Everyone longs for my youth, and I h
Everyone longs for my youth, and I hope this time will never pass.
In old age, everyone is afraid and unwilling to step into the ranks of the elderly, because it means that life will enter the winter, and the body, appearance and happiness will decline more and more in the future.
Share a 58-year-old elder sister's twilight mood: "I officially retired for four years, and my son didn't understand the happiness of twilight life until he got married."
Unlike everyone's previous cognition, she feels that she is young and has no burden. The most relaxed stage of her life is exactly the following year!
As for the reason? Let's listen together.
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Hello, my name is Bai Wei, and I'm 58 years old. Nearly 60 years old, not dizzy, not blind, not hunched, not shaking hands, healthy and happy, really living a free and happy life.
I belong to the cadre establishment. I retired at 53. Officially retired at the age of 55, and later retired one year ahead of schedule.
Up to now, I have officially retired for four years. Although the salary is much less than when I went to work, I have had a good time in recent years!
Here's my situation. My husband died of illness almost eight years ago, and I never looked for him again.
At that time, Fen's son was 23 years old, graduated from university and found a job. Although the salary was not high at that time, it was basically independent.
My task is to cook for mother and son, and then worry about the hygiene at home. Of course, I had not retired at that time and needed to continue working.
Speaking of which, it's still very busy every day. The same is true of social animals, and no one is spared.
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After retiring, my son was in love at that time, but he was not married. As a mother, I have to prepare a house and a bride price for him.
Finally, my husband and I saved a lot before, paid them a down payment and bought a new house, telling them to repay their mortgage.
When they were getting married four years ago, I prepared a bride price according to our local market, so that the children could successfully complete their lifelong events.
As a mother, I feel that my obligations have been fulfilled. I don't need to worry about my children's married life. I am far away from them, and I am basically too lazy to care what happened between them.
I'm looking for the other half. I'll handle the quarrel or something.
I concentrate on my life. I usually get together with a group of sisters, go out to eat delicious food and travel. I stay at home and raise flowers and grass, which can also cultivate my mood.
In my spare time, I also signed up for painting and arranging flowers, and I found my interest that was lost because I was busy. I think this is the fun of my old age!
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Even if my son and daughter-in-law had children in four years, I didn't fall into the situation where an ordinary old lady took care of her baby after retirement.
Because my daughter-in-law understands me very well, she doesn't want me to take care of her, saying that she let Yue Yue handle it. I didn't stand by. I paid some money to find her a new moon, so that the most detailed things would be handled.
Professionals naturally don't need to question, and my wife is happy. I feel more relaxed than before.
At most, I cook some nutritious soup at home, nourish soup and so on, and then send the children to Doby, so as not to delay her mother-in-law to cultivate her feelings or entertain her grandchildren.
Others say that old age is bitter, tired, painful, humble, helpless and desolate. I don't think these words have much to do with me.
Hours of reading require exams; I want to work hard when I grow up. After I get married and have children, I have to bear the burden of my family. In the previous stage, I never really lived without a burden.
It was not until the last four years of retirement that I really let go of my burden and lived a particularly free and happy life.
This kind of life is what I yearn for most. I'm glad to meet you in my lifetime.
Conclusion:
It's really hard for a woman to live for herself all her life. The stage when you can really live for yourself, except for the stage of living alone before marriage, may only be old age.
But as the lady said, studying and working separately at that time was not completely relaxed and without burden.
As long as I don't have to worry about money after retirement and have no excessive drag from my family and children, I can spend every day in the way I wait. This is the closest way to happiness and freedom.
People's life, once they enter the society, will become "locked in a cage for a long time." They really want to get rid of the shackles and restrictions of the society, but with sufficient material capital, they can find the pleasure and relaxation of returning to nature and freedom.
In this way, old age is not terrible, but full of absorption.
No wonder many young people want to retire early and are full of envy for this group! After all, I have money and leisure. Who doesn't like doing what I want to do?