To say a real thing, my aunt cheated on a man in the year before last, the man and my uncle about the same age. Aunt more than forty years old is a housewife did not go to work, and now the children grew up during the day sometimes play mahjong at night to go out to dance, this is her current state of life is more leisurely.
My uncle is a factory senior maintenance division, salary of 10,000 yuan a month, a month rest two days, basically time is soaked in the factory. My aunt is more indulgent, no one control, they want to do what they do, just because this is too much time to give other boys close to the opportunity.
One night said to go out to play mahjong, I did not think it was with the man to go to the hotel room, my brother to go shopping just happened to be encountered to go back to tell my uncle, (my brother is very worship my uncle, think his father is the most powerful know everything) after a period of time to observe is indeed out of the track, my uncle and my aunt had a big fight, and for a period of time, their family every day, my aunt to write a pledge, my uncle put her cell phone also fell down. My uncle put her cell phone also dropped several. The fact is that the company's business has been in a very good shape for a long time, and the company has been able to get a lot of money out of the company's business.
The woman derailed summed up their own too much free time too much time, there is too much time for her to play not to do their jobs. The mother cheated on the family child or to say, but to be sure that there is evidence. In order to complete the home, in order to pay out of the desperate dad, reasonable and reasonable should be to tell him, he is the home of the most bitter most tired, can not let eat a dumb loss. No matter who derailed to pay the price, pay the price to cherish, live too comfortable may not be a good thing.
Fifi's in-laws are particularly bad.
When my father-in-law was young, he was a village cadre and had a very good future, and two or three village women were ambiguous. They were caught on the spot by other people's husbands, but also made a lawsuit, three years in jail.
Four children, the eldest ten years old, the smallest only seven months. The first time I saw this, I had to go to the hospital to get a prescription for a newborn! After three years, Fifi's father-in-law came back, still can't change that behavior. Since then, the marriage of Fifi's parents-in-law has been a nominal couple, with her mother-in-law going out to work to earn money, the children being taken care of by her mother-in-law's mother-in-law, and her father-in-law not caring about anything but himself. In that era, basically will not be divorced, divorce is a very shameful thing.
When Fifi and her husband met, they found that the relationship between the in-laws was not normal, and everyone knew it. Fei Fei and her husband married, the mother-in-law bluntly told Fei Fei, she has a lover, the father-in-law also has a lover, even intimate behavior and Fei Fei told. In fact, the mother-in-law's idea is to hope that Fifi understand how difficult it was for her back then!
Her mother-in-law is a particularly unreasonable person, she feels that because her father-in-law was first sorry for her when she was young, she is now cheating on her husband, and is not allowed to cheat on him, and often asks her children to control her father-in-law, in fact, she wants her children to teach her father-in-law a lesson, and to beat him up so that she can be happy, but in fact, she is not allowed to treat her father-in-law as a good man, and she is jealous of him.
Fei Fei heart is very angry, derailment is after all a bad thing, and the mother-in-law said very clearly: you and your father-in-law's things our children simply can not be resolved, you and your father-in-law in the future, anyone do not talk about your derailment in front of me, I hope that the two of you to collect a little bit of check, you do not want to face, I have to face.
Later, Fifi's mother-in-law's lover was paralyzed, and there was no communication.
These are the first time I've ever seen a woman in the world who has been in a position of power, and I've never seen her in a position of power, and I've never seen her in a position of power.
Now Fifi's in-laws age after all old, are slowly collected, began to slowly accept each other, but Fifi's face has long been her in-laws lost.
哎，看到这个问题，我真的是一声叹息，无限惆.
The shame is not for the world to see, but I still want to share this with you, so that you can learn from it and refer to it.
My parents are farmers, not working, I have an older sister and younger brother, I work, my parents' spending as well as the big and small things are me to manage, I feel that my parents things, sometimes I can also do the Lord. My father was a bad-tempered man who always fought when he was young, and he fought with my mom all her life when she was young, and my mom suffered from his anger. One day I took my two kids back to my mom's house for the night and I found my dad on the phone with another woman. I had a bad temper too and got into a fight with my dad. From then on, he and I had a feud. He went to my house to make trouble, went to my flat to make trouble, and wanted to beat me up! I don't even dare to go home, I don't dare to go to work! This family is not like a family anymore. Later, my uncle and aunt stepped in, this matter is so ground.
He is now living with that woman in my mom's house, and my mom went to my brother's house. It's been a year now.
Maybe if I had kept one eye open and one eye closed, none of this would have happened.
Maybe, if I didn't pick a fight, I would still have a father now.
Maybe, I should have changed the way I dealt with the problem in the first place, and it wouldn't have happened!
It is a pity that my father is not that sensible and listen to people's advice!
And I, thinking that my provocation, he will listen to me, because for so many years, I pay for my parents, they know my filial piety and gratitude!
But unfortunately! Things are not moving towards our wishes!
So, I would say, if you are in this situation, think twice before you act! We have to think about every outcome, whether it is a result we can afford!
I hope my answer can help you!
I hope my answer can help you!
Thank you for your invitation!
For parents cheating, children should be managed, I know children should be managed. But I don't know how to manage it, because I have not personally encountered it. But I can cite two examples around me, we can discuss together.
