So, a lot of people, can not survive the smoke and fire of life, gradually become greasy, sharp, secular.
Let yourself go, perhaps in a different way, put down some things, there will be a more relaxed, more elegant.
To get rid of the reality of the heavy coat, let yourself easy, you must first do the following:
A: accept things are not what you want
You have to admit: things are not what you want, is the norm in life. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
Who is not young and energetic, to the middle age, have been sharpened by life has lost its edge.
Regardless of how we do all the preparations, carefully laid out plans, can not resist the arrangement of a fate. Some people say that the sign of maturity is to accept the helplessness again and again.
Life is a series of twists and turns, against the odds may be feasible, but things do not go as planned is the norm in life, since it can not be changed, it is accepted.
Believe in the saying, the sky for you to close a door, will open a window. The first thing you need to do is to open the window, and the sun will shine through.
Second, more words will be lost, behavioral degrees.
Liang Shiqiu once said, "The wonderful fun of middle age lies in knowing life quite well, knowing yourself, and thus doing what you can do." Middle-aged people, have a more penetrating understanding of life, more profound sense.
Should gradually understand want to live comfortably, first learn to restrain themselves in language.
It is often said that we learn to speak with a year, but we have to learn to shut up with a lifetime.
Misfortune comes out of the mouth, more words will be lost. Talking too much, it is easy to incur trouble and cause unnecessary trouble for yourself.
For example, mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, is nothing more than a battle of words, the result of the accumulation of time, who and who in the end will have how much deep hatred. But often middle-aged people of all kinds of unhappiness, a lot of it is from the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship.
Wang Yangming once wrote, "More words, more things, more trouble. The moral is in the action, not in the words.
Speaking of people's rights and wrongs is also a lot of words," six sentences, to remind themselves not to speak of people's rights and wrongs, less words to repair the heart. The first is to think about your own faults and not to talk about people's rights and wrongs.
After middle age, keep your mouth shut, don't talk about people's shortcomings, don't talk about people's faults, is a kind of high-level cultivation, is also a kind of wisdom in the world.
Third, nosy, easy to recruit people.
It is a basic cultivation of a person not to interfere with things that have nothing to do with him or her.
In life, there are always some people who like to meddle in other people's private affairs for no reason, thinking that they are helping people to enjoy themselves, but the result is not inviting people to see them, and they also have a stomach of grievances, and they feel that it is a good thing to be treated as a donkey's liver and lungs.
Unbeknownst to them, not taking themselves as outsiders, hard to meddle in other people's affairs, not only is it difficult to get the recognition of others, but also easy to draw fire.
You are not someone else, how do you know her feelings and suffering. Your comments are just your own perception to measure the behavior of others. Especially in family matters, a thousand-year-old problem.
Blindly intervening, not only to waste their own efforts, many times it is easy to end up with a "good heart no good" situation, leading to a fire is also a common thing.
To get along well with others is to respect others, but also to return to a quiet.
The world is not all good intentions will be grateful, and not all sincere, can be replaced by true love.
When you are in your middle age, it is no longer the law of the outside world that binds you, but the rule of the heart.
Manage yourself well, and behave yourself. The second half of life to live in peace, at ease, living comfortably, cozy.
Fourth, do a good job of disconnecting, including spiritual and material.
A person's energy is limited, there is no need to invite too many people into the life. There are three or two confidantes, chatting and drinking tea at leisure is enough.
There is no need to be good to everyone, will be precious time and energy, spent on unworthy people unworthy of things. The material is also.
The more you have, the more you will be burdened by the material things you have.
Even if you have a page, you have to think about how to use it and where to place it.
The most important thing to remember is that you have to lose all of your possessions.
In a timely manner, we can clear away the unsuitable, unsuitable and unnecessary waste items and unpleasant memories that occupy our brain capacity, and empty ourselves in order to be relaxed.
Fifth, the organization of their surroundings
Just like a shower out of the clean and comfortable clothes, will be cleaned up their own homes and offices, but also infected with their own, so that they are refreshed, happy mood, doubling the efficiency.
The same goes for the social environment. Stay away from people and things that consume you, and cut off things with negative energy, so that you can focus on what you like to do.
For example, stay away from the neighbor who likes to talk about everything, the coworker who procrastinates a lot, and the best friend who drags you into ineffective social interactions.
You may not be able to get rid of them completely, and they have all kinds of advantages, so well, storage and organization, the refusal to reject, the catering to cater, the important thing is that you should know what you really want.
Six, at least cultivate a hobby
Everyone is interested in their own things will produce a lot of internal drive.
This hobby, no matter what, square dancing also, chess also line,
As long as it is their favorite, will naturally be willing to spend time and energy to do things on the line.
Because in doing these things, you have endless strength and aggressiveness, you have a clear goal, clear thinking, naturally open-minded, clear, your energy mind is occupied, you will not be in the chicken skin of the small things on the catty, you will not let yourself be tainted with too much smoke and mirrors.
You will be passionate in your favorite things until you are swimming, why not?
The ease of people lies in the relaxation of the heart. Those who live a relaxed life, not because there is no harm in the body, there is no harm in the heart, but there is light in the heart.
Many times, you think the dilemma, but the heart is trapped.
A different direction, a different way of looking at it, often harvest another way of thinking, meet a different landscape.
People to the middle age, there have been some experience in the past, know how to put down, is a kind of wisdom.
The obsession is the shackles of the mind, release is the soul of redemption. Put down the past, in order to embrace tomorrow; unloading obsessions, in order to live easily, harvest happiness.
The road ahead is long, the rest of the life is very expensive, please elegant and calm. The first thing that you need to do is to relax your mind and open your eyes, and then you will be able to see the moon and the mountains and the rivers.