Niu Niu has been sent to school by her mother since she was in primary school, rain or shine. But the annual meeting is held on Monday, so you need to go to the company one hour in advance to arrange the venue. In desperation, the mother had to let her father send her daughter to school.
Early in the morning, before dawn, mother got up. She prepared breakfast for her daughter and husband, put her daughter's schoolbag and other items in a conspicuous position on the sofa, and hurried out.
As a result, at noon, my mother received a phone call from the teacher, "Your parents are too careless to bring tableware to their children!" " "It turned out that my daughter forgot to bring a tableware bag. Until lunch time, the teacher had to help her find a plate and a pair of chopsticks temporarily.
When she got home at night, Niu Niu cried for her mother. Her father told her to get up late, so she hurried to school without breakfast and forgot to bring a cup and tableware bag. She hasn't drunk water all day. The mother finally calmed her daughter and felt more at ease sending her baby to school alone.
In fact, in most families in China, the subjects who send their children to school are basically old people and mothers, and fathers rarely appear in their children's schools.
However, it is my father who seldom sends the baby to school. In special circumstances, when the father needs to send the baby to school, the father may be in a hurry, lose everything, and even act like a Buddhist, which makes the child particularly uncomfortable.
1, preparation before going out
From waking children up, washing their faces and brushing their teeth, to sitting at the dinner table for breakfast, mothers are the children's regular alarm clocks, urging them from time to time to let them know that time is pressing.
Dad, on the other hand, is a Buddhist, who may silently pay attention to time and watch his children busy. When it's time to go out, dad will call the child and get ready to go out, whether the child is ready or not.
2, the frequency of things missing
It is a habit for mothers to send their babies. Before going out, they will ask their children to prepare everything in advance. For example, let them check whether the textbooks and stationery in their schoolbags are all together, and then prepare to go out with tableware bags and red scarves.
Dad often lets his children ink, and he rushes to school when time is too late, and the frequency of leaking things is relatively high. For example, when they arrived at the school gate, the father and the child found that neither of them had brought a tableware bag, and the child did not bring a red scarf.
3. Be cautious about sending your baby.
When the mother sends the baby, of course, she will accompany her all the way, send the child to the school gate and watch the child walk into the school gate with her own eyes, so that the mother will leave with confidence. Dad may send the child halfway, meet the child's classmate, and decisively let the child go with the classmate, and he will turn back halfway.
Sometimes, the father just sends the children to the door of the community. Perhaps the child casually said "I can go to school by myself", and the father immediately turned around and went home, not worrying about the child's ability to go to school alone.
4. Communication on the road
On the way to send the baby to school, the mother will start the "loving mother" mode, talk to the child about learning, talk about the truth in life, or say something happy. The way to school is full of warmth and laughter.
But on the way to school, there is almost no language communication. In the eyes of children, dad may be "language is as expensive as oil", and he doesn't even want to talk.
5, the child's state
When a mother sends her baby to school, in order to make the child full of energy all day, she usually encourages her or talks with her child about some happy things, so that the child is in a good state of mind and full of enthusiasm.
However, when children are with their fathers, they lack language exchange and communication, and their emotions are often in a state of calm and no waves, and their emotions are not driven.
6. At the school gate
The mother will send the child to the school gate, and even if she sees the child entering the school gate, she may wait a little longer and talk to the parents around her.
When the father sends the child to the school gate, he will immediately turn around and leave, and will not talk to other parents at all. Dad turned a deaf ear to almost everything except "seeing the baby off" and knew little about schools, parents and children's classes.
There are young readers at home, so sending your baby to school is like an arduous political task. Rain or shine, parents should send their children to school on time every day. Whether the elderly send a baby or parents send a baby, we must ensure the completion of the task of "sending a baby".
Dad's performance of sending the baby to school seems to be "Buddha". In fact, careful consideration is a different experience for children and can cultivate their independence. But for dad, sending the baby to school is a rare parent-child opportunity. More communication with children can effectively enhance parent-child feelings.