with men. The female official who was on the same front later left the presidential palace due to different political opinions, and her fate with Yuan Kewen ended. Later, the two had no entanglement. In the end, the Yuan family fell. Lu Bicheng went to visit Yuan Kewen, but was also declined. , maybe Yuan Kewen doesn't want the goddess he admires to see his miserable appearance, and wants to keep his beautiful appearance in the memory of the goddess.
After leaving the Presidential Palace, Lu Bicheng began to engage in business and earned a fortune that she could not spend all her life. Her reputation was well-known at home and abroad. In addition, she was beautiful and became the dream goddess of countless people. However, she She has never been married in her life. She only pursues her career and no longer expects love, a "harmful spirit" that comes and goes without a trace but hurts people deeply.
At that time, Lu Bicheng’s beautiful figure often appeared at various gatherings. Celebrities from all walks of life also sought after Lu Bicheng. Among the social celebrities she interacted with, there were many talented people and high-ranking officials, such as the famous poet Fan Zengxiang, Yi Shifu, Yuan Kewen, the son of Yuan Shikai, Li Jingxi, the son of Li Hongzhang, etc. However, when it comes to marriage, she has seen through the turbulence of the world. In addition, she relies on her own aloofness and always feels that there is no matching person around her, so she prefers to remain single until her old age.
The attitude towards these celebrities is always "this is not good, and that is not suitable". In her opinion, "there are not many men who can be praised in their lives. Liang Rengong, Liang Qichao, has a wife for a long time. Wang Jixin, that is, is younger. Wang Rongbao, once served as the right counselor of the Ministry of Civil Affairs, a member of the House of Representatives, and the minister to Belgium and Japan. He is good at calligraphy and poetry. He is also good at writing poems and essays. Zhang Qianggong once wrote for Zhu Zhenzhuang. He said: "My goal is not wealth and family status, but literary status. Therefore, it is difficult to find a good partner. If the east is not the same and the west is not the same, the opportunity will be missed. Fortunately, I have a little savings on hand, and I don't have to worry about food and clothing. I can only entertain myself with literature. !" Lu Bicheng was a famous young person, and her literary talent was highly regarded by people at that time. She was said to be comparable to Li Qingzhao, so she was very ambitious since she was little, and she refused to give in to herself. Therefore, despite her elegant appearance, she never married.
After reaching a high point in terms of money and career, she began to travel around the world. Her beauty can be seen at home and abroad. Her graceful figure can be seen at the ball in New York, and her graceful figure can be seen on the streets of Switzerland. With her figure, she lived an extremely extravagant life and spent a lot of money just to make herself happy. In her later years, she began to advocate quitting killing animals and traveled around to spread her thoughts on quitting killing. Later she began to believe in Buddhism.
In 1930, at the age of 48, Lu Bicheng officially converted to Buddhism and became a lay scholar, calling himself "Baolian". From then on, he wrote no poems and devoted himself to the study of Buddhism. After experiencing everything in the world, Lu Bicheng, who had the world in her eyes, was calm and satisfied. On January 24, 1943, Lu Bicheng left the world peacefully and went to the place she longed for, with a will beside her:
If my body is alive or dead, then let me jump into the sea of ??fire and be reduced to ashes. But I don’t want to be blown away by the wind, and I don’t want my ashes to be separated, so please mix my ashes and dough into pills and throw them into the sea. Let me find freedom in the water.
At the age of 60, an extremely beautiful number...