Life is a gamble. Everyone has their own cards, but the cards have different killing power. Some people's cards will be crushed when they are thrown out, while others have cards that can help them become winners. Some people think that a woman's best card is beauty, because it's a time to look good and get more favor.
But beauty is not always there, and it gradually loses its chance to win as we age. It is not easy to rely on looks in the contemporary society where beautiful women are in abundance.
Some people think that the best card a woman can play is money, because money makes the world go round, and as long as there is money, even if no one loves her, a woman can still live happily. However, there is always a day when money is spent. Besides, there are too many people who are richer than you. Money can't bring you full confidence, and it won't really bring you happiness. Those women who think beauty and money are important are still young and don't have much experience and don't really know the world. For women in their forties, beauty and money are not as important as they were when they were young.
01. Personality
Personality is the most valuable asset in life. A woman with good personality won't have too much bad luck and her life won't be too difficult. Sister Fang is one of the best people I know. She never refused to ask for help from her friends, but tried her best to help. Others have accepted her help and treated her well, but they can also help her in turn. , Fang's sister's business was in trouble. Before she could ask for help, her friends came forward when they heard the news. Rich contributed money and effort to help her through the crisis.
If it weren't for her previously accumulated character, she wouldn't have survived the ordeal so well. After this incident, Sister Fang paid more attention to her character, feeling that it was her best card, much more important than anything else. When people interacted with each other, they always put character first. A woman with a good character, no matter how hard it is, can get through it with the help of her friends; a woman with a bad character can only wait for others to look on coldly and fall.
Forty more, the woman's biggest card is not beauty and money, but character. Character is a woman's hardest power and brightest calling card. With the addition of good character, a woman's life will get better and better.
02. Independence? Self-sufficiency
Everyone is a lonely passer-by. No matter how many people around you, some things, some roads, you have to face a person by yourself. Relying on others is always unreliable.
Tong is a very independent woman. Like her name suggests, she is not at all as capable as a man. She didn't place a great deal of importance on being independent until she was forty. After her divorce at forty, she began to value her independence; she used to reach out and take money from her ex-husband. After the divorce, she was on her own. Although she was given a sum of money in the divorce, she was afraid to sit on the sidelines.
Forty is not too late for her to work for a better future. Now Tong has a good job with a decent income. She is alone and her life is a hundred times better than before the divorce. Tong often touches in front of me. She said it was useless to marry well, and it was useless to have more savings in her hand. She had to rely on her own efforts. Only by being independent could she lead a good life.
It's not hard to see that independence is the best calling card for women over forty. If you are still attached to a man at this time, the rest of your life will be miserable.
03, Confidence
Reader Ms. Chen told me that she began to doubt herself when she found out that her husband had betrayed her family. She blamed herself for her husband's mistake. She felt that her poor performance and appearance caused her husband's change of heart. In the midst of these self-doubts, Ms. Chen gradually lost her self-confidence and was reluctant to go out and communicate with others. She locked herself in a narrow space and could not see any light.
While comforting Ms. Chen, I also reminded her that her biggest mistake was her lack of self-confidence. The more she doubted herself, the less she could keep her marriage.
Mrs. Chen did not understand at first. It took her a week to tell me she was going to change. Ms. Chen was a beautiful woman when she was young and had a good foundation. She dressed up a little and was very pretty. In the past few years she had put all her energy into her home and had long since become a yellow face.
Reclaiming her confidence, Chen looks like a different person. She shines brightly and brightens up her husband's eyes. A woman without self-confidence is like a flower in the corner. Because no one appreciates her, she suspects she has no charisma. A confident woman, even in a corner, releases her charms to the fullest. It's okay if no one appreciates her, but she can appreciate herself too. Women in their forties really don't stand a chance in terms of appearance, but many younger women are outmatched in experience and charm. Women should not be presumptuous, to know that self-confidence is a woman's best card, with self-confidence life will be more exciting.