I think this depends on at what age, at the age of 56, I think self is more important, because half of one's life is over, it's time to enjoy life and do something you want to do, at this age, the children have already started a family and don't need to worry about anything by themselves, so they can choose to go on a driving tour and in their limited time Go for self-realization, do something that interests you, and make yourself feel that this life is worthwhile.
If I were in the stage of having children and elderly people, I would think that the family is more important, the children need to be taken care of, the elderly need to be cared for, not to be able to arbitrarily go to the realization of the self, we need to focus on the family, to take care of the children, nothing to care about the relationship between the parents, to do a filial piety. If I am still in the stage of not having a family, I would think that the self is more important, alone, to live their own happy life, at this time, we can release themselves, want to do what they want to do, want to go wherever they want to go to play where they want to go to play, carefree, while young, while there is no pressure, more of what they want to do, to enjoy their own lives. I am now in this stage, I hope I can do what I want to do, I can go out to travel once a year, and then I can usually buy what I want to buy, and I have some savings in my hand, this is my ideal state of life, and I'm trying to work hard to achieve this goal. I also hope that in my fifties and sixties, my children have already started their own families and have their own businesses, and I can finish what I haven't done, so that I don't have any regrets, and I can have enough money to support my self-driving trips, and I can go to places I haven't been to before, and I can enjoy my old age by dancing with other old ladies every day. So in each stage of life need to do different things, in this each person's choice is also different, want to live in a different way, in the face of choice, we have to consider what we want to live.