One is my husband's relatives, the woman cheated. The woman cheated when the child is still relatively small, the man took into account the child is relatively small, and the two divorce, the impact on the child is relatively large, it has been persuaded the woman to turn back. As a result, the female intensified, derailed into the Ming.
The male side of our family here belongs to the more solid family, the male is also more able to make money. The head of a prairie, and the male is not unaffordable daughter-in-law, finally two people divorced.
After the two divorced, the woman has nothing, originally the woman's derailment object is also a married man. Before also gave the woman some money, and then was cheating on the object of the wife and children to go, for nothing because of the loss of a marriage derailment, they fell nothing.
The woman cheated when the child is relatively small, her children have not advised her, we do not know.
Another is my mother's family relatives, men cheating. The child was also relatively small when he cheated. The main content of their lives in those years was: cheating - catching adultery - quarrel - cheating again - again The main content of their life is: cheating - catching adultery - quarreling - cheating again - and then again - and then again.
Finally, one day, the youngest son of the family could not stand this life, and said their parents: if the two of them go on like this, he will not get married, because it is too embarrassing.
The two finally stopped arguing, but the woman soon found out a very serious disease. After the woman was sick, the man took care of quite well, but after ten years or so, or gone. When the woman left, the man cried very sad, remembered his wife all kinds of good, but it was already too late.
Whether it is from the feelings or rationality, parents derailed, as children, certainly should be managed to avoid the parents to fall deeper, more damage to the family.
But how to manage, I think the first thing is not to quarrel with the parents. The first thing I think is that you should not argue with your parents, because they are still your parents.
Secondly, you can do the work of the cheating party in private.
If this is not possible, the children can go to the third party and do the work of the third party. I think it is better for the children (of course the older ones) or the cheating spouse to go to the third party together to do the work than for the cheating spouse to go to the third party on his or her own.
These are my personal suggestions, we can discuss together about such things to see if there are other better ways.
As an adult child, my personal opinion is that a mother who cheats on her husband should be managed, and if she is not, she may slip into a deeper hole. If she is warned early, it may also pull her out in the deep mire. This question is a bit difficult to answer because Lao Qian has no experience in this area and can only get a deep lesson from those around him.
There is an elementary school near our village, teachers and students only **** 200 people or so, the school director is an old man of nearly 60 years old, the director of this colorful, bold, soon to be retired, and colorful heart is not dead, do not think about the consequences of a young female substitute teacher, chasing after the use of authority, soft and hard, and finally chased into the hand. Which the school teachers also see in the eyes, anxious in the heart, want to persuade and dare not, for fear that the supervisor to settle scores, retaliation. So came up with a brilliant plan, notify the supervisor's family to persuade. Family persuasion, but little effect, the result is that the supervisor got pregnant, the superiors dealt with down, both dismissed, never hired. Harmful, harmful and harmful to themselves, young substitute teachers, forever lost the post, the elderly supervisor, only one year short of retirement, but also lost the retirement generation encounter. Late in life, late in life without a place to live, was scolded for decades of bad examples. If the children at that time to interfere in a strong, so that its old man hanging on the edge of the cliff, turn back to the shore, so as not to commit such a low-level big mistake.
There is also a case where the husband works outside the home all year round, and only comes back once a year at the Chinese New Year, again for half a month each time. Because of the eagerness to earn money, so the wife care, care is not in place, the wife can not withstand the bad man's sugar-coated shells, the results fell in front of the sugar bombs, red apricot wall, hitched to a married man, a long time, the village people know this ugly thing. It is a good thing not out of the door, bad things spread thousands of miles, spread to her children's ears. The two children are very sad, full of tears, persuade the mother not to do so, if my father knows, will certainly kill you, but also said that as long as the mother to reform, no longer recidivism, but also will not tell this matter to Dad.
The result is that the children intervened effectively, persuade the mother to the family first, do not own their own hands to break up this happy home, so with the lover, the adulterer, back to the family, to avoid the breakdown of the family. The gossip always reaches the husband's ears, anxious to forget to take his wife to work together, in order to prevent the family rupture out of the right step.
The old Qian believes that the mother, or father derailment, children's intervention is very necessary, and to be able to, to give, the effect is different.
A: Depends on the situation, not necessarily tube!
Next to my village, there is a woman who looks beautiful, people in middle age, dead husband, children are not too big and not too small, did not remarry, by farming hard to raise them. She has a brother-in-law, teaching in high school, dead wife, also have children, free time, because it is a relative, often help her to take care of the house together, day after day, the two often sleep together, in and out of the pair, both children are in favor of, no one said, around the neighbors also said that this is a good, good match!
The woman derailed, depending on the situation, for the loss of her husband's woman, psychological pain, loneliness and loneliness unlimited, want to remarry and can not afford to have children, everyone aspires to happiness, and an invisible yoke to make it difficult for her, if the derailment, it must be a long time for her to seek, think again and again locked in the sentient beings, do not bother to intervene in the children's why, so that they are happy to go to the bar! If you know the book, encourage them to get married, openly and honestly, and tie the knot for a hundred years! This is also a kind of filial piety!
For those married women cheating, there must be a reason, you can advise!
Personal opinion, can be referred to!
One try not to cheat
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