In the past, the traditional Chinese marriage, a woman married to the in-laws, means to become a member of the in-laws, the mother-in-law is like a woman's second mom, dedicated to serving the mother-in-law of the woman was naturally praised as a "good daughter-in-law" and "filial piety daughter-in-law".
Today, in the pursuit of equality between men and women, many women still hope that their mothers-in-law can treat them as their own daughters, and that their daughters-in-law can treat them as their own mothers.
It is true that this "mother-daughter" model is an ideal model for mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law.
However, any feelings are mutual, if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can not reach **** knowledge, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law or inevitably become a pair of "enemies".
1, good mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, is always "two-way".
2,The most common mistake in marriage is to force the establishment of a "mother-daughter" relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
In fact, no matter whether it is a young woman just married, or just promoted to mother-in-law of the middle-aged women, at first will want to be able to and each other and harmony ****, as some idol in the happy family, the daughter-in-law on the arm of the mother-in-law to go shopping, the mother-in-law pulling the daughter-in-law's hand to go to the grocery store and square dance.
But the truth is that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can't be as close as the mother-daughter relationship. There's no such thing as a mother-daughter relationship, but once a gap arises between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it's not easy to eliminate.
For example, Ms. Ye mentioned above, Ms. Ye from the beginning to treat her mother-in-law as her own mother, longing for her mother-in-law to treat herself as her own daughter, the initial intention is very beautiful, but the reality is cruel.
But that doesn't mean that mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law can't be "mothers and daughters," and that they must get along badly. The fact is, there is a unique way to get along between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
3, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do not have to do "mother-daughter", each do their jobs in a happier marriage .
Marriage, the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship will be positioned as "mother-daughter", but also the origin of many mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflict.
To this end, some daughters-in-law will feel that her mother-in-law to treat her as a daughter to see, to indulge her, when to get up, what time to go home these and in their own homes as free and easy to be good.
And the mother-in-law will feel that since I have become your second mother, I am entitled to teach you a lesson, you don't do housework, the room is messy, you have to be disciplined.
In the name of "mother and daughter", they interfere in each other's lives, focusing on the little things, and over time, this positioning makes the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law more and more tense.
No regulations can clearly define, after marriage, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law of their respective obligations, so there are always mother-in-law and daughter-in-law unpleasant, but there are also many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can carry clear, good.
The key lies in their ability to play their roles well.
Many women who get married may also find that their mother-in-law is just a mother-in-law and can't pamper them and indulge their bad habits like their own mother.
As a mother-in-law, you should also understand that your daughter-in-law is, after all, your son's wife, and you don't have the right to interfere too much in their lives.
If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can do their jobs, first of all, to respect each other's lives and independent space, and secondly, to be able to put themselves in the position of the family, *** with the family, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be happy to get along.