Marriage for the sake of marriage has been everywhere for five thousand years. Then, in the marriage described as "besieged city" and "grave", what is the current situation of this old-age marriage with great love but no love?
It is very emotional to find some opportunities to enter the most fireworks elderly group, experience various parties, activities and outings, and capture the diversity of this group. Among them, the state of elderly couples in various scenes is the focus of attention. There are old couples who always take care of each other hand in hand, old couples who occasionally hold hands and hate trampling on each other, and old couples who never hold hands and look at each other.
These old couples, it is estimated that they stumbled in the besieged city and got a white head. Did they really walk out of the scenery called "love"? As far as common sense is concerned, responsibility and obligation can produce kindred spirits, which is not love; Sweet and sour * * * When a person lives, they can form family ties, which is not love; Loyalty and sacrifice can produce friendship, but it is still not love; Hormones and hormones are only primitive physiological reactions, not love.
Let's not discuss what love is and what love is, and let's not discuss the blossoming of peach blossoms, because this kind of thing is too short and blind, and it is often just a self-righteous and unclear feeling. Just look at Xiao Hong. This paper only discusses the phenomenon that the old couple's life is not because of love.
Because I am a teacher and head teacher all the year round, there are parents of different stages and generations in a huge team of parents. While educating students, they often worry about their parents and act as psychological counselors for marriage management. Seeing and hearing all kinds of marital status around me, I worry a lot and benefit a lot. Now that I am retired, I have been giving lectures in some communities in Jiangnan and Jiangbei all the year round, and my eyes are more on the same married couple, so I have more thoughts on the marriage management of the elderly.
In Yangzhou New Town, I once took a photo of an old man with his right foot on his knee, patiently massaging his grandmother's legs. The old man is skilled, but the old woman enjoys it calmly. Graceful shade, bench, nature. Many young people are fascinated by the marriage of the old couple in Yangzhou.
Compared with this pair of old couples who have no scruples about showing love, more old couples are serious about each other all their lives, but they don't tie the knot. Grow old together without holding hands, accompanied by dusk.
In the old couple's life, in their eyes and hearts, there is each other. As long as each other can stick to their own obsession, there will be a primitive marriage life and a sense of division of labor between future generations and families. Marriage needs management. Obviously, they are working hard. In this business, there are tolerance, responsibility, patience, deliberate self-convergence and deliberate bottom line connivance. Of course, there is also the basic mutual trust from the long-term accumulation of both sides.
Too many elderly couples are absolutely unwilling to abandon their partners for the sake of their families, children and themselves. No matter how inappropriate, disproportionate and annoying it is, it has been consumed into pebbles in the passage of time. The sun has set, and it may still be there tomorrow. Then, the most beautiful prayer left is self-evident, that is, I only wish each other health and safety. This simplest and most affectionate prayer, put into action, is to care about each other's taboos and try our best to create conditions to meet each other's small demands and make each other happy.
Married elderly couples stick to the marriage that doesn't start with "love" and carry out marriage management seriously. They are equally happy, and they are plain and happy, which is enough. In front of simple dishes on the dining table, when walking, during activities, on the luggage of traveling. Just look at the scarves of aunts dancing in the wind and the smiling faces of grandfathers crowded with vicissitudes.
Poetry cloud:
Together with Sijichun, Prime Minister Bai shouldered the heavy responsibility of guarding each other's home.
Qi Mei in the sunset is the most amiable.