Actually, Sis is trying to say that reaching our 30s should give our lives more dimension and experimentation. It turns out that whenever we look back, it's always the moments and things that jump off the page that we remember, and that's what gives our lives a little more color, or else it's just like what Romero wrote in Christophe: most people die in their 20s and 30s because after that age, they're just shadows of themselves, and the rest of their lives thereafter are spent in imitation of themselves.
Of course, in your 30s, it's more of a cautionary tale. Because by this time, you've more or less worn leather shoes. Whether to take them off and start dancing again, or wear them and continue to walk, that's the question. But at least, should have to think ahead of their own 40-year-old life, is still not what the God of Song sings, after forty years old listening to the song of the woman is very beautiful.
Before my sister attended a self-growth training, which provides a model for thinking about the eight areas of life, with a time span of three, five or even ten years to think about our life after 40 years old, will be more clear about our current path.
First: the spiritual realm
At 40, we should be able to enjoy the maturity and freedom of our minds. Clouded and unclouded by mundane things.
This requires us to care for ourselves a little more from now on to nourish the temperature of our lives. While rushing around, leave a little time each day, leave a little blank to yourself, look inside and drive away the exhaustion. Whether it's meditation, or meditating, at its core, it's all about leaving a little white space for yourself. You can also start reading some philosophical and psychological books, reserving some spiritual oasis for yourself in the desert of reality. After all, happiness is something that needs to be accumulated slowly.
Second: the field of study
40 years old, our knowledge system should be relatively sound and perfect, should be for the individual, the family, society has its own understanding and judgment, no longer people cloud, no longer emotion over fact. Importantly, it is still important to have the ability and interest in continuous learning, and not to be out of touch with the world.
This requires that in our 30s, we don't just spend our energy on other people, but give ourselves more care, and set aside enough time for ourselves to learn, to explore our interests, and to make enough connections with the world. Don't forget that the breadth of our lives depends on learning to open up. Like my sister, has always been disgusted with drinking, and it is difficult to understand the red wine in the end where the elegance, why not just enroll in a class systematic learning a good (arrogant face).
If you haven't decided what to study, then please at least keep your interest in studying, let yourself try new things, don't resist accepting new information, and don't think it's a waste of time.
Third: the social sphere
At the age of 40, you should have the courage and freedom to say no to things and people you don't like, and you should have the ability and wisdom to choose your own social circle.
This requires us to reconsider our social circle from now on, moderately upgrading and constantly entering the circle of our own interest. Don't forget that if your circle is the same in five years as it is now, it means you haven't changed in these five years.
Fourth: the health field
The 40-year-old body should not function as well as the 30-year-old, so in the 30-year-old, need to invest in the health of ten years later.
This requires us to choose one or two fitness programs that are not too strenuous and can be sustained, such as yoga, Pilates, jogging, speed walking, square dancing (this option is messed up, cover your face), but also requires us to have a regular work and rest, at least to do what I mentioned in the previous article do not stay up all night!
In this way, at least at the age of 40, the face will not be swollen, the body out of shape, will not be selling vegetables aunt called big sister, will not be other people's children called grandma (gosh, sis just think about it to feel the world's deep malice, tears).
Fifth: career field
40 years old should have their favorite career. It can be a hobby that you can devote yourself to on the basis of a stable job, or you can support yourself with your hobby. 40 years old should be able to make judgments with your own experience, resources, vision and height, and there should be young juniors who are willing to follow.
This requires us to face up to our own characteristics and follow our heart to expand our slash from now on. Walking in this world with two legs always gains greater stability than walking on one leg.
Sixth: the family field
At the age of 40, you should be trying to run a happy family, at least towards the goal of a good mother and filial piety. After all, the family is the strongest backing for anything we do.
This requires us to work on building a "growing" family from now on. This is not just empty words. I've read the advice of Luo Zhusiwei's CEO, and I think there are at least two points that we should act on right now:
1. Each member of the family should have a social identity and a personal growth goal outside of the family, and this goal should be free from the interference of the behaviors of the other members.
We can do a good job of managing our own goals before influencing other members of the family.
2. Have a ****same goal based on enhancing the ****same interests of the family, and if there are children, they should also be included within the ****same goal.
This **** with the goal is preferably short-term, in order to play a "timely feedback" immediate effect, will promote the next **** with the goal of development. The goal can be learning or life. For example, family members are required to *** with the participation of 30 minutes of exercise every day, or *** with the development of summer vacation foreign travel strategy, or *** with the viewing of BBS science documentary series. These small *** with the goal, help family members to cooperate and understand each other, is conducive to the cohesion of the intimate relationship between the family.
Seventh: the financial field
40 years old, want to financial freedom, although it is difficult, but at least the asset ration should be perfect, there can be anti-risk fixed assets and flexible mobilization of mobile resources.
This requires that we start now, at least some financial knowledge, first improve the structure of assets, and then gradually fill the amount of assets. Don't forget the power law of financial management that my sister and you have talked about before, and don't ignore the role of compound interest.
Eighth: the field of giving back
40 years of age, should be able to do something to the ability of the community to others to give back to the next generation. This kind of feedback can be financial, can be resources, can also be spiritual. The gift of a rose, hand in hand.
In fact, now there are many platforms and ways to give back to society, as much as possible to give, give back, another way to look at it, but also for us to do their own subtraction, the more we share, the more peace and prosperity in the heart.
These eight areas do not need to be exhaustive. You can choose one or two areas to refine according to your own characteristics, or you can choose more areas to make up for your shortcomings.
At least, after the age of 30, live to understand, far more than indifferent.