Behind the relaxed conversation, the phenomenon of the empty nest elderly but had to cause us to think y.
After the retirement of the elderly, gradually away from the social life, all day can only cook, walk, good health can also be in the dinner after jumping a square dance. At first glance, the life of the elderly is also calm and peaceful, young children but often ignore the elderly long-term family warmth caused by the emotional vacancy.
I remember a public service announcement, the old man at home to go out to work for his son and go to school to prepare dinner for his grandson. The phone rang several times, daughter-in-law and granddaughter called to inform the evening not to come back to dinner. The old man ends up lying alone on the couch, chanting, "Busy, busy is good". And finally, the advertising slogan that I still remember: "Don't let your parents feel lonely". Unfortunately, the ad's well-intentioned reminder became a reflection of reality.
This was the case in my family. My grandmother, who was already over 80 years old, could no longer understand the new things that were happening in her life nowadays, and the family members who accompanied her were inevitably tired of explaining things over and over again, and their tone of voice was more than a little reproachful. Under these circumstances, Grandma gradually became less inclined to talk to the younger generation and sat silently on the sofa watching TV. Her happiest activity every day was to go to the yard in the afternoon to play mahjong with a group of old men and women. This creates a paradox where one's loved ones instead become apathetic, while those closest to her are one's neighbors.
The family's indifference eventually took its toll. Due to the long-term lack of family care and love, not feel the warmth of the family, in a certain contact with the health care promoter, the grandmother fell into a scam, but in the last minute by the family found in time and stopped.
The development of today's society is ever-changing, the young people in the big city often can not care about the home of the retired parents, at best, can only be in every weekend night to give home a phone call, reported a safe, warm, but can not be accompanied by their parents when they need to be. 80 and even 90 after the family structure of 421 even more heavy in the situation: the young couple need to take care of the four retired elderly, both in terms of money and energy, but also to take care of the elderly. Both in terms of money and energy are overburdened, in the past the elderly hospitalization of the whole family to take care of the scene no longer exists. Traditional Chinese people have a desire to have children and grandchildren, but the parents of the post-80s and post-90s will have to face an empty home.
The imperfections of the social security system have exacerbated the situation to some extent. In people's imagination, there are more elderly people in welfare institutions, and each elderly person can always find someone to chat and play cards to pass the time, as well as community volunteers and staff to prepare three meals a day for the elderly. In reality, however, the infrastructure of welfare homes is often poor, with no heating in winter and no air conditioning in summer, and news of abuse of the elderly by caregivers breaks from time to time. This, coupled with the traditional thinking of the elderly, has led to the fact that not many elderly people actually go to welfare homes. This is why the old man died at home for a long time no one found, until the only son home to visit relatives only to find that his father has died of tragedy.
Each generation has its own destiny, and the parents of the post-80s will usher in a new era of old age, where the elderly will rely more on the power of society than on the power of the family to care for the elderly, and where community organizations and community hospitals will, to a certain extent, replace the family's functions, and where the children in the distant cities will not be able to play a real-time role as an emotional support. In the context of the rapid transformation of society, the elderly who have long been separated from society will also have to take a hobbling step Yu Yu forward.
In any case, everyone will have to grow old, and now the rickety old people will be just as vigorous in their own time, and the young people can't forget about their youthful contributions when they are old.
Young friends, give your parents a call when you are free, don't let your parents feel lonely.