On campus, this group of thirteen or fourteen year old boys and girls, love to play, bold and open, I like their pretty little face on the bright smile, like their classroom under the fresh and beautiful sensitive body, like them to talk about the sky when the sky's the limit of the whimsical. In them, all the glory of youth, we have also had. So I always want to smile when I look at them. As a teacher, I often like to tell them how much I love them, and in response they mostly trust me. But the best of real life is not a fairy tale. There is never a shortage of students in the classroom who give teachers a headache. The worst case scenario is like Qian Zhongshu's Siege, where those who live in the city always want to get out of the city, and my kids are just as attracted to the world outside the school.
In their eyes, sitting in the classroom, facing the same teachers every day, the unchanging schedule, the uninspired classroom, they are so bored. And outside, outside the territory is so big, waiting for them to discover, to explore, to create; outside the scenery is so beautiful, stores are lined up, the lights are flowing overflowing color; outside the life is so free and easy, even people look extra cool crazy bully drag.
The first time a student dropped out of school, is in the first year, is a little girl, she does not love to study, the results are not very good, usually love to talk, love to mix with some of the people who do not read, and often the big mistakes do not make small mistakes, but I have always felt that she is not the most tricky class, I did not expect her to be the first one to not read it because it is the first time I encountered this kind of thing, inexperienced, I am as a fly on the wall, and I have to go through the process of learning to read. I was like a fly on the wall. I asked a large number of veteran teachers for advice, asked the section chief what to do, called her parents to ask about the situation, and looked for her to chat with her to understand the idea of ...... I always feel that not graduating from junior high school is a matter of regret, but unfortunately, in the end, I still couldn't persuade her back. Later, her parents said to me, the child really can not read and do not want to read, and later have the opportunity to consider sending her to learn computer, I know that this is about the words of the excuse me, her family of three or four children, parents do not have the energy to take care of her. Then later, the second year of junior high school to be examined, I contacted her and asked her to come back to the test, she did not say, parents replied on behalf of: Forget it, the knowledge of the early have forgotten all. I know, she is now working in the uncle's store, the salary is not high, but for her absolutely enough to spend. Now she avoids me, do not want to contact me, I really do not know ten years later, she will regret today's choice.
The second time I met the dropout, in the second year, still a little girl, people are very beautiful. The girl's family is very bad, is a typical migrant workers, in order to save money, the family crowded in a temporary build up, the small cottage, the father disabled domestic violence bad temper, the mother is a cleaner weak bully. Her learning foundation is very poor, childhood parents did not play a role in helping what, elementary school habits are very bad, and even stole from the teacher. Because of the wind, many people in our class rejected to be with her. I talked to her many times, and it was hard for me to enter her world. Because her foundation was so poor and she was still not good at studying, I told her that doing more work was also contributing to the class, and that everyone would see the change in you. Middle school was indeed a new beginning, she made new friends and her first year went unexpectedly well. Then someone lost a hundred dollars and she was the first one to be suspected because of her previous convictions, and to this day I still remember how aggrieved she looked.
That year, my little girl used to tell me that of the teachers, I was the first to be so nice to her, but, in the end, I couldn't keep her. Before I could visit her home, she ran away from home. That time, I realized that her family was poor, that her mother didn't stop her father's violence against her, and that she wore her winter school uniform and long hair in the hot summer to hide the scars on her body and face. I approached her, I approached her mom and dad, I approached the section leader, and we talked all afternoon that day and finally got a promise from her dad that he would never hit her again. I breathed a sigh of relief, but just over a month after I thought it was finally okay, she ran away from home again.
It turns out that the first time she ran away from home, she met a boy at her friend's place. The lack of love and simple little girl, fell particularly fast, he gave her to buy a cell phone, give her money to spend, coax her happy. Then her parents found out, ordered her to break up and locked her up, and she ran away. This time she stayed at the boy's house.
And then, she could not stay in school, she learned to make up, learned to spend money on pleasure, although the boy outside is just a 17 or 18 year old wage earner, no culture, no character, the ability to be that way, most of my classmates and I think that it is difficult to see the future of her and him, but that different life is so attractive to her, all the people who prevented her from running out of the house are wrong! ......
With the first and second, there is a third and fourth do not want to study, I asked them why, I heard the most is to feel that the study is useless, not as good as to go out to work.
I asked him, what can you do? A lot of people are dumbfounded. They do not actually have a plan for their own life, and there is no direction. Maybe they can leave school and have a good life, they can go to the store, they can go to work as a waiter, they can go to the construction site, people who are willing to make money and really want to work can always find a job, and it seems that they have a lot of choices.
But you know what, you go out and make two or three thousand dollars, you think it's a lot, but accordingly you think about the inputs and outputs? This kind of work is not much room for personal growth, the wage is basically fixed, the monthly working time is long, rest time is only two or three days, even if one day you change the work, can choose, still similar treatment, you are willing to live like this for the rest of your life?
Yes, I believe in opportunity, I believe in success, but for ordinary us, that's really too little too difficult. When one day you really grow up, will you regret it? After having a family, do you think you can take care of a family?
Children, the outside world seems to be very big, very beautiful, very rich and wonderful, but it is not now you can control, treat yourself well in the future, please do not leave the school easily, we always say that knowledge changes destiny, it is a certain reason, now reading is not able to bring you money, bring the status, but it will affect you in the future, where to dance, and with whom to dance square dance.
We have a lot of people in the world who are not in the same boat.
We are in the campus, not only in the acquisition of knowledge is also in the sharpening of their own, to develop their own.
My dear children, please adhere to, now the study is certainly boring, but in the process, you will always harvest something, when you one day look back today, you will find that fortunately did not leave easily, the world outside actually does not look so beautiful.