There are two children at home, a son and a daughter. Naturally get pregnant and have children after marriage. They didn't think so much at that time. This seems a bit natural and logical.
The pain of giving birth, the fatigue of raising children, how can you have a complete sleep after giving birth? Working during the day and having children at night, haha, looking back on the past, I really admire myself!
Looking after children is very tiring, so we need old people. Old people leave their familiar environment and come to big cities, which is very uncomfortable. They had to compromise for the sake of their children. Some people have to be separated from their wives for years. . . . A dutiful child is not as good as his wife's company. But for the sake of their children, how many old people have compromised?
Old people don't take care of their children, so they have to take care of themselves. As a housewife, he has no friends and social circles and revolves around his children every day. Isn't it the yellow-faced woman he doesn't want to face?
Of course, children bring us a lot of happiness, perhaps these happiness is the driving force to support us to persist! There are joys and sorrows in raising children!
Children grow up slowly and help with homework, and chickens fly and dogs jump at home. Our children have strong self-discipline, and we also cultivated some good habits for them during kindergarten. Now primary schools are relatively worry-free, but how many parents are helpless and angry with their children?
How many parents are more anxious and worried than their children when they grow up and face the entrance examination? Seeing those nervous parents outside the examination room must be much more nervous than their own exams. When children grow up, they begin to rebel and commit suicide easily. How many parents have carefully broken their hearts for their children?
The child finally went to college, and when he came back from the holiday, he was partying with all kinds of classmates. Even at home, they keep their mobile phones. At this time, how many children can sit down and chat with their parents and care about their parents?
Look for a job after graduation. At the beginning of work, the pressure on children will definitely be great. Then you will fall in love and get married. You still have parents in your heart. If you have it, you may need money. After all, do you need money to get married and buy a house?
Then, when you have children, you need old people to take care of you. It's ok in a city, but it's even worse when you're not in a city. Looking after the children is no problem. After all, when you are old, you can use some residual heat to make your life meaningful, but it depends on the face of young people. In today's society, many families are headed by women. Of course, it depends on your son's attitude and ability, but your child is still young and under great pressure, and it doesn't matter if you feel sorry for your child.
For example, my husband and my mother-in-law are far away from us, and neither of them is with us. My mother-in-law is old and depends on her grandson, so my children are raised by her. But at that time, my mother-in-law had three 70-and 80-year-old people to serve, and she had to look after her grandson, so she could take her home when the child was young, and she was not so free when she went to school. So my mother-in-law is also very tired when she runs on both sides. Now that the child is older, the mother-in-law has also sent away two old people. My mother-in-law has three children, none of whom are around. The old couple live alone, only 1 1 and spend a few days together during the Spring Festival.
You said that raising children to prevent old age, money, old people don't need children, and the money spent on raising a child from an early age is enough for their own pension. You said accompany, hehe, how many days can I accompany my parents a year like me? Both parents give thousands of dollars a year. We live for three days during the National Day holiday and the Chinese New Year holiday, and we live for one day separately on May Day and the Dragon Boat Festival. Usually the children go to school, and we both go to work on weekends, so we can't go home at all. I usually go back to my hometown during the small holiday, but I still feel that I owe a lot to my children and have never traveled. I want to spend more time with my parents, but the children are growing up. When you have time to spend with your children, they may not need you anymore. This is the contradiction of life!
How about filial piety? Give money, the old man does not lack, accompany. How can young people have time? Buying food and drink, in fact, the elderly are not lacking, but the elderly are happy. This may be what we call filial piety. Some people say that when she is old, she will be close to her. In fact, my mother often says that she will live with her children only when she can't cook and can't take care of herself. She usually lives freely and her neighbors are familiar with her. Maybe many old people think so! Respect them!
Some people may say that people are old and need children to take care of them when they are sick and hospitalized. What I want to say is that my parents won't tell me about minor problems because they are far away, and I have to go to the hospital myself for major problems. At most, I will go to the hospital to take care of them, and I can only give my parents a support.
How many people live in nursing homes when they are old, and are taken care of by nannies or nurses when they are sick? How many fathers and sons turned against each other? I always see the question of whether my daughter is better or my son is better. This is my personal opinion. How many highly educated people choose the Dink family? How many are only children? Can't afford it? Most of them are not. It's just that people have different ideas.
Some time ago, I went to Qilu Hospital for thyroid examination. I saw a 60-year-old man who went to see a doctor alone and fainted. Later, I contacted my family and learned that the old lady had two children, both in Jinan. My daughter has just given birth to a second child, and my son-in-law and son are on business trips in other places. My son still goes abroad and comes back once a year. The old lady and her daughter-in-law live together to see their grandchildren. The little grandson is only over one year old. It was when her daughter-in-law got off work that she went to the hospital for examination and fainted. Finally, the old lady got into a taxi with the help of others, and it was not easy for her daughter-in-law to hold a child over one year old!
Life is too short to eat, drink and be merry. When you are old, sign up for an old-age group, go out for a trip and dance a square dance at night. Don't worry any more. Your heart is endless. Enjoy it!