Lev Tolstoy once said, "Only love can make a marriage sacred, and only a marriage that makes love sacred is a true marriage."
Marriage, for everyone, is sacrosanct. In reality, once one of the man and woman cheats on his or her husband, he or she is bound to attract scorn. However, there was once such a relationship dispute that was unexpected by many people.
Today, national-level screenwriter He Qingkui after marriage and Gao Xiumin cohabited for 12 years, but in the funeral of Gao Xiumin's death, it was He Qingkui and Zhang Yanru's son for her to wear mourning.
He QingkuiHe Qingkui, born in 1948 in Fuyu City, Songyuan City, Jilin Province, with an ancestral home in Wenshang County, Jining City, Shandong Province, is a Chinese mainland screenwriter and a national-level screenwriter.
Once a fisherman on the Songhua River, he later worked as a full-time scriptwriter for the Cultural Bureau of Dongliao County, Jilin Province, before resigning in 1992 to engage in scriptwriting, and formally began writing sketches and TV dramas in 1990. Since 1994, he has created more than 10 works for CCTV, of which he won six first prizes and five second prizes.
He Qingkui is a man who survived the hard times and used to fish on the Songhua River for 20 years. Because his son couldn't work, his father had to beg the head of the village theater troupe to let him perform in the troupe.
Notably, in the troupe, he and another girl sang a traditional Du Ren Renju segment called "Double-locked Mountain". Later, he created a duet that reflected the life of the production team, "Two Scorekeepers," which was so well received that he submitted it to the newspaper and it was actually published. This gave He Qingkui great encouragement and at the same time, he also received 5 yuan for his work.
In April 1992, He Qingkui, who had been working as a scriptwriter in the drama creation room of the Culture Bureau of Dongliao County, Jilin Province, suddenly became a celebrity, and the sketch "Baggage," which he had planned and written, won the first prize in the sketch competition jointly organized by 31 television stations across the country that year. For a while, many famous actors and actresses in the skit world all over the country called He Qingkui and asked him for a book. Her husband was so overwhelmed, Yanru was the first time to see, she sighed repeatedly, years of hard times finally come to an end. During that time, although He Qingkui busy every day, sometimes half a month can not see people, but Zhang Yanru heart is still beautiful.
Gorky once said, "Marriage is the union of two people's spirit, the purpose is to *** with to overcome all the difficulties and hardships of the world."
The emotional feud between He Qingkui, Zhang Yanru and Gao XiuminAt the beginning of the marriage, relatives and friends did not look favorably on the marriage between Zhang Yanru, a countryside youth, and He Qingkui. Although Qingkui was a rural man, he was willing to do only two things: one was fishing, and the other was writing and submitting articles. Every year, He Qingkui had no other income except for a little money he got back from fishing in the Songhua River in the summer. Throughout the winter when the river is closed, Qingkui puts a small table on his bed and keeps writing and submitting articles, but year after year, the articles he writes are like cows in the sea.
Zhang Yanru and He Qingkui have two sons and a daughter, a family of five, relying on Zhang Yanru, a woman farming, the days of the poor out of shape.
Because of this, He Qingkui was in a very difficult situation, as he was unable to get his manuscripts published.
In 1986, with the implementation of the policy of returning young people to the city, Zhang Yanru brought He Qingkui and his three children back to Fuyu County. In contrast, He Qingkui's fortunes took a turn for the worse in 1989, when he took the script for his play "Who's Marrying Whom" to the Fuyu County Folk Art Troupe, but they took a cursory glance at it and returned it to him.
At that time, Gao Xiumin was the deputy director of the Fuyu County Folk Art Troupe, and Qingkui showed her the script. The company's main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers," he said, adding that the company has been working on a number of projects in the past few years. Unexpectedly, this script won the first prize of the province's literary performance. It is also because of this achievement, in 1990, the neighboring Dongliao County Cultural Affairs Bureau to hire He Qingkui to the drama room as a screenwriter, the day finally settled down a little.
Who is Gao Xiumin? It must be mentioned here.
Gao Xiumin is a famous sketch actress and two-person actor in China. She has appeared with Zhao Benshan in sketches and two-member operas for many times. Their representative works include The Water Deliverer, Selling Abductions, the TV series Liu Laogan, and By the Sacred Water Lake. Gao Xiumin's ex-husband, He Qingkui, has also created many classics for Zhao Benshan, from "Yesterday-Today-Tomorrow" to "Paying New Year's Visit".
It must be said that Zhang Yanru still went to the market every day to sell vegetables at that time, but He Qingkui's creativity was unstoppable and he wrote a number of award-winning scripts until his 1992 sketch "Baggage," written by him and starring Gao Xiumin, became an instant hit across the country. Zhang Yanru did not expect to pay more than twenty years of hardship, finally looking forward to the end of the bitter sweet, such as a thunderbolt to hear the old He threw over such a sentence. She sat up all night in tears, unable to think of anything else.
He Qingkui said: "Yanru, I'm sorry to you and the children, but I really can not leave her. Let's get a divorce!" Obviously this her is Gao Xiumin. In my opinion, the reason why He Qingkui and Gao Xiumin came together is mostly because of the career of the day-to-day living together, and gradually produced feelings; and on the contrary, Zhang Yanru, at that time, she felt that she could not help He Qingkui in his career, but instead, is to help him feel at ease to take care of the children at home.
French writer Romain once said, "In marriage, everyone has to pay a price, but also to recover something, which is the law of supply and demand."
Why did Zhang Yanru let her son wear mourning at Gao Xiumin's funeral?As He Qingkui's business grew, he eventually asked his son Shuchun to come along to help. However, a sudden accident in Shuchun disrupted He Qingkui's entire life. In August 2008, Shuchun was killed in a car accident while driving under the influence of alcohol, and even more bizarrely, just 10 days after Shuchun's death, Gao Xiumin died suddenly. Just imagine how depressed He Qingkui was when he lost his son and his lover. And the original Zhang Yanru was immersed in the grief of the loss of his son, suddenly heard the news of Gao Xiumin's death, could not help but cry out in pain.
After that, she let her second son, Shucheng, rushed to Changchun in heavy mourning to send Gao Xiu Min for the last time.
If you let go of He Qingkui earlier, perhaps He Qingkui and Gao Xiumin will be very happy, the three can go back to their own lives, not so entangled in the together.
At that time, at Gao Xiumin's funeral, Zhang Yanru was in tears and said to her effigy once: "Xiumin, in fact, after all these years, I forgave you, love is not guilty of this, how do you go so early ah! In the end I did not really give you the old He, you must be very sorry!"
In the end, the right and wrong disputes of marriage and love, it is hard to say whose problem it is. In my opinion, the reality is that everyone marriage is selfish, originally these three people have been so peaceful **** place, and in fact it is the three bitter people tethered into a dead end, lifelong can not not be relieved.