If you think that marriage is just a matter of two people, it only means that you are still simple, or not married. When you really step into marriage, you will realize that running a marriage is much harder than you think. Especially when dealing with various relationships, it is easy to get yourself into a dilemma.
If the man's family is reasonable, the family style is positive, the three views are positive, then even if you really encounter difficult problems, you can be reasoned with, you can discuss the matter, we discuss and solve together.
Fear is afraid of the male family is not reasonable, but also a look of right to moral abduction you. Let you feel that you do not help, is the great sinner. In the long run, you will not be able to resist such mental pressure, and you just want to escape.
Chen Fang was almost divorced from her husband because of these things in her in-laws. She moved back to her mother's house for more than a month before the matter was settled.
The main reason was her own mother-in-law, who has a young son who is only 6 years old.
After Chen Fang married into their family, she felt for a while that her youngest son should be raised by Chen Fang, after all, "elder brother as father, sister-in-law as mother", which is Chen Fang's obligation.
But in this world, where will the sister-in-law should raise the younger brother-in-law's argument? Even if Chen Fang is kind-hearted and filial, she understands the human condition. The mother-in-law is obviously trying to avoid responsibility, using the opportunity to bully her.
Originally, before getting married, Chen Fang had already agreed with her husband that after getting married, the two of them would live together and could not live with their in-laws. And clearly put forward, in the future, the younger brother-in-law of any thing, and their family has nothing to do with, after all, in the future they have to have a child, there is no obligation to support the younger brother-in-law.
The mother-in-law and her husband agreed to a good deal, but after Chen Fang married in, the family's attitude changed immediately.
At first, the mother-in-law used the excuse that she was not feeling well and needed to be taken care of to move from her hometown, and brought her 6-year-old son with her.
Chen Fang naturally did not agree, but her mother-in-law has been in front of his son to play poor, but also said he married a daughter-in-law forget mother. He had no choice but to compromise.
If her son had agreed to it, Chen Fang, as a daughter-in-law, would have become ungrateful if she had not agreed to it.
Chen Fang also did not want to make things too ugly, do not want to let the neighbors say bad things about themselves, bad reputation of her husband, can only agree to live in a period of time, but the body is better, then move away.
Who ever thought, this loose mouth does not matter, mother-in-law and uncle directly not go.
Not even if you do not go, but also let Chen Fang couple is responsible for all of their daily expenses, not only that, the mother-in-law also let them responsible for the little uncle on the kindergarten expenses, said as a brother and sister-in-law, this is what should be.
How did this become necessary? There's no law that says that a brother and sister-in-law have a duty to support their son. The mother-in-law is clearly picking a soft target to pinch, think Chen Fang is easy to bully, simply to get an inch.
Chen Fang was so angry that she couldn't wait to blow them out of the room, and because of them, her life has been a mess for some time now.
We usually go to work already very hard, but also to come back to them to cook, the mother-in-law went out in the evening to dance, come back to wash and go to sleep, the whole thing is to let Chen Fang help with the child. She also said it was for Chen Fang's sake, so that she could learn from experience in advance.
This has clearly touched Chen Fang's bottom line, Chen Fang directly with the mother-in-law showdown, no longer want to say a word of nonsense: "Mom, either you move back to the countryside with your youngest son, or I divorced with your eldest son, you choose one."
Mother-in-law heard her say this, froze, and then loudly scolded her: "Not let you support the little uncle son to go to school? How much did it cost you? You don't even have this kind heart, I really regret letting my son marry you."
Chen Fang didn't want to argue with her and continued, "Yes, it's your bad luck to marry me, I'm not a soft persimmon that you can just pinch. It's not too late for you to regret, I'll divorce your son. I'd like to see what woman would dare to marry into a family like yours."
Mother-in-law was disliked speechless, can only find the son to complain, I did not expect this time the son is not to her, she huffed, "son, your brother is only 6 years old, your daughter-in-law does not raise who to raise?"
The son was obviously impatient: "Mom, whoever gave birth to whoever raised. You in good conscience, we help you still less? But you can't have no bottom line, right? At this rate, we can't possibly have a child, we simply can't save money."
But my mother-in-law is not a reasonable person at all, she does not care about this, she has been cursing her son's unfiliality, saying that she has raised a white-eyed wolf, and that she does not even care about her own brother.
Later, when her mother-in-law refused to leave, Chen Fang honored her words and moved back to her mother's home, and began to prepare for the divorce. Her husband naturally disagreed, and every day he struggled to get back on his feet, begging Chen Fang to give him another chance.
But Chen Fang's condition was only one: "Either you let your mom and your brother move out, and from now on her affairs have nothing to do with us, or else this day, can't be lived, can only leave."
He was forced to compromise, and it took nearly a month to persuade his mother and brother to return to the countryside.
Chen Fang said: "Although my marriage has been preserved for the time being, my relationship with my mother-in-law is considered to be completely knotted, but it doesn't matter, I don't care at all. But if she is a little bit reasonable and has a little bit of sincerity towards me, we will not get to this point between us."
To this end, I would like to remind all mothers-in-law, do not take anything for granted, the daughter-in-law really does not have the obligation to raise the brother-in-law. Whoever gave birth to the child should raise it, and this is the responsibility of parents, not something you can run away from if you want to.
Being able to afford to have a child and not being able to afford to have a child is the most basic part of being an adult.