My husband and I have been married for a year, after marriage has been and in-laws live together, we each have their own business, in-laws are not very old, is still working, because of the distance from the weekdays do not go home, said too far, back and forth inconvenient, only on weekends to come back. The only person at home on weekdays is the mother-in-law.
On weekdays, my mother-in-law does not have any hobbies, she likes to dance, afraid of her old man alone in the house is boring, I often buy her dancing CD-ROM, so that she can be at home to move their muscles.
Since I married my husband, my mother-in-law, although she stays at home every day, has never made a meal at home, sometimes I work overtime in the company, I ate at the company, and then came home and asked my mother-in-law what she ate for dinner, she always said that she ate at home cooking noodles or ate at the neighbor's house, I told her that if I didn't cook at home, then I would go to the outside world to eat, but she always said that she would go to the outside world to eat, and what a waste of money it! I'm sure I can understand your mother-in-law, after all, she's from a hard place.
Hearing her say that, I heart also quite self-blame, her old man to enjoy the blessing of the time, I did not take good care of her, since then, no matter how late, I will call my mother-in-law that will go home to eat, after all, long time to eat noodles, too no nutrition, my mother-in-law's body will not be able to eat.
Later I was pregnant, my husband asked me to quit my job and stay at home, at that time, my heart did not agree, but I thought we were not at home at noon, my mother-in-law often eat at the neighbor's house, or else I do not cook, I feel bad, if I stay at home to stay at home, I can take care of my mother-in-law, and also feel at ease at home to stay, so they agreed to do so.
Usually, I am used to busy work, and I feel that there is nothing to do during the waiting period, my mother-in-law is not at home all day and night, she went out to play mahjong, and her old friends organized a dance troupe, and the housework is cleaned up by me, and three meals a day, I do, and only at mealtimes, my mother-in-law will go home, which I think is nothing, after all, the elderly have an interest in good love! It's really not easy, and I'm very supportive of her.
In my pregnancy more than four months, that night, I was at home washing dishes, usually mother-in-law went to the square dance at night, but that day she stayed at home, and her husband in the living room to talk, I vaguely heard my mother-in-law said the child's business, out of curiosity, put down the hands of the work, and quietly went to the kitchen door to listen to the gap.
Only heard the mother-in-law said to her husband: "You let your wife to check, if it is a boy, then stay, is a girl, then give up, the girl is the future is married, I do not want to marry her in-laws are not good, then go back to her mother's home to cry." I heard do not believe their ears, the bowl held in the hand almost fell, usually so good to the mother-in-law, she does not take me as her family, tears just can not stop flowing, but do not dare to cry out for fear that they found.
Husband heard this and said angrily, "Mom, you're being patriarchal, and I strongly disagree with you. If you are going to be like this, you don't want grandchildren." When I heard my husband say this, I was touched in my heart that he didn't take my mother-in-law's side, but was always by my side to support me.
Since that time, my mother-in-law and I used to talk about everything, but now when I think of that conversation, there is a layer of separation in my heart, and I don't want to talk to her about anything, and I love my husband even more, and he especially understands me, and that's what makes me feel that I have a meaning in this family.
Life is like this, you pay how much, will get how much, you can for you love people, bear a lot of things, but you will feel that all that is worth it.
Does your mother-in-law do this? How do you guys handle it when it happens to you?