I recently met a new friend who asked me "What do you like?"
Soul torture.
I thought long and hard, and suddenly realized that I don't seem to have any favorite things.
Not like and bitter things are quite a lot, such as going to work, going to work by the LEADER scolded, overtime, overtime by the LEADER scolded, scolded by the LEADER and then continue to work overtime ......
I don't know from when I puffed and deflated and lost the ability to be happy. In the face of such a bitter life, this seems quite normal and abnormal.
I decided to go to the LEADER and take a leave of absence, saying that I wanted to be self-absorbed for a day. Then the LEADER scolded me and granted the leave, but I was still very low.
So I decided to be a fat ass for a day, and I bought chips, coke, and McDonald's ...... Even these didn't seem to taste as good as they used to, and I still wasn't happy.
Then I put down the chips in my hand and started watching a show, which was pretty pointless.
Then I opened the game I had been livering all night last month, and it was tasteless.
Finally, I realized I'd lost the ability to be happy - when was the last time I laughed from the bottom of my heart?
Ah, I've actually become a pleasure-deprived person, how tragic.
Anhedonia is a concept developed by the French psychologist Ribot, and is defined as "an inability to experience the pleasure of one's usual favorite activities, or an inability to pursue, understand, experience, and learn about pleasure.
Simply put, pleasure deficit is an inability to experience pleasure, or a reduced ability to experience pleasure.
It's a lot like the word "bereavement". But some people's mourning is temporary, and when the dust settles, they often recover, and their lost pleasure comes back. But some people's mourning is continuous, and the lost pleasure is hard to recover.
There are many symptoms of loss of pleasure, some are as dead as the walking dead, some have lost the perception of pleasure, and some have become very numb ......
Like a mother who spends all day sunbathing with her children, suddenly realizing that the time spent with her children is no longer enjoyable;
For example, the square dance leader of the
Like a mother who spends all her time with her children and suddenly realizes that her time with them is not as enjoyable as it used to be.
For example, the square dance leader's mother suddenly started to hate dancing and the most dazzling national wind.
What are the pains of life ......
People who are happy are similar, but people who are deprived of pleasure have their own misery.
There are five common types of missing pleasure, see if there is a hit you:
1. Completion of missing pleasure
This kind of people have completed a task, but can not feel the sense of fulfillment and satisfaction from it, the social animal is a typical representative of this kind of group. For example, a Dongzhimen social animal finished today's work, indifference and numbness of the end of the work, back to the home of the West Second Banner, like a work machine without feelings.
Let him a thing, the state is often: beforehand, no waves inside, feel very bored, and the results of the completion of things do not have any expectations. After the completion of things, still feel very bored.
2. Motivated by the lack of pleasure
These people simply lose interest in "doing interesting things", "interesting" seems to be not enough to become their motivation to do things.
Their mentality is very Buddhist, and they have no desire to do anything, even the temptation of "I'll pay for you to eat hot pot" can be rejected without expression.
3. Socialization of the lack of pleasure
These people are more accustomed to being alone, do not want to make friends, and basically insulated from social activities. There is a great overlap between this group and the socially fearful. Socializing not only fails to bring them happiness and satisfaction, but also makes them feel very anxious.
4. Specific music pleasure deficiency
They don't resist listening to music, but they don't find it pleasurable and can't get pleasure from it.
The neuroscience of the brain offers this explanation for the cause of pleasure deficit: there is a reward system in the prefrontal cortex of the human brain, which secretes dopamine to make people feel happy and satisfied. If dopamine is suppressed, the reward system collapses, and people have trouble feeling happy.
Relatedly, pleasure deficit can also be associated with many mental illnesses, including schizophrenia, autism, depression, social phobia, and so on.
Many people will think that pleasure deficit is very similar to depression, but in fact pleasure deficit is just one of the symptoms of depressive disorders and does not label a person as depressed because of it.
It's just that when you find yourself in a situation similar to the one described above, it means that you need to remind yourself at least a little bit that you're unhappy, and it's time to pay attention to your emotions.
But if you really, really want to determine whether you have a problem, whether it's a short-term emotional problem or a disease, you should rely on the expertise of professionals, such as psychotherapists, psychiatrists, and so on.
An article or a test can only give you an emotional "wake-up call", not a "diagnosis". It's like going to the hospital when you're sick, not looking up symptoms online.
The more you look up, the more likely you are to feel like you're all sick - but when you go to the hospital, it's probably just a minor cold that needs more hot water.
Finally, may everyone have the ability to stay happy.