--From "The Influence of Mothers"
Strong mothers don't cry about povertyWhen I was a freshman in high school, my mother boiled a packet of eggs and came to see me at school.
It was her first time in the county, and after getting off the bus at the bus station, many local motorcycle drivers came around to solicit business.
Mother said, "I'm a student at the first county high school, so I'll just walk over there."
Those motorcycle drivers see the mother does not take the car, they "kindly" give the mother to point out the way, in their "help", but the distance of a few hundred meters, the mother all the way to walk all the way to ask, around and around for more than an hour to find the school.
In the heat of the day, my mother was holding a bag of eggs, and when she saw me, she was red in the face.
I complained to her, "A motorcycle ride won't cost you a few dollars.
My mother said, "I'm not tired of walking dozens of miles up the mountain at home, so this is nothing, it doesn't cost that much."
But my mother was never cheap when it came to my sister and me.
She most often said to us, "The money that should be spent must be spent."
This is my mother, the pain of poverty she alone to bear, but never complained to their children.
The first thing you need to know is that you are not afraid of being poor, but you are afraid of being poor.
The mother who plays games with her children
When I went to Zhao Nan's house on the weekend, she was playing mobile games with her daughter.
I didn't know what the game was called, except that it was retarded with a big mouth eating squares.
I quietly asked her, "Is it fun?"
What Zhao Nan said next completely changed my view of the game.
Zhao Nan said, "When I play games with Niu Niu, I will set some rules in advance, such as you can only play twice a day, half an hour at a time, you have to stay naughty for a day to play the game, and you have to go to bed right after the game. You will find that as long as you set the rules in advance, children are the most reasonable. That game with the big mouth eating cubes is indeed a bit boring to me, but I still pretend to be serious and break through the levels with her, discussing ways to pass the levels together. In this way I turned from an elder into her comrade-in-arms, into a good friend who solved difficulties with her and celebrated victories together."
Some children are lawless because their parents have no sense of rules themselves.
Some kids are alienated from their parents because the parents have never treated their kids as friends.
Games are not a beast, and good moms not only allow their kids to play them, they participate.
It's a great way to develop your child's sense of rules and bring them closer together, so why not?
A mom with a pattern
We can't expect a square-dancing grandma to produce a ballet-dancing grandson;
nor can we expect a gossiping mom to produce a son with leadership qualities.
The most common things that come out of their mouths are the rice, oil and salt, and the shortcomings of the family;
They can't get away from the small things, and they are stalkers and mincemeat;
They are blindly saving money;
It's now 2017, and some of these moms can even still say things like, "What's the point of going to school, you might as well work for a living sooner". This kind of stupid words.
Mothers who have a pattern tend to look at things more comprehensively, more long-term, and more rationally.
They also gossip, but not in front of their children to tell right and wrong;
They also pay attention to the firewood, rice, oil and salt, but also planning for the future and the distant future;
They are also frugal, but in the children's education and hobbies spend money on the never soft.
The small pattern of the mother does not necessarily raise bad children, but it is also difficult to raise children with success.
Mothers who respect their children
There is a controversial TV program in the UK called "Gifted Kids".
The people on the show are all children, but they all have incredible IQs.
A young boy named Tudor was already reading specialized books when his peers were just getting into chemistry.
He scored the highest marks in the room in the specialized quiz.
But when he got a question wrong, his parents would give him an "are you kidding me" look, ignoring his near-breakdown.
Asked by the host if it was worth it, his mom hesitated for a few seconds and said, "At least we made it to the finals."
She only had eyes for the game.
There are a lot of moms like this who force their unrealized dreams on their kids and never ask them if they want to.
Such a mom doesn't deserve such a wonderful child.
More and more middle-class families are adopting a "free-range" policy for their children - respecting their natural instincts, while keeping them healthy and not violating the law or morality.
Every child is unique, and the more they grow up in a free family environment, the more they can find their own interests and make a career out of it.
It is sad that some children are flowers and their parents want them to grow into trees.
You can be a great mother
The American thinker Ralph Waldo Emerson said that the kind of person a child ultimately becomes depends largely on the quality of the love, companionship, and role modeling he receives from his first educator.
The family is the first school in which a child's character is shaped, and the mother is the child's first teacher.
A good mother respects her children's hobbies, increases their insights, becomes friends with them, and teaches them to be strong.
A woman's greatest happiness is not necessarily to raise a good child,
but the woman who can raise a good child,
must be a great mother.